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Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by Nobody: 11:16pm On Apr 25, 2013 |
Coldfeet: @ Op if all the women or just me here on nairaland should apologise on behalf of your wife! Would you go home tonight and do these things to try and save your marriage? BLESSED are the parents that gave birth to a wonderful woman like you, Blessed to the lucky man that have u in his home as a wife and lucky and blessed are the Children that have you as their mom. God bless you and your home. My wish for is your dream stay big and your worries stays small. I can't help it but read the post over and over again. God bless you ma. @OP divorce on its own is something i despise with passion please what this lady said and u will remain blessed ever after bro. Save your marriage for the sake your kids i know how horrible it is to be raised in a broken home its just a setback. Please save this Marriage God bless u thank u once again Ma'am and God bless u and me heavily AMEN. 2 Likes |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by Nobody: 11:16pm On Apr 25, 2013 |
Coldfeet: @ Op if all the women or just me here on nairaland should apologise on behalf of your wife! Would you go home tonight and do these things to try and save your marriage? BLESSED are the parents that gave birth to a wonderful woman like you, Blessed is the lucky man that have u in his home as a wife and lucky and blessed are the Children that have you as their mom. God bless you and your home. My wish for is your dream stay big and your worries stays small. I can't help it but read the post over and over again. God bless you ma. @OP divorce on its own is something i despise with passion please do what this lady said and u will remain blessed ever after bro. Save your marriage for the sake your kids i know how horrible it is to be raised in a broken home its just a setback. Please save this Marriage God bless u thank u once again Ma'am and God bless u and me heavily AMEN. 2 Likes |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by gnykelly(m): 11:36pm On Apr 25, 2013 |
Every person willing to divorce always have a plan B. Which they not ready to give up no matter the condition. 1 Like |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by armyofone(m): 11:36pm On Apr 25, 2013 |
Coldfeet, bless you. nice one, married people give up too quickly. the grass is not always green yonder. I hope the OP will humbly work on his marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by callash: 12:27am On Apr 26, 2013 |
U ARE A BLOODY ANIMALL..SHAMELESS FEMINIST Sapphire86: Abeggi make I hear word with ur pathetic title. How does it apply 2 women? Shdnt it ve bn 'why can't she say I'm sorry?' 1 Like |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by deHitchcock(f): 12:51am On Apr 26, 2013 |
True NaijaBwoy: Point 1 i do apologise, im not afraid to be sentimental!well wiv all these!the point is *u guyz need to stay far 4rm d reach of external factors |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by ReiManniE(m): 6:17am On Apr 26, 2013 |
OMG! The importance of the word 'I'm sorry' I tell it to you can heal a wound. Buh if one party happens to be responsible all the time saying sorry for he/she dint do rung at or what he/she finks the actually real sense of the meaning is lost. In my relationship I've learnt to say sorry just to keep it going, not because I'm rung or so buh the fact that we've come dis far and a little mistake dares not part us.#MyLife Nways, @op she wud learn in d hard way and dis I say she wud come back to ha senses and say sorry at the due time |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by pweetymama(f): 6:36am On Apr 26, 2013 |
True NaijaBwoy: Na wa o@ OP,I believe ur wife has nt always been like dis.d problem is ur wife has been listening to bad advice.there r so many pple out there looking for marriages to destroy whilst their home is in peace.I once told my hubby I dnt wnt to go to a family friend's house again cos of d things d woman always tell me to do,but some women will foolishly heed d advice nd destroy their homes.I pray she realise herself in good time.Goodluck. 1 Like |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by 2sizzlin(m): 7:00am On Apr 26, 2013 |
Sapphire86: Abeggi make I hear word with ur pathetic title. How does it apply 2 women? Shdnt it ve bn 'why can't she say I'm sorry?' O God u should understand that the reason I divorced my wife is because she couldn't say just "sorry". Hahahahahaha. Sir, I'm not saying she is right. You're just giving "sorry" too much power. What are you going to do to your Children if they don't say sorry? She is your wife not your girl friend. Pls............................................... don't divorce her. Tell her what u are expecting from her(She may not even know u really need a "sorry". Even if its infidelity, take your time to make that decision.if you're a Christian, try and be a practicing Christian. 1 Like |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by biafranqueen: 7:19am On Apr 26, 2013 |
