| Re: 9 Things Never To Lie About In A Relationship by beckyomas(f): 7:58am On Apr 29, 2013 |
ceaz4r:
Why should you ladies even mess up so much that we men can't handle your so called 'truth' ? Dats because u decide to see it like dat, probably because d ladies re supposed to be d saint while u guys are supposed to do as u like...meanwhile d lady's past is not even half as bad as urs but yet u guys will spit fire nd brimstone |
| Re: 9 Things Never To Lie About In A Relationship by beckyomas(f): 8:04am On Apr 29, 2013 |
And abt handling d truth, I think sometins are better left unsaid...what's d essence of asking a question dat u wouldn't want to know d answer to or which ofcourse u know u can't handle....plz nd plz leave some questions alone cos u really can't judge a person from past experiences, u shld love them for who they re. Like u guys even say d truth abt how many girls u ve slept with, I bet some of u ve lost count nd still they'll tell u its 5...smh |
| Re: 9 Things Never To Lie About In A Relationship by Nobody: 8:07am On Apr 29, 2013 |
ceaz4r: Why should you ladies even mess up so much that we men can't handle your so called 'truth' ? [size=13pt]Mistakes happen, especially when people are younger. We have all made mistakes. What separates a child from an adult is owning up to those mistakes and learning from them.[/size] 1 Like |
| Re: 9 Things Never To Lie About In A Relationship by Nobody: 8:13am On Apr 29, 2013 |
Friday victor: This is a good piece piece,l tell you.But l think its safer to keep a few things lost forever rather than baring them on the alter of love which inadvertently turn cold when the partner hears it.Truth is the humans finds it difficult handling sour truth,so why hurt them with it or destroy your chances of happiness.Old things have passed away,isnt that how they wrote it in the Holy book? Which of the Holy Book? |
| Re: 9 Things Never To Lie About In A Relationship by Emoska(m): 8:41am On Apr 29, 2013 |
nice one |
| Re: 9 Things Never To Lie About In A Relationship by Mospring(m): 8:49am On Apr 29, 2013 |
adora4u1: It's good to always say the truth. But the problem is that most Nigerian men CAN'T handle the truth! sometimes!!? |
| Re: 9 Things Never To Lie About In A Relationship by perfectcato(m): 10:09am On Apr 29, 2013 |
idnoble135: Relationship Tips: Never Lie About These 9 Things!
Ladies, do you really think telling your significant other a little white lie can't hurt? Wrong! Here are the tall tales that could cost you true love. Are you dating responsibly? Relationship Tips: Never Lie About These 9 Things!
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Keeping It Real Counts! When interacting with the opposite sex, communication is everything. Simply put, authenticity is everything. It's not always easy to be transparent when you're getting to know each other, but it's 100 percent necessary. Keeping things honest will help you avoid leading Mr. Wrong or turning Mr. Right off. Be yourself and be real. Little white lies will get you nowhere, especially in these 10 categories.
Your Birthday. Normally, the rule is: You never ask a woman her age. However, when it comes to dating, this rule must be broken. Don't lie about your age. If he's turned off, at least you will know where you both stand immediately. Lying about your age will instantly make you seem insecure, especially if you're older. Keep it real, ladies!
Your Number. Discussing your sexual history is always tricky, but it's unavoidable if things between you are becoming serious. Not all women will be in agreement here, but, when it does come up, try to be open and honest about it. If he asks how many people you've slept with before him, don't give him the "safe" number. Give him the real one. If he can't handle your answer, that's on him — not you. He should've taken heed when his mother told him to never ask a woman a question you don't want the answer to.
Your Cooking Abilities. Nothing's more disappointing for a man than to be promised a "life changing" home-cooked meal only to be served a plate full of watery rice. So you don't know your way around a kitchen, that's fine. It doesn't make you less of a woman. Tell the truth and give him the chance to impress you with his skills.
Your Marriage Goals. Most women assume that talking about marriage will scare a man off, but that's false. The man that's right for you will want to know where you really stand — especially if he's on a different path. There is a way to be open about where you desire to be in the future in terms of your relationship without putting too much pressure on the present situation. Saying you don't want to be married when you clearly do will send him running for the hills.
