coogar:

99% of nigeria's problem are not spiritual!
if nigerians take their lives in their hands, there would be less stuff to worry about. the time to pray is over, christians and muslims should come together and march to abuja and demand better lives - instead of camping at the redemption camp for hours praying for a country that's ruled by nonentities!

Sisi_Kill: A Handsome writer's experience with Mental Illness

omo_to_dun:

Haven't you guys prayed enough? Why do Nigerians always portray God as evil? Nigerians have been praying for over half a century and, still, God hasn't answered our prayers. The problem is not God; the problem is us. Until we protest and claim what is rightly ours, God will not help us. Has God ever come down to ever help anyone?

A careful observation of every great country in the world will show us that they arrived at their destination through hard-work and consistency and accountability, not praying to and disturbing God 24-7. If it takes more than 50 years for God to answer our prayers, shouldn't that be a sign that we are doing something wrong? This mentality is pervasive in the black communities all over the world. Even African Americans pray day and night for God to change their situation and, yet, they are still at the bottom of the socioeconomic ladder. God has given us hands, legs, and brains; we need to start using them!

omo_to_dun:

Haven't you guys prayed enough? Why do Nigerians always portray God as evil? Nigerians have been praying for over half a century and, still, God hasn't answered our prayers. The problem is not God; the problem is us. Until we protest and claim what is rightly ours, God will not help us. Has God ever come down to ever help anyone?

Look at every great country in the world. They arrived at their destination through hard-work, not praying to and disturbing God 24-7. If it takes more than 50 years for God to answer our prayers, shouldn't that be a sign that we are doing something wrong? This mentality is pervasive in the black communities all over the world. Even African Americans pray day and night for God to change their situation and, yet, they are still at the bottom of the socioeconomic ladder. God has given us hands, legs, and brains; we need to start using them!

Sisi_Kill: A Handsome writer's experience with Mental Illness

. . .. . .shouldn't that be the Title of this thread?!!

Aiight, all jokes apart. . .OP, nice write up and nice of you to want to help but I think your mistake is in thinking showing "Love and Care" can cure mental illness. There IS a reason why there are professionals. . .doctors who specialize in this. I mean this is like taking you car to a caterer and wondering why dust from flour comes out of the exhaust.

I think you misunderstand the part of Rayo's post you quoted, she ain't saying try to cure them, she is saying understand they are SICK and often times they can't help their behavior.

omo_to_dun:
I'm an American and I am scared of neither protests nor gun shots, for I have been in many protests wherein many gun shots were fired; those experiences didn't deter me. In America, we get shiit done because we do shiit, not because we pray to God. When the Egyptians protested, no one went on a 5 storey building and screamed to others to start protesting; that would simply be idiiotic. Instead, they used the power of the social media and their resolve to overthrow their government.

The difference between Nigerians and Egyptians is that the former are simply COWARDS. That is what you lots are: a bunch of cowards who'd rather stay indoors to pray to God while you let your problems overpower you. Did the Muslims in the Arab world rely only on prayers? In the course of trying to effect change, so many of them died and so many of them were wounded. Nigerians will never put themselves through such an ordeal because they are cowards. My great-grandfather said that only prayers could change Nigeria. My grandfather said the same. And so did my father. Thankfully I will not pass such a message across to my children; it ends here. Only a Nigerian will pray day and night in preparation for an exam, or when searching for a job, or when looking for a spouse, etc.

It has been ingrained into our psyche that we are powerless, that our destiny lies in God's hands, and that we cannot amount to anything without wailing and gnashing our teeth during intensive prayer sessions. Have you forgotten that Christianity and Islam are foreign religions; before these religions were forced down our throats, weren't we living? Weren't we preposterous?

The ancient Egyptians were a civilized people and they did not serve Jehovah. So how did they become a world power---at the time---without prayers?

Rex123: I understand how you feel... I have gone thru similar experience and it wasn't funny at all. One sunday evening, I decided to take a stroll, as I was walking down the street of my neighbourhood one mad man approached me, held my shirt and accused me of sleeping with his wife. He beat and spat at me. It was the intervention of some area boys that saved me. Now me and mad man no dey jam for road o.

omo_to_dun:
I'm an American and I am scared of neither protests nor gun shots, for I have been in many protests wherein many gun shots were fired; those experiences didn't deter me. In America, we get shiit done because we do shiit, not because we pray to God. When the Egyptians protested, no one went on a 5 storey building and screamed to others to start protesting; that would simply be idiiotic. Instead, they used the power of the social media and their resolve to overthrow their government.