Only a women wrapper would say such nonsense so u were born through the anus CAMEROONPRIDE: Don't mind them, women are the worst thing that happened to mankind, i curse the day God almost killed us to create una.Tufiakwa 1 Like |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by bigtt76(f): 7:30am On Apr 26, 2013 |
@OP ...you still love your wife and she definitely loves you. She may be shy to blurt out that word to someone she loves dearly, don't use the absence of such words jeopardize your Heavenly blessed marriage. Do not divorce her today only to find out she had a 'my dear husband, I'm sorry forgive me' love note tucked somewhere in the closet where she feel you will shockingly find it someday. Your thoughts and anger may be blinding your way to reaching that note. By the time you do, a thousand 'Had I know' may never bring back that sparkle you saw in her 5 years before marriage and more years after. Ignore her errors if it can be ignored, help her be a better wife you want her to be. A clay pot is molded gently not in anger or aggressively. |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by tofeenab(m): 7:33am On Apr 26, 2013 |
D bottomline here is dat "marriage is 2 b enjoyed & not endured". Its all abt respect & value 4 each oda from each oda's perspective & not from d perspective of others! My take on dis is : Each should make sure dat dey will not allow d kids 2 lack any luv. Both parties might know each oda's worth wen dey give each oda space 4 awhile! |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by tofeenab(m): 7:34am On Apr 26, 2013 |
D bottomline here is dat "marriage is 2 b enjoyed & not endured". Its all abt respect & value 4 each oda from each oda's perspective & not from d perspective of others! My take on dis is : Each should make sure dat dey will not allow d kids 2 lack any luv. Both parties might know each oda's worth wen dey give each oda space 4 awhile![/color] |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by Nobody: 7:36am On Apr 26, 2013 |
biafranqueen: Only a women wrapper would say such nonsense so u were born through the anus Only a men wrapper can recognize a women wrapper. 1 Like |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by 2sizzlin(m): 7:38am On Apr 26, 2013 |
Daresh: hahahahahahaha.no be only flower. Money wey we go take chop, I go use am buy flower for my wife.NawaOo. Don't expect things to be the way they were.things hv got to change.were u guys living 2gether b4? Did u know abt how much He makes b4 u got married, his properties(WIFE:Honey u knw I'm your wife now, I'm supposed to know all these things).He used to eat outside wit or without u b4 u got married, should he not change? He spends sso much on drinks, shld that continue?He always used protection b4 shou he continue? I'm not entirely diposing everything u said. They are Good I'll do thOse 4 my wife. God help me Daresh: hahahahahahaha.no be only flower. Money wey we go take chop, I go use am buy flower for my wife.NawaOo. Don't expect things to be the way they were.things hv got to change.were u guys living 2gether b4? Did u know abt how much He makes b4 u got married, his properties(WIFE:Honey u knw I'm your wife now, I'm supposed to know all these things).He used to eat outside wit or without u b4 u got married, should he not change? He spends sso much on drinks, shld that continue?He always used protection b4 shou he continue? I'm not entirely diposing everything u said. They are Good I'll do thOse 4 my wife. God help me |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by 2sizzlin(m): 7:52am On Apr 26, 2013 |
Confusion: now that's gonna make me get a divorce |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by elbinmanny(m): 7:55am On Apr 26, 2013 |
Daresh:Look how this yeye ignuramus dey address another woman husband And peoples Father!!!!!! Na babes like u dey scatter ppl marriage! Ewu Congo 1 Like |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by biafranqueen: 8:00am On Apr 26, 2013 |
Divorce is not an option you have to have a storm before rainbow this is a test of your marriage do not fail and ruin your life and the children's future. If in anyway her family helps you with $ cut it off and struggle with your family alone. The grass is dead on the otherside stay where u r bros 4 Likes |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by elbinmanny(m): 8:04am On Apr 26, 2013 |
Daresh:I'm sure this one dey slap her husband 2 Likes |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by weaseloo: 8:07am On Apr 26, 2013 |
Divorce is many times used as a tool to hurt the other person or to pay them back for their wrongs. However it is a very magnified approach of revenge which I feel often times is not necessary. Marriage is about give and take. You cannot have it all. You have to be willing to sacrifice. I wonder what your wife has done that you can't forgive her. You sound like you are so much in control but believe me, the end product is not juicy, for you, your wife and your 2 children. I am writing this before reading through the 4 pages. I will likely comment again afterwards. 1 Like |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by TrueNaijaBwoy: 8:25am On Apr 26, 2013 |