Your Real Thoughts On His Inner Circle. If you're not "cool" with his inner circle, you shouldn't pretend to be. While you should keep an open mind when getting to know them, it's imperative that you find a way to be open with him about your reservations instead of forcing yourself to hang out with people you just don't care for.
How Cool You Are With Him Having "Female Friends". Not every woman will be comfortable with her man's best friend forever being a female. This is something you must be honest with yourself and him about up front. The issues you overlook in the beginning can potentially become romantic barriers later on down the line. Don't tell him you're "cool with it" when you're not. He'll see right through this one fast.
The Ex-Factor. If your ex is still in the picture, say so. It's just as important not to hide a connection to an ex, as it is for him to reveal any women in his life. As long as you both keep it real in this department, there will be no unwanted surprises.
Your Bedroom Activities. Don't ever tell a man he's the best you've ever had unless it's the actual truth. You may want to feed his ego, but it won't work that way if you're lying. If you tell him he's the best then he has no room to improve. Compliment him, but don't overdo it. He'll appreciate it the realness.
The "Real" You. Additions and enhancements are cool, but at some point the man you're dating should be able to meet the real you. Certain outfits may require some "help". Don't let padded bras, body shapers and hair weaves mask the real you. That's who he is most interested in!
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| Re: 9 Things Never To Lie About In A Relationship by Shinnings: 10:16am On Apr 29, 2013 |
[nyc one |
| Re: 9 Things Never To Lie About In A Relationship by uzoexcel(m): 12:59pm On Apr 29, 2013 |
whatz ur point nitwit  ? Aklofs: OP.Hope u didnt write WASSCE cos u'll definately score -ve |
| Re: 9 Things Never To Lie About In A Relationship by FindOut(m): 3:28pm On Apr 29, 2013 |
ogugua88:
[size=13pt]Lmao, well na you sabi. I'm an honest person. I don't like to hurt feelings, but I know that the truth is less painful than a lie. There have been times where I have been given gifts or other things and I expressed displeasure. My reaction wasn't what they expected, but it wasn't the end of the world either.
Anyway, I'm still waiting for the day you and I agree 100%. Aren't you tired of always being wrong? Lmao.[/size] Lol. I agree with all you've said and yes, that's how it should be. Most 'manuals' on relationships & marriage will probably re-echo your views. BUT, humans are different and what works with A wil not necessarily work with B. Yes, we must have principles but there are some times you have to compromise on those principles a little just because of others. Like you, I belong to the category of people who like to hear the truth ALWAYS, but I know everyone is NOT like me! Its not altogether their fault, we are wired differently. Ogugua,if your 80 year old grandmum(lets assume she's 80.lol) gives you a birthday gift you are not impressed with or you don't like, do you think it will be practical for you to express your true feelings? Yeah I know you are not dating your grandmum but even with couples, episodes are abound. Your spouse spends hours in d kitchen trying a new recipe (maybe a surprise to showcase his 'wonderful' *actually below average* culinary skills), and the end result is not what it should be or it turns out to be something that comes quite close to making you puke. he asks you "Darling, how is the food"? Your honest and very truthful answer at that point should be "It tastes like crap". Now, Mr A may be able to handle such answer and may laugh it off but with Mr. B, you might just ruin that night. Anyway, at this point i think you should ask your married friends and relatives (maybe even your parents...individually of course) if it pays to speak the truth 100% of the time in a marriage/relationship. Heehehehe...I do agree with you 100% on a lot of things; I've specially acknowledged this in at least 2 of my posts on nairaland...lol....& I've also sharply disagreed with you on some others, but its not everything we should/can argue/discuss about...especially in public..lol & then of course for certain things, you'll eventually see the light sooner or later   |
| Re: 9 Things Never To Lie About In A Relationship by BeraBera(f): 9:15pm On Apr 29, 2013 |
Educative |
| Re: 9 Things Never To Lie About In A Relationship by Nobody: 10:07pm On Apr 29, 2013 |
I think most of the past ladies wont want to share is their past sex life, pregnancy if any, abortion if any. And the guys wont want to let you know of the baby mamas, any girl they forced to under go an abortion and a host of shady things like cultism, hard drugs etc.
