honey86:
Help me tell them o. If I chose to go through the acid bath thingy, 3 good looking guys would have turn to monsters already.

many nigerian men are very pathetic.if a man dumps his girlfriend or wife,they will say she has character problems or her behaviour is bad,thats why he dumped her,but if it is the lady that dumped him,they will say she is an opportunist,gold digger or she is going for the highest bidder.mshewww

honey86:
Did you read the part where she said the guy has been beating her?. So she should continue to suffer and smile because of the boy. Mind you, it is not only men that invest in relationships, women also invest their money, time and emotion. A guy who thinks he has to recuperate money spent is nothing but a 12 year old.

your way shall never ever be narrow, good point well made, Brilliance9000 and the 18 dwarfs conveniently overlooked the part where he was physically abusing her , only daft people will just assume its only men that invest in relationships

Wickedness.......

betrani: I have improvised shock absorbers! I'm that kind of guy who works away with my heart intact if she ever says I don't love u no more!

we are in d same ship brother, the same tin happened to me just day before yesterday, a girl dat i have dated for four years now told me dat she's no more interested in d relationship and i thought i was dreaming but i later realize is for real and i just absorb d shock and keep my kul but is too painful after making her part of me and she just discharge me for no just cause. I am stil wondering wat might be d reason for her action.

lovett007: poor bitch, u deserve more acid on ur face maybe ur p*ci too, fucking Gold digger, u hav got the gold bt u wnt enjoy it. Guy u did well. I dnt knw what gals feel like this days?

this is a warning to ur girlfriend/wife. They should pick their belongings and relocate to another planet to avoid acid bath from you. From all indication, wise women should avoid u like pooooooooooooo.

Brilliance9000:

Please don't draw conclusions. Why didn't he pour the acid when they were like "Romeo and Juliet"? Or why didn't she opt out of the relationship when there were like "Romeo and Juliet"? Every human has feeling. Something always necessitate an action.

How would you feel if a similar thing were to happen to your sister or one of your relatives?

MAYOWAAK: IF anyone had told Blessing Ikhumhi that Okosun Cyril, the man she once loved, would turn around and bath her with acid, she would not have believed it.

Neighbours and friends used to see the duo as Shakespeare’s ‘Romeo and Juliet’. But they were wrong.

Even Blessing once saw him as “the best thing that could ever happen to her,” because she never believed the words of William Shakespeare, which asserts that, “there are daggers in men’s smile.”

Their romance turned sour with tragic consequence for Blessing, a 23-year-old student of Edo State School of Health Technology. If she would ever regain her sight she would see all men as “monsters” because she has seen “hell” in the last three months as a patient at the University of Benin Teaching Hospital (UBTH), Benin City.

Doctors in the hospital believe she may never see again except she is flown to a specialist hospital in India, where her sight could be restored.

Blessing’s story is a sad one. Her ordeal began when she told his boyfriend, who is now in police custody in Benin, that she was no longer interested in what she described as “uninspiring relationship.”

The news did not go down well with him. He visited her house and asked for a talk.

The victim had gone outside to meet with the man whom she thought might have come to settle with her and probably, persuade her to continue in the relationship, but to Blessing’s shock, she was bathed with acid.

From that fateful day, she has seized to see and has been on admission at the UBTH.

“He was my boyfriend and we had arguments in February. He beat me to the extent that I was not able to go to school for three days. I told him I was no longer interested in the relationship. He later tried to forcibly take my telephone, but I refused to give it to him. I told him he was not the one who bought it for me.”

“On March 23, he called and asked me to meet him in front of our house. I refused initially, but he insisted, so I came out. He asked: “Do you mean you don’t want me again?” I said: “No! I was no more interested in the relationship. And immediately, he poured the acid on my face. Since that day, I have been on admission at the UBTH and the doctors say I might not see again except I am flown to India where my eyes could be restored. “

She noted that Cyril was the last person she expected to treat her so badly.

“I never knew he would have the heart to pour acid on me. I made a mistake. I have learnt the biggest lesson of my life. My prayer now is that God should touch kind-hearted Nigerians to come to my aide so that I would be able to get treatment abroad, since my parents cannot afford it.” Ikhumhi, a native of Fugar, Etsako Local Council of Edo State, has pleaded with public-spirited Nigerians to come to her aid.

