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Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by hajieazi(m): 9:08am On May 11, 2013 |
TV01: @ WhyMe222, good evening my brother, May God bless your home too. What a wonderful piece. 1 Like |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Toks2008(m): 2:26pm On May 11, 2013 |
jackymfon: You have said it all. End of story. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by omotayos01(m): 3:06pm On May 11, 2013 |
jackbauersballs: Before I divorce the olosho, I would feign forgiveness. u b corect guy. Me self no knw wetin dis guy dey wait for, abegi divorce am sharpaly, na ashewo im dey cal im wife 1 Like |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by yoddy01: 4:51pm On May 11, 2013 |
Z WhyMe222:Please do not tell anyone about this issue. Mostly family members. I know you feel like telling everyone why you are hurting but, this will only cost you heart ache because if you eventually decide to forgive your wife, your friends or family members will no longer have any respect for her. Also you are the one in the relationship, everything that you guys do, should be between you. Handle this issue in a mature manner. If you want to divorce her, fine. Do not go about telling people what she did as it will affect your daughter too. Pls be a man. 4 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by biolabee(m): 5:05pm On May 11, 2013 |
yoddy01: Z 1 Like |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by logica(m): 6:09pm On May 11, 2013 |
LOL. So men don't tell people when cheated on. They help a non-respectable woman to keep unmerited respect. Dumbass things. 2 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by yoddy01: 6:32pm On May 11, 2013 |
logica: LOL. So men don't tell people when cheated on. They help a non-respectable woman to keep unmerited respect. Dumbass things.Mr logica,your rudeness is becoming disgusting. You do not have to rain insults because you disagree with people's views. You can decide to shout it from the roof top when you are cheated on. That is nobody's business. Everyone here is trying to help the op with his problems. He can decide to take the advice or not. If you cannot add any reasonable comments to the thread, why not leave? Why rain insults? Please act like an adult. Thank you. 4 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by logica(m): 8:09pm On May 11, 2013 |
yoddy01:Some people seem very adept at giving advise but cannot follow same advise. Take your own advise. One more instance of dumbass things. It is merely proof that had the same happened to you as happened to the OP, you would likely do the exact opposite of the advise you are giving. They call people like you hypocrites. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by yoddy01: 8:53pm On May 11, 2013 |
logica: Some people seem very adept at giving advise but cannot follow same advise. Take your own advise. One more instance of dumbass things. It is merely proof that had the same happened to you as happened to the OP, you would likely do the exact opposite of the advise you are giving. They call people like you hypocrites.You do not even make any sense to me Mr logica. You sound like a 5 year old. Are you even old enough to be on this forum? 2 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by logica(m): 9:23pm On May 11, 2013 |
yoddy01:I confess I will be quite disappointed if I made any sense to you. My very second post to you already addressed this. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by minute(f): 11:13pm On May 11, 2013 |
Affairs are really common, they are like marriage cancer and hard to get through, I don't think she's taking being married to very seriously.Obviously there are things in the relationship that have been neglected.There's a lot of questions here. Do you love her? Does marriage mean something to-YOU? If you can't forgive the girl you married, the one you loved more than life itself who can you forgive? Is she sorry and contrite? Is she a good mother? Do you want to show your daughter how to forgive? Affairs are usually the result of something else wrong with the relationship. You could try talking to her but if you two are drifting apart to such a degree you might as well end the marriage. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Nobody: 9:21am On May 12, 2013 |
Wow! Issues are taking a different turn. Whyme222's wife's response to this thread here: https://www.nairaland.com/1287745/whyme222s-wifes-judge Hmmmm! Nairaland = Dramaland *** Watching keenly from the sidelines **** |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Nobody: 1:51am On May 13, 2013 |
I ve bn followin this thread for a while now and I just hv a few words for u mister. There is no smoke without a fire. U hv not told anybody about how d fire started and what caused it but u were constantly shoutin fire. Maybe u can begin by sayin d truth. That way u can free urself.u really do hv time to respond to most of d comments here that pity's u.a man his house is on fire! U rnt serious. R u not a busy man? Now what hv u gained? Go and work on d mess u created mister and stop whinnin like a kid!saint micheal!what a man! 1 Like |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by salt1: 7:06am On May 13, 2013 |
logica: Oh no you missed it. I make my own rules in my house. The fact that you are willing to kill does not mean you are willing to be killed (that's the first rule of an assassin or soldier: kill but don't be killed). So because I am a scammer, I should allow people to scam me? That's not "double standard"; it is commonsense and self preservation. The rule is simple; if you are going to cheat, don't be caught. The crime is in being caught. What did your last slave die of, logica? Because you sound like a slave driver with your rules. Watch this attitude! Men like you are the type that resorts to physical abuse if their wives are more financially comfortable 2 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by logica(m): 10:49pm On May 14, 2013 |
salt 1:Maybe that slave is your mother and the slave driver your father; do not mix me up with your father. If your father beats your mother, that is their biz and yours; not mine. I am a man of my own, as I came into this world alone. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by mbulela: 11:32pm On May 14, 2013 |
