What to do when your Man's Mother doesn't like you.

If you’re having a difficult time getting along with your man’s mother, here are a few tips to help you gain some favor with her before it gets to the point of no return.

1. Respect Her At All Times
This may be hard to do, especially if she is disrespectful towards you, but you have to be the bigger person. Now I’m not saying you should allow her to call you out of your name and be her whipping dog – that should never happen. Your man should be sticking up for you and putting her in her place. But in the event that he isn’t there, kindly remind her that you are an adult, not a child, and tell her that you would appreciate her respect. Even if she objects and acts a fool, carry yourself with respect at all times. This way, no matter how she behaves, you can hold your head up high and know that you’ve done everything you can to facilitate a civil relationship.

2. Respect Your Man At All Times
One of the reasons his mother may not like you is because she feels that you are mistreating her son. Mothers are naturally overprotective when it comes to who their child dates, and she may not think any womanwill ever be good enough for him. All you can do is show her that you love and respect her son and hopefully she’ll come around. If you truly care for him, this will be easy and she’ll see that you are sincere and that her son is truly happy.

3. Compliment Her
You may not get along with her but I’m sure there is something about her that you can giveher some props on. Maybe she dresses well or can burn in the kitchen. Whatever it is, find a way to throw a compliment or two her way andbe genuine. She can probably spot a fake a mile away, so make sure you mean what you say and that it’s coming from the heart. Givingher a compliment, even when she’s made it known that she doesn’t like you, may improve her opinion about you. Like they say, “kill ‘em with kindness!”

4. Dress Respectfully
Along the same lines of respecting her, dress in a way that shows her that you’re not some Jezebel. The last thing a mother wants to see isher son’s girlfriend or wife looking like she justcame from the strip club…even if you did. When you’re around her, dress respectfully so that you don’t give her anything to talk about.

5. Don’t Bad Mouth Her To Your Man
Even if she’s rude or disrespectful to you, resist the urge to insult her around your man, even if you feel justified. Your man may know she’s wrong, but she’s still his mother and he may have a hard time hearing you say his mother is a mean-spirited wicked witch. He may feel caught in the middle – or if he’s a punk, he may run back and tell her what you said…making matters worse. If that’s the type of man you have, you may want to rethink thatrelationship. But otherwise, don’t bad mouth her to him because he may take that as a sign of disrespect and choose his mother over you. Let him see for himself who she is and let him handle her accordingly.

6. Talk to Her About Her Feelings Towards You
Now if you two had an argument or you cussedher son out in front of her, then you already know why she doesn’t like you. But if there is no obvious reason for her to dislike you, then talk to her about it. Sometimes there is simply some miscommunication that needs to be addressed and resolved. Maybe she received some wrong information about you or you met under some strange or unfortunate circumstances. Ask her why she doesn’t like you, and also ask her what you can do to makeyour relationship better. If she doesn’t give you anything and has decided that she just doesn’t like you for no reason, then hey…at least you tried. But she may think that you don’t like her either and is just reciprocating. Get to the bottom of it so that you both can move on.

7. Apologize
If through your conversation you discover that she actually feels that you have wronged her in some way, apologize. While you may not think your alleged “actions” were no big deal, they may have really upset her. Some mothersare overly sensitive when it comes to their sons, so try to understand her point of view – even if you don’t agree with it. A sincere apology will let her know that you respect her feelings and are willing to do whatever it takesto foster a healthy relationship with her.

8. Get Outside Advice
She’s his mother so your boyfriend or husbandshould know better than anyone how to get through to her. Ask for suggestions on how to get on her good side; you might want to do this early in the relationship before you even meet her so there’s a better chance of you hitting it off from the beginning. If that doesn’twork or you’re past that point, ask your motheror grandmother for advice, especially if they have a son. Sometimes outsiders can offer you a fresh perspective on how to deal with this difficult situation.

@poster,wonderful!thumbs up for u. Lv it.
Yes humility matters but how many can endure for so long w'out loosing it once? Its not easy dear. We r all human and sometimes we reach our elastic limit and bounce back.at times bouncin back makes some MIL to sit up.what may work for u might not work for me cos we r diff.

Nice advice.

yellowpawpaw: @poster,wonderful!thumbs up for u. Lv it.
Yes humility matters but how many can endure for so long w'out loosing it once? Its not easy dear. We r all human and sometimes we reach our elastic limit and bounce back.at times bouncin back makes some MIL to sit up.what may work for u might not work for me cos we r diff.

Ya'rite bout ur last sentence, but loosing it may cost you ur marriage, I jst think we should learn τ̅☺ control our temper, sumtimes u may av 2 endure 2, cos nofin last forever its just a mata of time, prayer will also go a gr8 lenght