Flaubert Ajiero: I get asked by women all the time “why men lie to women often”.

I can’t find a better way to explain this but rather I’ll use a scenario to explain.

Imagine this scenario;

You're on a first or second date with a man and it's going really well.

You're laughing, you're having a great conversation and you seem to have a lot in common. It's almost scary how similar your attitudes are about certain things.

You feel an intense "chemistry" between you. He's staring at you with that "look” that tells you he is very attracted to you. He even talks about places he'd like to take you to someday. You are almost positive that this is the beginning of something meaningful with this guy.

But a day or two goes by after the date, and you don't hear from him. A week went by, then two weeks. You send him a message, "Haven't heard from you in a while. How are you?" But he doesn't respond. You never hear from him again.

You beat yourself up, analyzing everything you did and said on the dates to see if maybe you accidentally put him off.

Months later, you find out the truth from someone else. During the time he was dating you, he was also dating another woman, and was now getting more "serious" with her.

You feel confused, disappointed, and a bit annoyed that he didn't just tell you the TRUTH about what was going on.

The truth would have been okay, Right? Of course it would.

So why does he avoid telling you the truth about a situation?

The answer is simple:

A man will lie to you because he hates confrontation. He FEARS your emotional response. He fears your rejection of him. He fears that HE won't be able to "handle" your response. He's imagining that you're going to cry, scream, be disappointed, argue, or complain. He fears being put on the spot or "attacked."

Understand - I'm not saying you would do any of those things. I'm just telling you what that guy who maybe doesn't know you all that well yet - is thinking.

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