gbokukueba: @OP,I respect your opinion as an individual and this is not a cticism of your personal choice but i wonder why men often say this? men go outside and not only sleep with women other than their spouses but some even have children outside. Yet women are expected to forgive and help heal the marriage. Why can't same happen when the table is turned? Most of all, when the guilty party has retraced her steps. Why must forgiveness have a limit? Is that true forgiveness? Especially when repentance is present. If women can forgive men, so should men. This attitude that men cannot forgive cheating partners is misogyntic,to say the least. 5 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by biolabee(m): 2:14am On May 15, 2013 |
logica: Maybe that slave is your mother and the slave driver your father; do not mix me up with your father. If your father beats your mother, that is their biz and yours; not mine. I am a man of my own, as I came into this world alone. Those statements about anothers parents and betrays your use of your moniker You appeal to no logic 2 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by logica(m): 3:34pm On May 15, 2013 |
biolabee:Kindly step aside before yours are added to the list. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by biolabee(m): 4:05pm On May 15, 2013 |
logica: Kindly step aside before yours are added to the list. threats now... tragic |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by gbokukueba(m): 5:49pm On May 15, 2013 |
mbulela: We all have our right to air our oppinions... you do not necessarily have to agree. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by logica(m): 8:10pm On May 15, 2013 |
biolabee:Tragic for you or your family? Look dude or whatever you are, I would rather reserve my responses for those who have more than one liners and do more than go about liking every silly post. Capisce? |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by biolabee(m): 8:24pm On May 15, 2013 |
logica: Tragic for you or your family? Look dude or whatever you are, I would rather reserve my responses for those who have more than one liners and do more than go about liking every silly post. Capisce? you claim to be logical in your posts yet consistently have appealed to emotions and anger Your discourse with toks2008 was flawed appealing to a sense of traditional roles of men and them being allowed to cheat is that logical you tell me... now abusing my family instead of dealing square with the issue... still more tragic ish |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by logica(m): 8:38pm On May 15, 2013 |
biolabee:You are still here? You know I just checked your profile to be sure you are a man; because you seem to think like a woman. I know your type though; I can assure you that you will raise a few kids that are not yours. You are just that weak. Speaking of anger, you don't have a clue. I'm perfectly calm even as I post this; but any insults thrown at me leads directly back to the throwers home. That's my own rule. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by biolabee(m): 8:44pm On May 15, 2013 |
logica: xxxxsuit urself dude.. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Idowuogbo(f): 8:47pm On May 15, 2013 |
logica: You are still here? You know I just checked your profile to be sure you are a man; because you seem to think like a woman. I know your type though; I can assure you that you will raise a few kids that are not yours. You are just that weak.Mr man, Are u pregnant? Jeez! Enough! 2 Likes |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by logica(m): 8:56pm On May 15, 2013 |
Idowuogbo:Lol. Yes I am. Triplets. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Idowuogbo(f): 9:19pm On May 15, 2013 |
logica: Lol. Yes I am. Triplets.Abajo! No wonder! U due May 2014 she? Pele! Wa ye. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by logica(m): 9:23pm On May 15, 2013 |
Idowuogbo:Yeah. Tonight. Venue is my toilet. Come watch me drop 3 turds. Special viewing. Goodnight. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Idowuogbo(f): 9:39pm On May 15, 2013 |
logica: Yeah. Tonight. Venue is my toilet. Come watch me drop 3 turds. Special viewing. Goodnight.Ewwwwwwwwh! Nite! |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by jidesam: 2:58pm On Jun 07, 2013 |
i dont know how far you have gone on this issue. People have said several things based on the information that is available. You said you have ecplored several ways to solve the problem, but i think there is one you are yet to explore. Are you a christian or muslim? Whatever your religion, have you spoken to your pastor about it. Except youare an athiest you need to do that also. Even if you are you need to talk to a marriage counselor about. Divorce is not the solutio, even if you get it, your heart is already wouded.. Divorce cannot heal your wound but add to it. In anutshell, seek for help by talkig to people that can actually help you. |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by DECOtech(m): 6:52am On Aug 01, 2014 |
baby124: You can divorce her if you can boldly claim that you have been a faithful and good husband. If you have not, stay there, forgive and work through your issues as you have both canceled each other out. You are the leader of your home, if you stray, your wife has an 80percent chance of straying. Some women are so frustrated by their husband's bad behavior and lonely that they find solace in another. Who better than a friend whom you wouldn't suspect, is married so he won't want more, and has her time? If you have been an unrepentant cheat like some men, the shoe is on the other foot, and you feel what she feels everytime you cheat. If you feel like you have no life, imagine how you have killed her a 1000 times. If you are a cheat, man up and fix your home. In this day and age, it wouldn't get better. Women are hardly dying and crying to death for husband anymore. So men now are either faithful or the couple play each other till they both RIP or kill each other with diseases. If you are not a cheat and you are a good husband, divorce her.how does this relate to the issue on ground now?! |
Re: Broken & Dejected: Found Out Wife Is Having An Affair With A Family Friend. by Nobody: 9:45am On Aug 01, 2014 |
WhyMe222: Thank you everyone for your kind words and suggestions. May God bless you all. Hmm! I feel touched by ur story.if all u av narrated is sincerely d way it is then one who has a head has no cap [youba adage] leave evrytin to God and seprate for now.u can cal her to know of ur daughter' wellfare and also send d neccessary bills for ur daughter's upkeep.u need to get ur self back nd ask God to guide ur moves.all d best bro |
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