2goodbobo: It is not suppose to be a "woman" thing or a "man" thing but rather a human thing. Whoever is comfortable to pay the bill, should do so. The law of nature has forced it on the Man in this part of the world and is high time that mentality is erased.

2goodbobo: It is not suppose to be a "woman" thing or a "man" thing but rather a human thing. Whoever is comfortable to pay the bill, should do so. The law of nature has forced it on the Man in this part of the world and is high time that mentality is erased.

2goodbobo: It is not suppose to be a "woman" thing or a "man" thing but rather a human thing. Whoever is comfortable to pay the bill, should do so. The law of nature has forced it on the Man in this part of the world and is high time that mentality is erased.

Baritone: well, in my opinion, it depends on who initiated the date. but reaaly its not a gender thing.

MRbrownJAY:

many men initiate dates and simply take girls for a walk in the park, so your ideology is wrong (date doesnt automatically equals going to a food joint).......what you should have written is:"whoever is HUNGRY (and demand to go to a food place) should be ready to pay for "at least" their own damn food"

MRbrownJAY:

many men initiate dates and simply take girls for a walk in the park, so your ideology is wrong (date doesnt automatically equals going to a food joint).......what you should have written is:"whoever is HUNGRY (and demand to go to a food place) should be ready to pay for "at least" their own damn food"

Baritone: true talk man, but if u're bold enough to ask her out, you should be financially endowed to foot the bills.

Mrs.Chima:
Leave my thread.

Rhymez: If I intentionally take her out, I will definitely foot the bill, but if she insisted on us going out, then I guess she wants to surprise me by footing the bill.

MRbrownJAY:

bro, you are fooling yourself by trying to impress a lady with some cheap moves. A) footing the bill does NOT make you endowned in any way, it only makes you weak if you do so for no damn reason, in the name of being a gentleman.....but here is a clue: if she is not a LADY, then why should you be a gentleman to her?! B) the BOLD man is the one that would not be afraid to tell a woman the LOGIC of this world, which is:" since WE are going to get some food, shouldnt WE both pay for dinner?". only a BOLD man can ask such question to a woman on a date, only a bold man can tell a woman to pay for her own and show how independent she can be. at the end of the day, it is all about making this gal have a GREAT TIME, LAUGH, HAVE FUN and hopefuly she wanna see you again....and paying for dinner has no effect on this equation (unless you are dating a broke ass hungry beggar). paying for dinner is the cheapest way to get to know someone and has nothing to do with being bold.

we men have to start to be real about ourselves, as there is NOTHING in the archives of r/ships or dating that says that taking a girl out means that you have to spend money on food for her hungry self. go to a park and sit down there while having a chat (no need to spend any cash for that)......if she is hungry then let HER spend her own money to go buy something to quench her damn hunger.



i thought you sent me a VIP guest invitation, lol!

pleep: I always pay for first dates, but i'm not stupid enough to pretend that its because of chivalry or politeness or even because i asked her out (society says the man must ask the woman so that point is mute)

Its simply a social obligation that soceity says we must do.... so i do it.

Splitting the bill is fine by me though... but i don't know how anyone,man or women, feels comfortable letting a perfect stranger pay for their food lol

ogugua88:

[size=13pt]This!!!!! I couldn't care less who's supposed to pay for what. I don't like the feeling of someone paying for me. It makes me feel like a freeloader. Lawd knows how many times I've brought out my wallet to pay for anything, guy or not, and the guy always insists on paying. I'd actually feel better if I paid sometimes.

It truly doesn't always have to be the man, but many feel they must do it because of societal pressure.[/size]

CFCfan: I feel that way sometimes too.

I guess it's the culture we live in that is to blame.

CFCfan: ^^
Some men have no problems allowing their lady to pay for a date.

pleep: well after u have known each other for a while, thats fine.

im mainly talking about first dates