The difference between Nigerians and Egyptians is that the former are simply COWARDS. That is what you lots are: a bunch of cowards who'd rather stay indoors to pray to God while you let your problems overpower you. Did the Muslims in the Arab world rely only on prayers? In the course of trying to effect change, so many of them died and so many of them were wounded. Nigerians will never put themselves through such an ordeal because they are cowards. My great-grandfather said that only prayers could change Nigeria. My grandfather said the same. And so did my father. Thankfully I will not pass such a message across to my children; it ends here. Only a Nigerian will pray day and night in preparation for an exam, or when searching for a job, or when looking for a spouse, etc.

It has been ingrained into our psyche that we are powerless, that our destiny lies in God's hands, and that we cannot amount to anything without wailing and gnashing our teeth during intensive prayer sessions. Have you forgotten that Christianity and Islam are foreign religions; before these religions were forced down our throats, weren't we living? Weren't we preposterous?

The ancient Egyptians were a civilized people and they did not serve Jehovah. So how did they become a world power---at the time---without prayers?

Excellent statement. That is the biggest issue with Nigeria, many folks are so blinded by religion that they just refuse to help themselves. You can't just sit down and say the prayer against bribery and corruption while you do nothing. It doesn't work like that. The average Nigerian thinks it is best to leave everything to God. Wtf? He gave you the hands, brain, voice and resources to make your life better, why would you leave everything to him?

It's not actually by going to church every day and speaking in tongues, it's about taking action. Do what you can before leaving the rest to him.

And then, there are those silly Nigerian movies that don't even help...mschew!!

Back at the office, the only question I kept hearing was, "Wetin connect you and that mad man?"
Terribly embarrassing; I got a three-day work leave to enable me
treat myself.

Eventually, I was persuaded to drop all charges by a police women at
the Bar beach station who told me that Okara had been crying profusely
since he arrived the cell; telling anyone who cares to listen that he
nearly murdered the only true friend he has ever had in Lagos.

This experience seriously traumatised me and from that day on, I hated
anyone with any visible sign of mental illness-I no even wan know. If I
met anyone and I noticed any sign of BPD similar to 'Okara's, I avoided
such a person like a plague. As a matter of fact, my inability to
accommodate anyone with mental illness became a mental illness on its
own-and I’m still battling with that phobia. I guess this is why I decided
to write this lengthy response to your post. #therapeutic
After many years of reflection, I’m beginning to think that perhaps
Okara was right after all and I was indeed part of his problem. Instead
of trying to ‘clean up’ Okara and make him 'civilized’, I should have
encouraged him to seek professional help. But as a typical Nigerian, I
still say to myself, na me born am? Make him family people worry jare.

TheRealMrStan:

After many years of reflection, I’m beginning to think that perhaps Okara was right after all and I was indeed part of his problem. Instead of trying to ‘clean up’ Okara and make him 'civilized’, I should have encouraged him to seek professional help. But as a typical Nigerian, I still say to myself, na me born am? Make him family people worry jare.

http://mrstanleynwabia..com/2013/03/dearadebola-rayo-myphobia-for-people.html

pekelepekele: [b]What baffles me about Adebola Rayo case was that she never mentioned anything like looking for spiritual help that alone truly prove that she is suffering from a spiritual problem.

Let me break it down a little if there is any particular fellow suffering from a powerful demonic attack it always end up affecting SUCH PERSON'S MIND AND NOT THE BRAIN. For every human being to live peacefully it is from your mind and if anyone will live the opposite it is also from the mind.

Example one can be rich and still be feeling poor if he won't stop looking at the people at the top and understand that there is time for everything and also that you won't archive anything God is not willing to give to you.

The signs anyone suffering from a demonic attacks are

HAVING AN UNSETTLED MIND people always end up tagging it as Brain problem but the fact about it is that anything that affects your MIND will affect everything about you. which means if you notice your mind have not being stable for couple of days quickly seek for spiritual help and open up to people before it degenerates to something serious.