Domestic violence has been on the increase nowadays as aggrieved lovers have been pouring acid on their estranged partners.

In March 2010, Oluwatoyin Safiu Morufu, from Oyo State, was reportedly bathed with acid by his wife of over 16 years, Uloma Beatrice, from Abia State.

In 2011, a suspect, Samson Igbinomewahin, 47, was arraigned at an Ebute Metta Chief Magistrate‘s Court, Lagos, for allegedly pouring acid on his wife, Mrs. Susan Jeremiah, 31.

Also, a 35-year-old man, Ndubisi Okoro in 2011 allegedly bathed his wife, Anthonia, with acid. He was arraigned before an Apapa Magistrate’s Court in Lagos, charged with attempted murder.

In November 10, 2012, a jilted man in Ikotun, an outskirt of Lagos, bathed his wife with acid. Men of Ikotun Police Division immediately arrested him. The list keeps rising everyday as acid bath has become a weapon of revenge.

http://ngrguardiannews.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=122302:man-bathes-girlfriend-with-acid&catid=3:metro&Itemid=558

jealousy!

Brilliance9000: [b]Let me state first, that I do not condone the pouring of acid on her by the Boyfriend. However, for a guy to do such a thing, he must have invested so much into the relationship; and for most people its difficult to let go. I bet he had given her so much. Typical of Nigerian women...I will continue to eat your money, your time, have you suspend your future plans for me, but when I find someone else, I have the right to dump you when and how I want. WOMEN...be careful of who you date. If you don't like a man, say it at the outset and let him go peacefully and happilly; they are other women out there that need him. Don't try to waste his time and money. You wake up one morning you just tell him it's over...what the fu$ck? What do you expect him to do if he has invested so much into you? Even if you must do this, there are slow and deliberate ways to ease yourself from someone you have known for years and you know they love you. Slowly do it and before time, you both will lose attraction and break up. Don't just do it outright...it hurts badly.

WOMEN NEVER LEAVE A RELATIONSHIP UNTIL THERE IS SOMEBODY ELSE...BELIEVE ME ON THIS. WOMEN DON'T DO THIS.[/b]

Stop with this injurious propaganda. You are justifying violence and it's wrong.

You don't know what happened. And whatever happened, he had NO RIGHT to disfigure her.
If a man says he doesn't want me anymore and I've invested so much, should I cut off his manliness? Should I poison him? Am I justified?
Is it all investments that yield dividends? Isn't there a time to cut losses and move on?

God, please save Nigerians from 'do or die' mentality.

Nigerians please help this girl,she really needs help.
Dangote,Otedola,all rich business men helping people in need is the best legacy you can leave.reach out to this innocent poor girl.

Nashoji: we are in d same ship brother, the same tin happened to me just day before yesterday, a girl dat i have dated for four years now told me dat she's no more interested in d relationship and i thought i was dreaming but i later realize is for real and i just absorb d shock and keep my kul but is too painful after making her part of me and she just discharge me for no just cause. I am stil wondering wat might be d reason for her action.

well when she has calmed down,ask her out on a date and then when you both go out,ask her your offence,if its something reasonable,adjust and if its something you cant change about yourself,kindly leave her.afterall i always know that there is no smoke without fire.but first of all ask your friends to beg her and calm her down.if you wish send her i am sorry,i still love you card irrespective of the ignorance of your offence,thats if you want to

kulyie: gbam! Some women themselves are living victims of violence,they experience it everyday so they think its normal.there was a day my friend was jisting me about how a man often beats his wife almost everyday in the flat they live so as usual,noise,shouting,throwing of things in the house was the order of the day and they wanted a stop so they went to their side when the beating was going on to stop it.to their shock the woman said what is their buisness afterall he is my husband and he is correcting me.moths later,the woman was paralyzed after he threw her from upstairs to downstairs,of course the neighbours saw what happened and no one intervened since she has told them to mind their buisness which they did.it was the gate man that rushed the woman to the hospital.people were tagging the neighbours wicked and inconsiderate for not helping the woman to the hospital yet they saw what happened without knowing that they tried to restore peace before and the man said their attention was not needed.fastforward it to a year later,the man said he cannot marry a woman on a wheel chair,that he cant be helping her pull the chair about,he kicked her out and married another woman while she went back to her parents house

the bottomline is that some women themselves see violence as a normal thing and if they are victims,that is their cup of tea because they refused to leave when they had the opportunity to and people were telling them

go and have a seat,am not a victim and I will never be.but let's us not run away from the truth,I didn't support men beating women but for a man to pour acid on a lady means he has invested so much in the relationship and I never supported the guy.