Reference: It is better to walk away from the issue than the marraige. You have been offered an opportunity to develop emotional strengths by divine providence that will be useful to you beyond marraige. Wallking away from the issue leaves an unresolved problem that slowly eats away into both your essences... its no different to sleepin and waking to the same problem (which is an absolute no!no!!).. its a time bomb that will explode - Bros, this is purely from experience! |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by prince13: 8:29am On Apr 26, 2013 |
You are probably not different from the woman in Question,If women are sensitive and weaker sex does that take the place of the respect and submission your husband deserve from you,how on earth would a man take decisions that will affect the kids he gave birth to in the first case?,this being your reason to go against your husband instruction. You could probably make a bad,stubborn and an Unruly house wife if you get married;The roles of men are just to pay attention to details Clap 4 your self. Princess zoe: The issue is, a woman can go against her husband instruction if it is going to affect her and the children. The women are the weaker sex, they are vfery sensitive. Husbands are meant to pay attention to details and listen to their wives complain. Now biblically, divorce is only granted when one of the partner has committed adultery if not, Mr. Man you must not remarry for the sake of your salvation. |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by prince13: 8:30am On Apr 26, 2013 |
You are probably not different from the woman in Question,If women are sensitive and weaker sex does that take the place of the respect and submission your husband deserve from you,how on earth would a man take decisions that will affect the kids he gave birth to in the first case?,this being your reason to go against your husband instruction. You could probably make a bad,stubborn and an Unruly house wife if you get married;The roles of men are just to pay attention to details Clap 4 your self. Princess zoe: The issue is, a woman can go against her husband instruction if it is going to affect her and the children. The women are the weaker sex, they are very sensitive. Husbands are meant to pay attention to details and listen to their wives complain. Now biblically, divorce is only granted when one of the partner has committed adultery if not, Mr. Man you must not remarry for the sake of your salvation. |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by TrueNaijaBwoy: 8:31am On Apr 26, 2013 |
Toks2008: Honestly some women have ego problem. The apology alone is simply not the easy recourse,,,, theres a lot of patching up to be done....2 of us have to dance the dance... the remorse is a start without it you dont have a team player! I have always hated the idea of a divorce and shuddered when i made it known it was to be my recourse... but my actions have always offered the oppurtunity for her to realise i will forgive but i need to be recognised as the man of the house.... The Lord also confirmed a woman should recognise the man and he will show her respect! Lifes lil mysteries |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by prince13: 8:33am On Apr 26, 2013 |
You are probably not different from the woman in Question,If women are sensitive and weaker sex does that take the place of the respect and submission your husband deserve from you,how on earth would a man take decisions that will affect the kids he gave birth to in the first case?,this being your reason to go against your husband instruction. You could probably make a bad,stubborn and an Unruly house wife if you get married;The roles of men are just to pay attention to details Clap 4 your self. Princess zoe: The issue is, a woman can go against her husband instruction if it is going to affect her and the children. The women are the weaker sex, they are very sensitive. Husbands are meant to pay attention to details and listen to their wives complain. Now biblically, divorce is only granted when one of the partner has committed adultery if not, Mr. Man you must not remarry for the sake of your salvation. |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by TrueNaijaBwoy: 8:34am On Apr 26, 2013 |
coolzeal: Be man enough and apologise no matter who is right or wrong besides she is your wife for damn sake. Don't allow pride to ruin your marriage you will regret it later on i have done this,,,, she wont appreciate her own errors... this is important for us to continue! |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by Fussbot: 8:35am On Apr 26, 2013 |
