ileobatojo: I don't agree that ability to be pregnant and bear a child is the strongest reason for supporting stay at home wives but the OP has mentioned some stronger points over the course of the thread.

That being said, I could not personally be a housewife with no income waiting for someone to feed me everyday.


I will disagree with the assertion that the domestic duties of a woman have no economic value. Of course they do! If you were to hire different people to do all that she does, moreso for a woman with young kids, you might have appreciation for the economic value of the housewife. Some organizaions have tried to economically quantify the domestic work a woman does and it is no small amount. There are many families where one of the spouses decides to stay at home instead of working primarily because of economic reasons.

chaircover:

there is no money for medical care o! so u better get up from your heart attack and go back to work right now

I am going to bed jare. There are thousands of stories on this same family section where women are being abused but are trapped because they dont have a financial way out. We talk day after day about teaching our daughters self esteem and then in 2013 we are being told that all we need to do as women is to have babies, pray and shop for cheap food.

dayokanu:

The same women would come here to chorus gender equality but when it comes to working and responsibilities some would say its the mans work. Some women due to laziness just dont know what they want

Come and collect money You hear MEN AND WOMEN ARE EQUAL

Come and work more hard you hear MEN SHOULD DO THE WORK, WOMEN ARE NOT DESIGNED FOR HARD WORK

The OP who want to sit at home to wash clothes, plates nyansh and shop for cheap food what is the rationale to now tell your father to spend the same amount on your education as your brother who wants to Work and not sit at home

chaircover:

Character has nothing to do with a man working himself to stupor. One Naira is one Naira and will only buy One Naira worth of stuff, whether or not the wife has a good character, has good money advise, makes the house a home and can pray very well.

Sorry we dont get it . . . I certainly dont anyway. What says that I cant have good character AND still have an income?

dayokanu:

Can I say there might also be some men that are better at Nurturing rather than creating wealth?

Let the man and the wife sit at home and be nurturing to create wealth and lets see what would happen

You think say you smart? Who doesnt want to stay at home and nurture instead of waking up at 6am to go find money

dayokanu:

The same women would come here to chorus gender equality but when it comes to working and responsibilities some would say its the mans work. Some women due to laziness just dont know what they want

Come and collect money You hear MEN AND WOMEN ARE EQUAL

Come and work more hard you hear MEN SHOULD DO THE WORK, WOMEN ARE NOT DESIGNED FOR HARD WORK

The OP who want to sit at home to wash clothes, plates nyansh and shop for cheap food what is the rationale to now tell your father to spend the same amount on your education as your brother who wants to Work and not sit at home

miredia: maam, one naira can be managed and multipled or squandered. Impoverishment is not a function of low income but of poor managerial skills. Do u understand what it means not to live beyond your means. Do u understand what prudence is. Do u understand what contentment is and not being a spendthrift. Maam' ,do u have an inclination of the power and greatness of an industrious prudent wife not necessarily working class (suit and tie); but a woman with a multiplier effect. This virtue without apologies can either make or mar a man. You can make all the money in the world if the character is flawed in my judgement it is "baboo". I am astonished at the OP's personality. Impressive i must say, she isn't saying it is a taboo to work but that character precedes money.

miredia: maam, one naira can be managed and multipled or squandered. Impoverishment is not a function of low income but of poor managerial skills.

Do u understand what it means not to live beyond your means. Do u understand what prudence is. Do u understand what contentment is and not being a spendthrift.

Maam' ,do u have an inclination of the power and greatness of an industrious prudent wife not necessarily working class (suit and tie); but a woman with a multiplier effect.

This virtue without apologies can either make or mar a man. You can make all the money in the world if the character is flawed in my judgement it is "baboo". I am astonished at the OP's personality. Impressive i must say, she isn't saying it is a taboo to work but that character precedes money.

chaircover: . . .But why do people keep on implying that stay at home wives have good character. Is it automatic? I would have thought that a good wife will see that her husband is struggling on his own and want to help out, rather than sitting on her degree and staying at home and advising him on how to spend his money. He is clever enough to feel the pain of making the money so lets give him some credit that he will know how to spend it.

We can all stay at home and say honey pls dont buy the ipad 6 this month or honey lets shop in Costco this month. Does that make me a good wife?

BTW Why cant a man have a working wife who also is blessed with good character too? Why as a man would you short change yourself? Why must it be only one or the other.

In the same vein, why would I want a man who provides me a jeep for every day of the week but with the most lousy character?

Ask any woman who works, they do it for 2 reasons, one for their family and the other for themselves.

Anyway there s theory and there is practical and as you have seem from most of the responses here, men do NOT want liabilities!!!!! call them lazy or not and many women who are being abused and treated like shitt at home are housewives who have no financial input.

When a man is struggling with the day to day stresses at work and his working himself to the bone, and he comes home exhausted and drained only to see his wifes brother in his living room (knowing fully well that he has come to ask for money) at that point he doesn't see his wife’s good character and his wife greeting him in negligee & telling his bath water is ready & food is on the table but all he probably feels is resentment & Oh NO!!! Not more demands!!!.

There are men that refuse to go and see a doctor until its too late because all they do is work work work. Even when they feel ill they will still carry on. School fees have to be paid, rent has to be paid, the wife’s mother has to be buried and the wife’s junior sister has to get married, yet wifey is using her degree as wall decoration and turns round and says she is a good wife by helping him to manage money that wasn’t enough in the first instance. When the man dies from exhaustion sha wont she go out and work?

Sweetlemon:


From your tone, I can see you just like arguing and winning arguments.
Just like Alutacontinua did, look at the bottom line of my message and stop talking as if I said women should not work.
[b]By the way, a woman's traditional and foremost duty is to nuture while that of a man is to provide. [/b]So a woman can afford not to work but a man does not have such luxury. Same way a woman cannot say she does not want to give birth or expect her husband to be the one bearing children. That's why women generally nuture kids better than men. It's a fact that science can never change
Having said that, I have always adviced ladies to have some sort of paid employment for their own good and security. It's also nice to give financial support to our husbands every now and then to make the family even more financially comfortable than it is.
However, men should be more concerned about making more money than in looking foward to their wives pay check.

Sweetlemon:

And do you know a working class lady can be a financial liablility if she cannot spend her income wisely and save money?
That's why I said that a woman's xter should come before her income

Sweetlemon:

My dear, why should a woman not be called an asset simply because she does not have an income? Why must it be only when she brings home money that she can be an asset?
So a woman who prays to God for her husband's success and protection is not an asset? A woman who can give good, life-changing advice to her hubby on various matters is not qualified to be an asset?? A woman who can save money and properly manage her husband's income is not an asset?? A woman who nutures her kids, helps them with home work, attends PTA meetings is not an asset??
Tell me something!