babylast:
6. You will fall out of “love”. 
I’m sorry to burst your bubble, you will fall out of love no matter how deeply in love you are. The flame and passion will go down when life begins to happen. There will always be need to rekindle your love and reassess your commitment. Love become more practical than just a word or feelings.

babylast:
12. There is no perfect marriage! Don’t ever be fooled. You can have a healthy marriage.

alutacontinua:

op, pls, i would like you to expansiate further on this point. When you fall out of the love, what keeps you going? I understand that you fall out of the love....i look at my parents or couples of over 10 years and I definitely know that they don't have that feelings that I have when I think about my boyfriend...but my question remains, what keeps the relationship going when those feelings dissappear? Is it the feeling that you're stuck or what? Please, explain! Other married folks can also explain. Please, if you're not married for 5 years and above, maybe you should not bother.

greatgod2012:


i think im eligible to answer you, 8+ years and still counting...........

Now, to each his/her own, so, i believe it depends on the individuals involved, some couples dont fall out of love, that does not mean that they will not sometimes have disagreements, but they quickly resolve their disagreements, and they never come short of calling themselves beautiful names, also, they never stopped complimenting each other.
However, some do fall out of love, but the thought of the vow they have both made to each other binds them and they are stuck with eack other, and gradually, the love is formed again. May i put it that, those "falling out of love" we are talking about, are sometimes not intentional, to some, its the burden of financial and other responsibilities that is weighing them down, and he just concentrate on that, instead of not thinking much about it, so that the flame of love btwn him and his wiffy do not go down, and when this happens, the wife concludes that her hubby no longer love her and vice-versa.
And to some, they just have the feeling that after wedding, all these "kiddies play" (according to them, kissing in public, holding your partner's hand while walking, etc are all kiddies play)have to stop, so they start seeing their wives as just anybody and they dont even care to compliment them, to the wives of such, the women may just think that the men no longer love them, which most of the time, not really true.
And the last set are those who married for the wrong and selfish reasons, who are the ones that intentionally fall out of love, examples of their excuses include, shes has become bigger after childbirth, she want to be controlling me, shes no longer as beautiful as when we were dating, shes concentrating more on the kids, e.t.c........such men are the one who have really fall out of love, and its just an excuse for them to become infidels, and for their wives, its the vow and the fact that they have kids for each other that definately stuck them, if the matter do not eventually lead to divorce.
Hope i make sense sha.
May God help us all.

alutacontinua:

Thank you ma...u're definitely eligible to answer my question.
So, option number 1 is possible...as in, you still think about each other and swear all over again that you would gladly spend the rest of your life with him. If yes, how can somebody work towards that?

greatgod2012:


1. Always have it in mind that hes a human being, and no perfect human being, unless you want to marry an angel.
2. Concentrate more on his good areas, nobody is totally good and nobody is totally bad, with this, you will find it easy to forgive him when disagreement occurs.
3. Let there be more meaningful communication, never bottle up your grieviances against him, talk it over with him, and after it is resolved, never make reference to it again.
4. If you are a very strict person, sometimes, you will have to compromise, yes, compromise, we are all human being, we cant have our ways all the time.
5. Pray more and pray together.
Never compare your marriage with another marriage.
6. Tolerate him more, if hes not abusive, not a cheat and hes responsible at home, others can be managed and conquered.
Hope i make sense.
May God help you and all of us.

alutacontinua:

Thanks ma-am!
May God help you!

greatgod2012:


i think im eligible to answer you, 8+ years and still counting...........

Now, to each his/her own, so, i believe it depends on the individuals involved, some couples dont fall out of love, that does not mean that they will not sometimes have disagreements, but they quickly resolve their disagreements, and they never come short of calling themselves beautiful names, also, they never stopped complimenting each other.
However, some do fall out of love, but the thought of the vow they have both made to each other binds them and they are stuck with eack other, and gradually, the love is formed again. May i put it that, those "falling out of love" we are talking about, are sometimes not intentional, to some, its the burden of financial and other responsibilities that is weighing them down, and he just concentrate on that, instead of not thinking much about it, so that the flame of love btwn him and his wiffy do not go down, and when this happens, the wife concludes that her hubby no longer love her and vice-versa.
And to some, they just have the feeling that after wedding, all these "kiddies play" (according to them, kissing in public, holding your partner's hand while walking, etc are all kiddies play)have to stop, so they start seeing their wives as just anybody and they dont even care to compliment them, to the wives of such, the women may just think that the men no longer love them, which most of the time, not really true.
And the last set are those who married for the wrong and selfish reasons, who are the ones that intentionally fall out of love, examples of their excuses include, shes has become bigger after childbirth, she want to be controlling me, shes no longer as beautiful as when we were dating, shes concentrating more on the kids, e.t.c........such men are the one who have really fall out of love, and its just an excuse for them to become infidels, and for their wives, its the vow and the fact that they have kids for each other that definately stuck them, if the matter do not eventually lead to divorce.
Hope i make sense sha.
May God help us all.

alutacontinua:
unfortunately my marriage is not upto 5 yrs, but i have learnt that in a relationship, if u concentrate more on the positive side and overlook those silly mistakes which makes us who we are, life will be a better place. and remember life is full if phases, so never let the present phase deprivr you of the happiness the next phase brings.
op, pls, i would like you to expansiate further on this point. When you fall out of the love, what keeps you going? I understand that you fall out of the love....i look at my parents or couples of over 10 years and I definitely know that they don't have that feelings that I have when I think about my boyfriend...but my question remains, what keeps the relationship going when those feelings dissappear? Is it the feeling that you're stuck or what? Please, explain! Other married folks can also explain. Please, if you're not married for 5 years and above, maybe you should not bother.