For me, i might be upset initially. But my value for you would increase a great deal if you opened up with out me asking you to do so. Especially before exchanging marital vows. 1 Like |
| Re: 9 Things Never To Lie About In A Relationship by Tefo1759(m): 10:30pm On Jul 14, 2014 |
[color=#990000][/color]And please I beg you never ever lie about your about ur income if you broke you broke she"ll either stay with you or flee... Relationship Tips: Never Lie About These 9 Things!
Ladies, do you really think telling your significant other a little white lie can't hurt? Wrong! Here are the tall tales that could cost you true love. Are you dating responsibly? Relationship Tips: Never Lie About These 9 Things!
[img]http://www..com/talk/photo.jpg?action=dlattach&topic=150552.0&attach=53043&image.jpg[/img]
Keeping It Real Counts! When interacting with the opposite sex, communication is everything. Simply put, authenticity is everything. It's not always easy to be transparent when you're getting to know each other, but it's 100 percent necessary. Keeping things honest will help you avoid leading Mr. Wrong or turning Mr. Right off. Be yourself and be real. Little white lies will get you nowhere, especially in these 10 categories.
Your Birthday. Normally, the rule is: You never ask a woman her age. However, when it comes to dating, this rule must be broken. Don't lie about your age. If he's turned off, at least you will know where you both stand immediately. Lying about your age will instantly make you seem insecure, especially if you're older. Keep it real, ladies!
Your Number. Discussing your sexual history is always tricky, but it's unavoidable if things between you are becoming serious. Not all women will be in agreement here, but, when it does come up, try to be open and honest about it. If he asks how many people you've slept with before him, don't give him the "safe" number. Give him the real one. If he can't handle your answer, that's on him — not you. He should've taken heed when his mother told him to never ask a woman a question you don't want the answer to.
Your Cooking Abilities. Nothing's more disappointing for a man than to be promised a "life changing" home-cooked meal only to be served a plate full of watery rice. So you don't know your way around a kitchen, that's fine. It doesn't make you less of a woman. Tell the truth and give him the chance to impress you with his skills.
Your Marriage Goals. Most women assume that talking about marriage will scare a man off, but that's false. The man that's right for you will want to know where you really stand — especially if he's on a different path. There is a way to be open about where you desire to be in the future in terms of your relationship without putting too much pressure on the present situation. Saying you don't want to be married when you clearly do will send him running for the hills.
Your Real Thoughts On His Inner Circle. If you're not "cool" with his inner circle, you shouldn't pretend to be. While you should keep an open mind when getting to know them, it's imperative that you find a way to be open with him about your reservations instead of forcing yourself to hang out with people you just don't care for.
How Cool You Are With Him Having "Female Friends". Not every woman will be comfortable with her man's best friend forever being a female. This is something you must be honest with yourself and him about up front. The issues you overlook in the beginning can potentially become romantic barriers later on down the line. Don't tell him you're "cool with it" when you're not. He'll see right through this one fast.
The Ex-Factor. If your ex is still in the picture, say so. It's just as important not to hide a connection to an ex, as it is for him to reveal any women in his life. As long as you both keep it real in this department, there will be no unwanted surprises.
Your Bedroom Activities. Don't ever tell a man he's the best you've ever had unless it's the actual truth. You may want to feed his ego, but it won't work that way if you're lying. If you tell him he's the best then he has no room to improve. Compliment him, but don't overdo it. He'll appreciate it the realness.
The "Real" You. Additions and enhancements are cool, but at some point the man you're dating should be able to meet the real you. Certain outfits may require some "help". Don't let padded bras, body shapers and hair weaves mask the real you. That's who he is most interested in!
http://www..com/talk/topic,150552.0.html |
| Re: 9 Things Never To Lie About In A Relationship by Jomoinc: 2:29pm On May 03, 2021 |
Actually did all this but when my friend turned up, I got blocked and thrown out. Focusing on other ships right now, majorly entrepreneurship since relationships ain’t sailing. |
