I wish i can be totally objective on this issue...

Can marriages of today be devoid of cheating considering the numerous wrong things/people that surrounds us.

The internet is a tool for development which is highly welcome, but the number of dating site, porn and the likes are disturbing.

The total neglect of culture/tradition and embracing of western culture that have led to perpetual display of nudity by woman, even the rate at which females go after men is totally alariming.

The upsurge in club house, brothels, night crawling is another menace to marital life.

Also, our women now compete with men all in the name of gender equality, my husband must cook why i carry the baby... he must fetch water when ever am washing his cloths. Hmmm.. Africa is not America oooo.

if truly we have more women than men in terms of population ratio, is it not proper to allow our men marry more wives if they can cater for them, may be it will reduce promiscuity....just maybe.

What can be done to stop infedility in today marriages??

yes

Nope, humans are not meant to be monogamous.

If he/she hasn't cheated its becaude they haven't had the opportunity.

If u think ur partner hasn't it means they just haven't been caught.

Wow.. Some radical thoughts there but I believe there is a place for free will and choice

bebe2: Nope, humans are not meant to be monogamous.

If he/she hasn't cheated its becaude they haven't had the opportunity.

If u think ur partner hasn't it means they just haven't been caught.

bebe2: Nope, humans are not meant to be monogamous.

If he/she hasn't cheated its becaude they haven't had the opportunity.

If u think ur partner hasn't it means they just haven't been caught.

REALLY Which means you will certainly cheat on your hubby even if he is the best of husbands

Yes. It can.
Self discipline is key... No one is saying there won't be temptation but you have to have enough self discipline to conquer temptation. Notice I have not said you have to be a true christian like some people say, because I have seen pastors and deacons fall!

Can marriages be devoid of cheating? Simple answer is Yes it can.

How easy is it? Not so easy but it is not too difficult. There is no reason to cheat, we all just find excuses to cheat. Most people lack the fear of God in them and they also lack self discipline. The grace of God is what really helps us overcome the world and the evils of the world. I have been married over seven years and I have never cheated and same goes for my wife. We have made God the center of our marriage and we have generally avoided compromising positions.

All you need do is set clear boundaries for yourselves. Cheating is never a mistake and it hardly just happens overnight. It is well thought-out and planned for. The important thing is not to indulge those thoughts and to avoid the kind of places that will cause you to cheat. You also need to surround yourselves with Godly people who would not lead you astray. So Poster the answer is Yes!

taryour:

REALLY Which means you will certainly cheat on your hubby even if he is the best of husbands

Been married for 12yrs have never cheated,

Do i want to cheat? No

Can I predict the future? No

Liberal views all the way, shit happens n dats life

Say back in d days, not now.

Besides cheating is a state of mind

Noting d key points...

@Post

In Nigeria - hardly

Overseas - Maybe

i can't answer this question until someone defines cheating. when can we actually say a husband/wife has cheated?

effisyman: I wish i can be totally objective on this issue...

Can marriages of today be devoid of cheating considering the numerous wrong things/people that surrounds us.

The internet is a tool for development which is highly welcome, but the number of dating site, porn and the likes are disturbing.

The total neglect of culture/tradition and embracing of western culture that have led to perpetual display of nudity by woman, even the rate at which females go after men is totally alariming.

The upsurge in club house, brothels, night crawling is another menace to marital life.

Also, our women now compete with men all in the name of gender equality, my husband must cook why i carry the baby... he must fetch water when ever am washing his cloths. Hmmm.. Africa is not America oooo.

if truly we have more women than men in terms of population ratio, is it not proper to allow our men marry more wives if they can cater for them, may be it will reduce promiscuity....just maybe.

What can be done to stop infedility in today marriages??

@Bolded

Is that what God's word the bible said we should do? So with all the problems polygamy has caused and continues to cause such as rivalry between the wives, rivalry between the children of the various wives, extreme poverty should the man pass away suddenly, strife due to who should inherit the man's property and much more, your type still chooses to stupidly advocate for polygamous marriage in this 21st century?

I was born to a polygamous father and I know how much I suffered after I was brought back to Nigeria from my birth place in Europe because my father would not cater for our needs and my mother had to struggle to provide for us. I would never wish polygamy on anyone, not even my worse enemy.

Lastly, if you don't want to share household chores with your wife, don't ask her to contribute in paying any of the bills in the home with whatever salary she earns. What is good for the goose is equally good for the gander. Who cares if Africa is not America? Is that not why Africa is backward including Nigeria and many of you are lining up for visas to escape to America and Europe and choosing to birth your children in these advanced nations so your kids can have a chance of citizenship? Okay then!

