I have been wondering if this has given anyone a thought of ones homecoming from trip , most especially abroad to your spousspouse,fiance, parents or siblings . I am a living example where my wife picks quarrels with me if i don't inform my mom dat am coming home from my base claiming they l term her a bad wife or if i don't tell her also, she claims she s not important to me any longer.

Please share your experiences and what you feel is not right about my actions.

My brother,we are africans¤
all your actions are right.but4me,I only inform my mum when i thinks its important.

There is nothing to be heart broken about. but i think you must have your reasons anyway.

Kingslaw: My brother,we are africans¤
all your actions are right.but4me,I only inform my mum when i thinks its important.

o boi, I dont tell anybosy joo. I just enter plane and giri giri bamm am there. If them happy, fine, if them no happy, them sorry i can´t help it.

If u need to know where I am, ask my fiancee. This has been d order before we got engaged. Even if she cheats, I would rather prefer I dont see her cheat.

Its very important your spouse knows your where about.

Op, stick to yur decisions... It's very risky telling whosoever be it wife, family or frnds, yur due date of arrival.. Due to excitement the news will indirectly get the wrong ears and u know what that means?.. One has to be careful of such things... Odikwa very risky!
If am the one, am saying nada.!..my spouse can do same if he wishes... It doesn't stop me loving or trusting him.

kenraj: I have been wondering if this has given anyone a thought of ones homecoming from trip , most especially abroad to your spousspouse,fiance, parents or siblings . I am a living example where my wife picks quarrels with me if i don't inform my mom dat am coming home from my base claiming they l term her a bad wife or if i don't tell her also, she claims she s not important to me any longer.

Please share your experiences and what you feel is not right about my actions.

why should nlers tell you what is right or wrong about your actions?

are you committing crimes?

as per topic, you know your reasons for not telling your wife or mum of your movements. Your choice, your life.

nlers arent there with you to know what your situation is.


for others who are travelling and are concerned about safety issues or attacks from other elements, lift your situation up to God.

its not advisable to broadcast your travel plans, but if you're the type who cant keep things quiet, then pray abi wetin make person talk.

nobody can go before their time and nobody can stay past their time.

eo.

Amelian: Op, stick to yur decisions... It's very risky telling whosoever be it wife, family or frnds, yur due date of arrival.. Due to excitement the news will indirectly get the wrong ears and u know what that means?.. One has to be careful of such things... Odikwa very risky!
If am the one, am saying nada.!..my spouse can do same if he wishes... It doesn't stop me loving or trusting him.

You re very correct. At least,even if i don't inform my wife , which i do occasionally,i still in av nowhere to go than my own apartment where she is both in my absence and presence.

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why should nlers tell you what is right or wrong about your actions?

are you committing crimes?

as per topic, you know your reasons for not telling your wife or mum of your movements. Your choice, your life.

nlers arent there with you to know what your situation is.


for others who are travelling and are concerned about safety issues or attacks from other elements, lift your situation up


Am not asking for opinions or advise from nairalanders ,rather am just sharing my experience which i wanna share others also. And moreover it's been my principles as far back i was in secondary school (NMS).


its not advisable to broadcast your travel plans, but if you're the type who cant keep things quiet, then pray abi wetin make person talk.

nobody can go before their time and nobody can stay past their time.

eo.




Am just sharing experience and i would love 2 share others also and moreover it's been my principles way back in secondary school (NMS), where i would just storm home during holidays and it developed with me thru my university days also.

Huh.....its only on nairaland that I read that people are scared of their wife, mother etc. It would be very strange to me if my husband does not tell me the day he is getting on a flight. When I travel, I tell my husband, siblings, parents and close friends...not a big deal.

somebody: Huh.....its only on nairaland that I read that people are scared of their wife, mother etc. It would be very strange to me if my husband does not tell me the day he is getting on a flight. When I travel, I tell my husband, siblings, parents and close friends...not a big deal.

Sure it's not a big deal bush it just have to be the policy you created for yourself overtime. Also,i never indicated that it's all d time i don't inform my spouse,just once i did it with a reason and she took it personal.

kenraj:


Sure it's not a big deal bush it just have to be the policy you created for yourself overtime. Also,i never indicated that it's all d time i don't inform my spouse,just once i did it with a reason and she took it personal.

Yes, i would take it personal and it is a big deal not informing people close to you. Its very strange to me that you wou;dn't inform her. The only time my husband hasn't informed me about his travel plans, he was trying to surprise me for my party and we weren't even married. That is the only time I will excuse it.

somebody:
Yes, i would take it personal and it is a big deal not informing people close to you. Its very strange to me that you wou;dn't inform her. The only time my husband hasn't informed me about his travel plans, he was trying to surprise me for my party and we weren't even married. That is the only time I will excuse it.

I leave you to your opinion which mine stands also..

kenraj:


I leave you to your opinion which mine stands also..

Well, you asked - didn't you? If I were you wife, I would feel you don't trust me.

Kidnapping . You are afraid of being kidnapped or robbed. Kokoro ton je efo, inu efo lowa!

You shouldn't go anywhere without telling your wife, cause if you go missing people will blame her. Your parents will understan sha because your safety is paramount to them.

somebody:
Well, you asked - didn't you? If I were you wife, I would feel you don't trust me.

TRUST? Only GOD is to be trusted and moreover that was d time1st and only time i came unannounced .

baby_123: Kidnapping . You are afraid of being kidnapped or robbed. Kokoro ton je efo, inu efo lowa!

You shouldn't go anywhere without telling your wife, cause if you go missing people will blame her. Your parents will understan sha because your safety is paramount to them.

Kidnapped? Lailai ... just taking precautions.

kenraj:

TRUST? Only GOD is to be trusted and moreover that was d time1st and only time i came unannounced .

- you don't trust anybody but GOD? Interesting, I learn something new everyday.

somebody:

- you don't trust anybody but GOD? Interesting, I learn something new everyday.

Good to know