lorretta u: I cannot stand the stewpidness of our Nigerian men sometimes.for the guy who says a wife has to prove herself after a period of 20yrs.I Think that's insane.and it's men like you who die in an emergency cos their wives are not signatory to their accounts.so what happens,he dies because no doctor treats wihtout deposit.I wonder what u guys take marriage for.I've seen it happen

50calibre: A wife is allowed to be next of kin only after she has proven her worth or mettle usually after a period of 15 - 20 years. else it has to be your mum. Mums are like next to God, they never fail you.

Azedplus: From my own perspective, next of kin should not just be anyone but someone who can take up responsibilty in time of the need,having a child does not mean he/she can be a next of kin.e.g a minor being use as a next of kin may not be so right in my opinion in some circumstance.

50calibre
A wife is allowed to be next of kin only after she has proven her worth or mettle usually after a period of 15 - 20 years.

Ilekokonit:

How many of todays fraudulent marriages will last for 10 years talk less of 15-20 years ?

nnafather: I'm not trying to fool myself. My next of kin is God. Address; Heaven. Occupation; King of kings and Lord of lords.If anything happens to me, let them go and find God to come and sign for my assets. If they can't find Him, they remain untouched.

kofsy: I was at my aunt's place yesterday and she told me her marriage is crumbling... She has been married for 12yrs and the marriage is blessed with three kids(2boys and a girl). Herself and her husband are having some issues as regards who should be his next of kin and who shouldn't. Before they got married, her husband had been using his immediate younger brother as his next of kin. Now that he's married, my aunt expects that to change. She said her husband ought to have changed his next of kin to their first born who is a boy and 10yrs of age. Since I'm not experienced in such, I didn't know what to say or who's side to take. Please married folks, why do you think the husband is insisting on using his younger brother as his next of kin? Do you think he has an hidden agenda? Or is he scared about the paternity of their son? My aunt is feeling insecure and they fight over it everyday.

Probably he doesn't want to use his underaged son as a next of kin yet, because he is underaged and not up to the age of maturity, according to us humans. Using the brother as a next of kin now is not bad, but he should put certain clauses in his will that makes his first born inherit whats rightfully his when he comes of age. Else!...

paris10: Next of kin could be anyone. Using ones brother as a next of kin as supposed the wife is a technical issue. The brother in this sense does not automatically nullify the wife's right in claiming what is hers or the children's.

As long as there is a Will, the brother will be limited. Even without a Will, a legally married woman would inherit her husband's property and estate.

kofsy:
Lol! He's not my hubby jor... I'm not married (he's my aunt hubby). From my own perspective I think a man"s wife should be his next of kin. But my aunt is fighting for her space in the home. God forbid, if anything happens to the hubby, his family may come and chase her out and start claiming properties And with his kind of family I know they can do it cos they don't like my aunt they never wanted their son to marry her cos she's a christain and they are muslims. Even my family don't want my aunt to marry the guy, but she insisted. Sincerely, I'm scared of these muslims o, they can do and undo when it comes to fighting over a
dead man's property; especially when they don't like the wife.

tellwisdom: Next of kin being the wife??---GOD FORBID ...It has to be my mama or my papa

kofsy: I was at my aunt's place yesterday and she told me her marriage is crumbling... She has been married for 12yrs and the marriage is blessed with three kids(2boys and a girl). Herself and her husband are having some issues as regards who should be his next of kin and who shouldn't. Before they got married, her husband had been using his immediate younger brother as his next of kin. Now that he's married, my aunt expects that to change. She said her husband ought to have changed his next of kin to their first born who is a boy and 10yrs of age. Since I'm not experienced in such, I didn't know what to say or who's side to take. Please married folks, why do you think the husband is insisting on using his younger brother as his next of kin? Do you think he has an hidden agenda? Or is he scared about the paternity of their son? My aunt is feeling insecure and they fight over it everyday.

Ejiuka: My Pastor or my close church brother

Amelian: Your aunt is making a huge mistake fighting about next of kin with her husband .. The more, she fights him, he will start thinking she is planning to kill him and inherit his properties or bank accounts... She should relax, talk to him subtly on why he still chose his brother when. He has children..issues like this , we use wisdom and tact in handling it... Not fight or by force.... And lastly she shud pray abt it.. And also does she have her own business? Or is she working?

soledayo:
Next of Kin is different from the person who inherits you. Next of kin is just a contact if the need be. You need a will to inheirt someone. people should learn this. If a man dies, banks will not give next of kin his money unless the man write a will before he dies. NEXT OF KIN IS DIFFERENT FROM INHERITOR. Ese lopolopo.

butta: @kofsy this is NKan be , as far as am concerned the children should be the next of kin and not the wife. the bible has said it light and darkness should not cross path since your aunt choose to pitch her tenth in the devils den then her problem just began why should a christian lady marry a muslim man for Gods sake ? This is so wrong muslim people vex if una wan vex christian should marry christian and muslim should marry muslim ...

50calibre: A wife is allowed to be next of kin only after she has proven her worth or mettle usually after a period of 15 - 20 years. else it has to be your mum. Mums are like next to God, they never fail you.

shawlay: If u use ur parents, It only means u hope to die before them. If u use ur brother u just put ur wife and kids life in the hands of nother man making life difficult for them that's why some extended folks come and start claiming power over what they did not sow. If u don't trust a woman then why marry her?this thing dey vex me sha. Women go extra miles for men and men just act carelessly.if u like use ur grandfather na