We all have heard and read about the various signs that indicate whether or not your partner loves you. But how about figuring out you own feelings?
Often you may date a person or even be in a relationship without realising that you have grown out of it. Sometimes you don't want to be the one to break up, or you may just be wary of rocking the boat. But how committed are you? Are you still looking out for your Mr Right/Miss Perfect, while your partner is just your 'back up'?

The truth is you know you're not in love when..

1. You prefer to sms rather than call or meet your partner-
If you are interested in your partner you will take out the time needed to meet your boyfriend/girlfriend no matter how busy you are. If you keep finding a random file more important than your partner then you should figure out if you really want to be in a relationship.
2. He/she is your 'back up'-
It works in movies, but not in real life. You really can't be into a person if he/she isn't your 'number one' priority. If you were to find you Mr Right/Miss Perfect there's no way you will pick the person you are dating over him/her. You should remember that no one like to be the second fiddle.
3. Break a date-
If you can't make it for a date because your neighbour's car got spoiled or because you have to clean your room, then you need to sort out your thoughts. You can't cancel your date because your heart isn't into it. That's really unfair to the other person. When you break a date to be with your friends or family, it only means that you are in their relationship probably because you don't want to be single. The moment you find something or someone more interesting you are going to dump the other person.
4. You are okay with getting 'naughty'-
If you are okay with flirting with others beyond a certain boundary behind your partner's then you really need to rethink. Why not be single rather than cheating on someone?
5. Your friends don't know your girlfriend/boyfriend-
We live in an age where friends are our family, so it's only natural that you want their approval when you start seeing someone. However, if you find yourself looking for excuses to avoid introducing your beau to your buddies it only means that you aren't sure about him/her yourself. I'm not saying that you need to introduce your guy/girl to your friends immediately, but if you are reluctant to do so even after six months then you are definitely not sure about your feelings.
6. You are always ready to fight-
If you exaggerate a situation and pick up a fight with your boyfriend/girlfriend over it, itmeans you want out of the relationship but don't have the guts to say so. Anything from the way he folds clothes to the way she arranges flowers can irritate you. You are hoping that your partner asks you to break up the relationship.
7. You are overtly critical of him/her-
Everything your partner does embarrasses you. 'Stop laughing so loudly' or 'You look ridiculous in that shirt' — if these are the kind of statements you find yourself using too often then you don't really want to be with him/her. This seems to be your ploy to get him/her to argue with you. However, youshould realise that a few mean words can hurt someone's self confidence.
8. You are emotionally detached-
Whether it's his/her promotion or new job, you merely smile and then talk about yourself. If you are more worried about your friend's cold and cough than him/her then you really have something to worry about.

"Facing reality is better than hidding on the shadow of lie" stop deceiving yourself.

tank yu!