adami48: repair wetin don scatter already frm foundation abi? Hope no be from yaba left u dey send dis tin shey? Crase person

vicoson: My wife says she did me a favour by marrying me, so I should be happy she married me.

We've been married for 3 years with 2 kids. Prior to our marriage we dated for about a year. She even moved in with me when she had accomodation problem for 6 months. During this period I saw hell. She showed me no respect, was playing her games very openly. Her phone rings 24/7, multiple love sms.

When I talk about settling down together, she would say her parents won't agree because my place is far-I'm from Akwa Ibom and she is from Mbaise. Obviously she did not want to marry me but she wouldn't just leave.

She travelled twice to check out some suitors while she was still leaving with me and I got to know from another source. She didn't deny it but said her sister's gave her the connection. One of those guys is an illiterate drug pusher.

Finally things got to a head. I dicovered condoms hidden in her handbag, I had to throw her out of my house. Somehow somehow, we hooked again but this time I only wanted to use her. Not quite long she took in. Although both of us had earlier agreed we won't marry each other, she later claimed she has started loving me but I did not love her anymore.
I went ahead and married her. I even did elaborate wedding. From day one till today, it has always been trouble.

Complaint, complaint,complaint. Nagging,nagging,nagging. She is at the centre of the universe, everybody must worship her, she must be in charge.

Trust me, with this pride I made sure she wields zero power in my house.

Before I forget, I am a Mechanical Engineer, she doesn't have a good O-level.

Yes, my emotions are on vacation, is it my fault?

50calibre: How the hell did you manage to get ensnared in the trap of an mbaise woman, an illiterate one for that matter? Haven you heard the saying " if you get caught between a snake and an mbaise woman, kill the mbaise woman first" mbaise women are like leeches, they contribute nothing positive to your life, apart from sucking you dry.

Gather your thoughts together, make plans, go to a marriage court and dissolve the marriage. Nigeria is dysfunctional, with money you would get custody of the kids. Take your kids and go drop them with your people, they are better off there than with her.

pipeliner:

Your story matches my own personal experience very closely. After several attempts to manage my marriage I gave up and finally left my home 2nd January this year after living with her for 13years. Such people never change. As of today she calls everyday telling me how she has changed and will be a better woman if only I can give her another chance. That last text message I received from her was yesterday. My brother I will advise to to move on with your life before you waste you years tring to manage someone who is not ready to be your wife.

overdrive: Pls does it mean that there are no mbaise ppl on this forum d generalizations and thrashing is getting out of hand.mbaise this mbaise that kill mbaise girl before u kill a cobra.I am tired of d whole accusations or are they true.pls somebody from that area shld speak out cos na market dey spoil for una ladies. The only comma I know they hv is high bride price 700k for drop outs and 1m for graduates.

Yomieluv: You saw hell,and deliberately walked into, why do people believe marriage can change a person? A leopard can never change its spot.

Just send her packing,she sees you as her last option,,and for God's sake,start afresh,its never too late to make amend,a woman like this aint meant for you,imagine she's without SSCE,and that pompous.she can't contribute anything to the marriage,even academically to your children,if you have any.

Ditch her,life is too good to whine over a woman like that.

lorretta u: ur comment shows you're not exposed.I am an mbaise woman.and your generation everlasting will be blessed to have a woman like me in your home.anyway u don't even deserve Such.so all the bad women you know are from mbaise?u r so uncouth! Anyway let me lecture ur ignorant self that it is rare to find such breed as the op has in my place.our motto is hardwork and sticking to ur man thru hell and high waters.that's why u see the most ambitious and educated women in mbaise.but little minds like urs will quote what 'they heard' and as such enter into the marriage with a pre-existing bias.talk of ignorance.I'm dumbfounded.

lorretta u: ur comment shows you're not exposed.I am an mbaise woman.and your generation everlasting will be blessed to have a woman like me in your home.anyway u don't even deserve Such.so all the bad women you know are from mbaise?u r so uncouth!
Anyway let me lecture ur ignorant self that it is rare to find such breed as the op has in my place.our motto is hardwork and sticking to ur man thru hell and high waters.that's why u see the most ambitious and educated women in mbaise.but little minds like urs will quote what 'they heard' and as such enter into the marriage with a pre-existing bias.talk of ignorance.I'm dumbfounded.

byvan:



Brother,please don't divorce hastily.Can you try seperation?like seek refuge with a responsible friend for a while,ofcourse pop back into your house every now and then to play with your children.Maybe this woman will think about her marriage and know she misses her husband.Please keep being faithful and the man that you are,don't let an ungrateful woman change your personality.Since she hasn't cheated yet,please try seperation,don't divorce hastily.At some point you have to make a decision,if this woman still doesn't change after a seperation,let her walk if she want to.


Have you ever tried a heartfelt dialogue,to know why she is mean to you??Communication saves a lot,know her plans for the marriage.Yes,you can't fake romance but you can learn.I wasn't naturally a very romantically expressive person but I try to learn,because am taking a cue from my husband.We are all learning,no one is born married.

vicoson: My wife says she did me a favour by marrying me, so I should be happy she married me.

We've been married for 3 years with 2 kids. Prior to our marriage we dated for about a year. She even moved in with me when she had accomodation problem for 6 months. During this period I saw hell. She showed me no respect, was playing her games very openly. Her phone rings 24/7, multiple love sms.

When I talk about settling down together, she would say her parents won't agree because my place is far-I'm from Akwa Ibom and she is from Mbaise. Obviously she did not want to marry me but she wouldn't just leave.

She travelled twice to check out some suitors while she was still leaving with me and I got to know from another source. She didn't deny it but said her sister's gave her the connection. One of those guys is an illiterate drug pusher.