An unsettled mind is a serious problem it won't resolve itself if you don't quickly seek for help in fact the demon is so strong that it won't want to get out of anyone suffering from such problem until it claims the person's life and then jump into another person.

other signs you will be experiencing if you are having an Unsettled Mind you won't feel like going to churches or mosques. or lets say going for a while and then tagging the pastors or imams at the churches or mosques you visited as fraudsters or other evil names and another is that such people always end up fighting their closest friends which is anybody trying to help them out of their problem.


Why is because the demon inside of them won't want to get out of them ., This demon will always make them give silly excuses and always protect them from evil things happening to other people so that it can stay in such person's life till it accomplish the mission which is CLAIMING THE PERSON'S LIFE most times through a suicidal act and another one is that most people with mental illness don't fall ill easily because that demon won't want them to fall sick so that he or she won't visit a hospital and that way their won't be a solution to the problem

& it's this same spirit that will be telling them not to let people know what is going on with them because people will mock him or her . If another person even try to ask her what is really wrong with such fellow . He won't be able to explain clearly

I have attended a pastoral college before that is how I know all these things.

In general if Adebola Rayo and any other suffering from this kind of problem can seek for spiritual help they will be healed and if anyone here think he or she has a problem once that problem is still letting you go to mosques or churches that is not a strong problem it will be solved very soon.

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Billyonaire: Dont you think you need help |?

As in ennnn !

I was just going to ask him same, not until I saw ur own question

naijathings: my phobia for people with body odour..

Rooneyboy: Interesting one, we've go an alarming rate of mentally unstable people in our midst in Nigeria .

*most places u get to find them , eateries, churches, and buses*
- - - - - - and ofcourse they do have one thing in common !
Always wanting to communicate.

Oftentimes they are usually well dressed without any physical trace of insanity, not until u engage them in their desired conversation.

19naia: the ones who breakdown AND FALL BY THE WAY SIDE OF THE RAT RACE ARE ONLY THE SYMPTOM OF THE DISEASE OF MENTAL ILLNESS.. THE REAL DISEASE IS SOURCED IN THE ONES STILL GOING STRONG IN THE WAYS AND FORMS OF SOCIALIZING ONE ANOTHER AMID THE WORLD AND ALL ITS RESOURCES AND PITFALLS....tHE LEAST OF OUR WORRYS IS FOR THE ONES WHO NO LONGER FUNCTION WELL IN AN INSANE SYSTEM WE TRY TO PROJECT AS NORMAL....THE REAL WORRY IS STEADILY COMING TO A HEAD WHERE NO ONE ON EARTH WILL ESCAPE THE SYPMTOMS AND BE LUCKY TO SURVIVE WHILE WE LOOK BACK AND SEE THE MAJESTIC PROPHECY IN THE WAYS OF THE ONES WE MISTOOK FOR MENTALLY ILL.....wRECKLESS PROFITEERING WITHOUT THE REGARD FOR THE ENVORONMENT AND OUR NEED FOR NATURAL GROWTH AND HABITAT,WRECKLESS PROFITEERING WITHOUT REGARD FOR ONE ANOTHERS WELL BEING AS EVERY HUMAN ON EARTH IS EQUAL IN NEEDS AND CONCERN,WRECKLESS PROFITEERING WITHOUT REGARD FOR ACCOUNTABILITY IN WHOLE AND IN TRUTH WHILE INCLUDING THE REAL SOCIAL EFFECTS OF HOW WE SOCIALIZE WORLD ECONOMICS AND DEVELOPMENT........tHERE IN LIES THE AGE OLD PROBLEM STEADILY GROWING WHERE EVEN THE MENTAL HEALTH CARE AGENDA IS AN INDUSTRY IN MANY COUNTRIES WHERE IT IS EXPLOITED BY PROFITEERING...tHE WORST MENTAL ILLNESS IS IN THE PERSPECTIVES WE VIEW THE WORLD AND OTHERS WITH, AND THE SUBSEQUENT WAYS WE ACT ACCORDING TO OUR PERSPECTIVES REGARDLESS OF IF WE ARE WISE ENOUGH TO KNOW TRUTH DEEPLY

Billyonaire: Dont you think you need help |?

pekelepekele:

You mean she shouldn't seek for spiritual assistance? Sisi kill do you want to kill that sisi ni?

coogar:

99% of nigeria's problem are not spiritual!
if nigerians take their lives in their hands, there would be less stuff to worry about. the time to pray is over, christians and muslims should come together and march to abuja and demand better lives - instead of camping at the redemption camp for hours praying for a country that's ruled by nonentities!