I tink some people dn't get d op,simply dat it's hightime d op got a sorry 4rm his wife...come 2 tink of it,why wld anyman want 2 divorce his wife jst bcus he needs a sorry 4rm her??(If nt dat it has turned 2 anoda tin lik d wife nt giving him his due respects anymore)it means,d man has bin saying it 4 a long time even wen he was right,(maybe jst 2 safe d marriage)and naw d man wants 2 correct his wife like..honey wen u are wrong u should say am sorry..and d wife is lik..noo u are spsd 2 be saying dis al d time...maybe it's how d man brot his wife up(naw she wan spoil)or maybe d wife is financially ok dan d husband,or maybe d wife's parents have much 2 say in d husband's life..any whichways,I tink wat d op wants naw is some respect 4rm his wife nt only her saying"am sorry"....my opi |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by TrueNaijaBwoy: 8:38am On Apr 26, 2013 |
churific: What a pathetic and silly write-up. "Till death do you part" and you're here bickering about "I'm sorry" as your marriage ultimatum. Then beggers the question, if it important for me,,,, why cant she say it? (It may not change a thing but you should understand by her not saying it its a painful dose of a reality check for her) |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by caukerzee(m): 8:38am On Apr 26, 2013 |
alutacontinua: Dt ur write-up sounds like you're writing an article, it doesn't really sound like you have a story that touched you.Didnt want to contribute but i had to when i saw this. Woman, not everybody got poor writing skill like you. Its not his fault that he can write well. Mind your business if you got no meaningful contribution. 1 Like |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by TrueNaijaBwoy: 8:48am On Apr 26, 2013 |
Carsonv: Mmmmmh! I can be selfish but not inconsiderate, I am selfish with my family and rather keep our shit to ourselves,,, so judging by what your saying i am selfish to ask for humility from my wife? I'll agree with you on one thing.... communication is a big ass issue... Im a 3 dimmensional thinker and with due respect to her she can be 1 dimensional.. this causes major issues when trying to talk.... p/s i m absolutely horrible communicating with people who believe shouting yelling screaming is the way to talk to people! your on your own (my 2nd flaw) 1 Like |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by Amhappy(f): 8:55am On Apr 26, 2013 |
Coldfeet: @ Op if all the women or just me here on nairaland should apologise on behalf of your wife! Would you go home tonight and do these things to try and save your marriage? @OP Am joining Coldfeet to tell you 'AM VERY SORRY' on behalf of that beautiful woman you loved,loves and will continue to love. Please discontinue any divorce proceedings. 2 Likes |
Re: Divorce - Why Cant Women Say "I M Sorry"? by ibnew: 9:02am On Apr 26, 2013 |
@OP... First of all, you did not give out your story straight. You made people guessing through different angles. You might not get the right feedback or responds. Secondly, you said you did not come for advice but that you had already made up your mind. My advice/comment will be hold on for a while. Let me start by saying that you might not be the first with this issue. I think they all did not separate because of the issue. There is no marriage with out issues. Even though no marriage is same. Am not going to sweet talk you into keeping your marriage but i will just share somethings with you and the rest is yours. There are different types of women out there and they change par situations. Let me give a little bit of my self. Been married for 13yrs. I will say I married the best woman on earth. I thought I understood her. It started first with my family. I will agree their reception of my wife was not the best. I stayed on the side of my wife giving her all the assurance. over time, she developed this idea that she is hated and even added me to it. It became difficult agreeing on anything even as simple as putting on the fan or not. I was shocked. I tried to douse the tension to no avail. even when we agree to hold on babies, she decided to have it without further discussion. My kind of job that kept me out of home most of the time did not help matters. I even started to think why did I marry this woman. There was a time i even left the home. We sat down and stated real communication.I realize we were just talking without communicating like somebody said. Start talking without blame, acting and showing her that I don't hate her. I realize that what she needed was double re-assurance. I made her know that we are partners and we need to share our thoughts, fears, doubts, and strength. We need to respect our weakness and don't use them as weapons against one another. Showing of all kind of love without real in-depth talking and sharing the moment does not hold much water for most women I don't know the level of real communication with your wife. It is a very vital tool. please use it. You need to get somebody to get her family off her so she can concentrate on her marriage. They've had their time. They should leave you both to put the pieces together once again. see if you can get somebody elderly to talk to her parents. Unless they do not want the marriage to work and they do not care about their grand children. I wish you good luck bro. 2 Likes |
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