Nashville you are the type that every woman kneels down to God to pray to have. They even fast, making it dry, just to get your type and i believe God who is faithful, never forsakes His own. May the grace of God never depart from you. Dasparrow is another person i respect. Its22078 is discipline too, mynd is not left out. May you all grow from strength to strength. I see you all as Godly role models and can make a positive impact in this nairaland. Remain blessed.

What is cheating?

Some people have made us to believe a married man looking at another woman who dressed sexily is cheating or opening the door for another woman is cheating

bebe2:
Liberal views all the way, shit happens n dats life

She is right.what u can't predict, be open minded abt it.u know urslf, but u rnt ur spouse.
I agree its a thing of d mind but circumstance matters.its just that we rnt realistic and practical at atimes that's why things like that hits us very hard.I've seen women say'I'm very jealous,I can't share', stori.and still spouses cheat.free urself jor!
I told myself one thing b4 I got married,I can only do what I can do as a wife,give my hubby his freedom,keep some % open for fuckup,and live d rest for God. Simple! When God cannot predict man He created,na me fit do am?

Will open relationship help?

coogar: i can't answer this question until someone defines cheating. when can we actually say a husband/wife has cheated?

dayokanu: What is cheating?

Some people have made us to believe a married man looking at another woman who dressed sexily is cheating or opening the door for another woman is cheating

I think sleeping with a third party answers it.
Ofcourse most people can and will tolerate any other form of 'cheating' but when it comes to a sexual union, its a no no.
Today, I know and believe marriages can be devoid of cheating. Its all about self control and moral standing

effisyman:

Also, our women now compete with men all in the name of gender equality, my husband must cook why i carry the baby... he must fetch water when ever am washing his cloths. Hmmm.. Africa is not America oooo.

so becos he has a pen.is between his legs he shud seat on his asss while she multi-tasks

Gboliwe:
I think sleeping with a third party answers it.
Ofcourse most people can and will tolerate any other form of 'cheating' but when it comes to a sexual union, its a no no. Today, I know and believe marriages can be devoid of cheating. Its all about self control and moral standing

Gboliwe, this is the vagueness i am talking about. for you, the partner must have had sex for it to be cheating. for some others, text messages is cheating. talking to a woman on the street is cheating. receiving pictures on their phone is cheating. so i ask, what's the standard definition of cheating?

yellowpawpaw:
She is right.what u can't predict, be open minded abt it.u know urslf, but u rnt ur spouse.
I agree its a thing of d mind but circumstance matters.its just that we rnt realistic and practical at atimes that's why things like that hits us very hard.I've seen women say'I'm very jealous,I can't share', stori.and still spouses cheat.free urself jor!
I told myself one thing b4 I got married,I can only do what I can do as a wife,give my hubby his freedom,keep some % open for fuckup,and live d rest for God. Simple! When God cannot predict man He created,na me fit do am?

God bless u my sista, e no reach to die put o. There are much more important things on earth.

Cheating can be very painful, even more painful for those who believe it can never happen to them.

Dats wen they start to look for how to harm the man or the other woman. Eventually na the victim dey suffer am pass.

coogar:

Gboliwe, this is the vagueness i am talking about. for you, the partner must have had sex for it to be cheating. for some others, text messages is cheating. talking to a woman on the street is cheating. receiving pictures on their phone is cheating. so i ask, what's the standard definition of cheating?

coogar! Who told you my name?!

I cant even read ur stuff still in shock at the way you addressed me. Coogar! Who told you my name?

Gboliwe: I cant even read ur stuff still in shock at the way you addressed me. Coogar! Who told you my name?

So you think people here dont know you?

Or because no one wan expose you identity since

dayokanu:

So you think people here dont know you?

Or because no one wan expose you identity since

reclusemodeactivated.

Gboliwe: I cant even read ur stuff still in shock at the way you addressed me. Coogar! Who told you my name?

read my stuff and give us the standard definition of cheating. at what point can we say a husband/wife has cheated?

Gboliwe:
coogar! Who told you my name?!

for you to answer this question, i think you simply have to understand why cheaters cheat

http://www.elijahforce..com/2013/04/why-cheaters-cheat.html

Yes it can but as some other posters have said i can only categorically speak for myself to say i would NEVER cheat on my husband.I trust him to a very large degree but what i am learning to do for all people now and not just him is know that first of all HE is a man.A man.A human being.The heart of man is desperately wicked the bible says.

And to me emotional cheating is as bad if not worse than a one night stand.So chatting all hours,sharing intimate secrets,texting calling and generally feeling as at ease as he is with me with another woman is cheating in my books.

Women too do cheats in relationships, nobody have reference that!

Husbands that cheat think with their peni* while women that cheat think with their vagi**.

Only those that have self control and of course think with their brains will never cheat on their spouses.

You can't live an irresponsible life when single and think it will automatically change when you are married.

Gbam!