Finally things got to a head. I dicovered condoms hidden in her handbag, I had to throw her out of my house. Somehow somehow, we hooked again but this time I only wanted to use her. Not quite long she took in. Although both of us had earlier agreed we won't marry each other, she later claimed she has started loving me but I did not love her anymore.
I went ahead and married her. I even did elaborate wedding. From day one till today, it has always been trouble.

Complaint, complaint,complaint. Nagging,nagging,nagging. She is at the centre of the universe, everybody must worship her, she must be in charge.

Trust me, with this pride I made sure she wields zero power in my house.

Before I forget, I am a Mechanical Engineer, she doesn't have a good O-level.

Yes, my emotions are on vacation, is it my fault?

lorretta u: the bride price is an exaggeration.but that alone should tell u the value of mbaise women.we are like diamonds.a real born and trained mbaise woman is the greatest asset man can get.infidelity and laziness is sometime u can only find in a few.the majority are beautiful,intelligent,hardworking,romantic,ambitiouse.e.t.c.the average mbaise woman knows no one other than her husband and kids first before anything else.y'll would be lucky to get an mbaise woman to yes to ur proposal.she's a jewel.

vicoson: My wife says she did me a favour by marrying me, so I should be happy she married me.

We've been married for 3 years with 2 kids. Prior to our marriage we dated for about a year. She even moved in with me when she had accomodation problem for 6 months. During this period I saw hell. She showed me no respect, was playing her games very openly. Her phone rings 24/7, multiple love sms.

When I talk about settling down together, she would say her parents won't agree because my place is far-I'm from Akwa Ibom and she is from Mbaise. Obviously she did not want to marry me but she wouldn't just leave.

She travelled twice to check out some suitors while she was still leaving with me and I got to know from another source. She didn't deny it but said her sister's gave her the connection. One of those guys is an illiterate drug pusher.

Finally things got to a head. I dicovered condoms hidden in her handbag, I had to throw her out of my house. Somehow somehow, we hooked again but this time I only wanted to use her. Not quite long she took in. Although both of us had earlier agreed we won't marry each other, she later claimed she has started loving me but I did not love her anymore.
I went ahead and married her. I even did elaborate wedding. From day one till today, it has always been trouble.

Complaint, complaint,complaint. Nagging,nagging,nagging. She is at the centre of the universe, everybody must worship her, she must be in charge.

Trust me, with this pride I made sure she wields zero power in my house.

Before I forget, I am a Mechanical Engineer, she doesn't have a good O-level.

Yes, my emotions are on vacation, is it my fault?

pekelepekele: Each time I attend a wedding party. I will look at the bridesgroom carefully , watch him dancing , kissing the bride and I will smile and say it on my mind that You go soon hear am . Women hmmm , it's not easy to control them

lastpage:

STEWPIDITY HAS NO BETTER DEFINITION THAN YOUR VERY SELF!
Quit blaming her, the handwriting was ALWAYS on the wall ..but maybe you were too pus*sy-whipped" to notice.

Gerrout of this place before l nack you koboko, silly weakling!

Lastpage!

here: Like to ask, if you really wanted it to work what would you do that you havent done?
Am asking bcz I havent heard her story and you are the one in this who gets to decide and for the fact that "NO MAN WILL EVER ASK HIS FELLOW MAN TO DIVORCE HIS WIFE" so what can you do to save this,go home and evaluate if your marriage can be saved based on what you still see.
For a moment I always say..."s/he was the best thing that ever happened to you".If it means u want to take a walk,pls do bt with caution and keep the friendship,parties still after being apart do come together and even if you dnt,keep the friendship.
Custody becomes bloody when parties are neck-to-neck (there is never a case where its to be decided just bcz we feel like it) that is why courts still gets to decide based on available facts so those here who feel they are right for whatever reasons I ask..."Do you guys know this family more than anyone else here?".
Our prayers are with you,yeah your mind is made up but take it slow man but be wise so this doesnt consume any of you its already bad enough the kids would have to face any outcome of this

GraceBestowed:

Thank you for not resorting to insults. Disagreeing without resorting to insults should be the norm, but isn't, so i appreciate your decorum.

I still believe that it would be vindictive to separate a loving mother from her children.

ebyjoyken: my friend go and sit down. Don't say what you don't know. Are you trying to say that all mbaise women are bad? I don't like what you just said. Take it back!

lorretta u: ur comment shows you're not exposed.I am an mbaise woman.and your generation everlasting will be blessed to have a woman like me in your home.anyway u don't even deserve Such.so all the bad women you know are from mbaise?u r so uncouth!
Anyway let me lecture ur ignorant self that it is rare to find such breed as the op has in my place.our motto is hardwork and sticking to ur man thru hell and high waters.that's why u see the most ambitious and educated women in mbaise.but little minds like urs will quote what 'they heard' and as such enter into the marriage with a pre-existing bias.talk of ignorance.I'm dumbfounded.

lorretta u: the bride price is an exaggeration.but that alone should tell u the value of mbaise women.we are like diamonds.a real born and trained mbaise woman is the greatest asset man can get.infidelity and laziness is sometime u can only find in a few.the majority are beautiful,intelligent,hardworking,romantic,ambitiouse.e.t.c.the average mbaise woman knows no one other than her husband and kids first before anything else.y'll would be lucky to get an mbaise woman to yes to ur proposal.she's a jewel.

50calibre:

What!! who said I resort into insults? Where did you get that from? C'mon I'm not a barbarian.

GraceBestowed: Lol! I wasn't referring to you directly; your appropriate response was a deviation from the norm, which I appreciated (and still do). I hope you understand what I was trying to say. :-)

laylow001: "The husband who wants a happy marriage should learn to keep his mouth shut and his checkbook open.

vicoson: I love those kids n they look like me.