dowry is still d bomb.once i pay, shes mine 4 life.
and when i get tired i dump or sell her out

It should be abolished although not by any law but by individual parent, they should look far into the future and see beyond a common mere tradition that brings about controversy in views and ideas. You still have more to benefit from the union than bride price, your grandchildren, the peace and happiness of your daughter and the respect you earn from your inlaw. Anyways as for me I'm ready to pay any amount to have my girl signed sealed and deliever.

It's been abused, but still, it emphasizes the role of the man in his family.

I support bride price practice. I don't see anything wrong with the practice itself.

But shouldnt there be a limit on what to pay? Supposing the parents of the bride insist on 5 million naira as the bride price, what do you do?

Well, I'm not sure about other groups of people in Nigeria, but for Igbo people, the price is never set. There also is no standard amount, because it differs from region to region, and even from tribe to tribe, and even from clan to clan, and even family to family in Igboland. It can also be negotiated (from what I know). I also know that the actual bride price amount can be, and sometimes is returned after the aspects of traditional marriage are complete. This is all I know in regards to the practice in Igboland. So no, I don't think there should be a limit set on what to pay,

I see nothing wrong with the practice. It is a symbolic depiction of appreciation. Anything beyond that (like asking for an elephant and 900 cows) is an abuse of the genuine concept of dowry or bride price.

Ndipe:

But shouldnt there be a limit on what to pay? Supposing the parents of the bride insist on 5 million naira as the bride price, what do you do?

  which parent wud ask for such a ridiculous amt from anyone?.
Theres no limit,it varies from place to place but from what i know,it can be negotiated.
@Topic,NO,bride price shld not be abolished.

it's part of African tradition, it's not a bad tradition, it's not killing anyone so No, it shouldn't be abolished.

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I oppose Dowry but support Brideprice.

The issue is not with the 'bride price' per se, but with parents who feel they deserve hefty material compensations for giving out their daughter's hand in marriage, and might go as far as giving her to the highest bidder. Abrogating the bride price would not change this, as such parents would seek the compensation under a different banner.

Women pay dowry (household items) not brideprice in India.

mochafella:


um, I'm not sure it's taken as seriously as it used to. I think in a lot of cases now its plays a ceremonial role, besides paying a dowry has nothing to do with how your husband will treat you. An abusive man does not need the excuse of a dowry to lay his hands on you or keep you down.

Afterall I beleive in India the woman pays the bride price. They still have cases of women being ill-treated by their husbands.

Brideprice is the beginning of ruse in establishing a family. One family will collect money on their daughter while the other family will be exploited.

The bride price should be cancelled.

Shouldnt be abolished. Remember, the bride's family usually foots the entertainment on the day of the traditional marriage, so the bride-price in addition to establishing the man's position as the head of the family, also offsets these expenses.

Gforce2015:
Brideprice is the beginning of ruse in establishing a family. One family will collect money on their daughter while the other family will be exploited.

The bride price should be cancelled.

Ndipe:
Shouldnt be abolished. Remember, the bride's family usually foots the entertainment on the day of the traditional marriage, so the bride-price in addition to establishing the man's position as the head of the family, also offsets these expenses.

Man is no longer the head of the family. If you doubt me, ask some of the feminist ladies on nairaland. They believe in equal rights and equal responsibility. Marriage is like a partnership in a business where both couples bring in their values to develop an institution called marriage. But because of the tricky nature of human beings, marriage is now used as a means to extort, manipulate and exploit one another.

Where did you read that in The Holy Bible?

Seun:

That's a misleading argument. In that part of the bible it was also ok to murder your son on God's 'orders'.