Oh my God, help that girl to regain her sight, pls let us help this girl in finance

This is very bad but sometimes women always break men heart and leave them with no choice if not to do the opposite so becareful lovers.

smothly: go and have a seat,am not a victim and I will never be.but let's us not run away from the truth,I didn't support men beating women but for a man to pour acid on a lady means he has invested so much in the relationship and I never supported the guy.

Pouring acid on her means he is an animal that doesn't belong amongst humans. Don't get it twisted!

[quote
author=Brilliance9000][b]Let me state first, that I do not condone the
pouring of acid on her by the Boyfriend. However, for a guy to do such a
thing, he must have invested so much into the relationship; and for
most people its difficult to let go. I bet he had given her so much.
Typical of Nigerian women...I will continue to eat your money, your
time, have you suspend your future plans for me, but when I find someone
else, I have the right to dump you when and how I want. WOMEN...be
careful of who you date. If you don't like a man, say it at the outset
and let him go peacefully and happilly; they are other women out there
that need him. Don't try to waste his time and money. You wake up one
morning you just tell him it's over...what the fu$ck? What do you expect
him to do if he has invested so much into you? Even if you must do
this, there are slow and deliberate ways to ease yourself from someone
you have known for years and you know they love you. Slowly do it and
before time, you both will lose attraction and break up. Don't just do
it outright...it hurts badly.

WOMEN NEVER LEAVE A RELATIONSHIP UNTIL THERE IS SOMEBODY ELSE...BELIEVE
ME ON THIS. WOMEN DON'T DO THIS.[/b][/quote]@brilliance,ya wat u said is rite,but guys do it most of the times,waking up one mornin nd tellin a gal its over wit no reason,attimes dis breaks d gals hart badly nd it wil lead to her takin drastic decision in dealin wit men.so wat u wrote is important to both genders

[quote
author=Brilliance9000][b]Let me state first, that I do not condone the
pouring of acid on her by the Boyfriend. However, for a guy to do such a
thing, he must have invested so much into the relationship; and for
most people its difficult to let go. I bet he had given her so much.
Typical of Nigerian women...I will continue to eat your money, your
time, have you suspend your future plans for me, but when I find someone
else, I have the right to dump you when and how I want. WOMEN...be
careful of who you date. If you don't like a man, say it at the outset
and let him go peacefully and happilly; they are other women out there
that need him. Don't try to waste his time and money. You wake up one
morning you just tell him it's over...what the fu$ck? What do you expect
him to do if he has invested so much into you? Even if you must do
this, there are slow and deliberate ways to ease yourself from someone
you have known for years and you know they love you. Slowly do it and
before time, you both will lose attraction and break up. Don't just do
it outright...it hurts badly.

WOMEN NEVER LEAVE A RELATIONSHIP UNTIL THERE IS SOMEBODY ELSE...BELIEVE
ME ON THIS. WOMEN DON'T DO THIS.[/b][/quote]@brilliance,ya wat u said is rite,but guys do it most of the times,waking up one mornin nd tellin a gal its over wit no reason,attimes dis breaks d gals hart badly nd it wil lead to her takin drastic decision in dealin wit men.so wat u wrote is important to both genders

devour129: you are a wonderful lady. You took me back memory lane, maybe one day I won't be too ashamed or weak to tell my story to help others. Before I go,let me make this clear,it's not only ladies from a poor family are abused! Even ladies from a very rich and popular families (in my case) face abuse. Run while you can ladies ! Very soon I will start a vigilante to deal with men like this.

hmmmm you want to start your own militia group abi? With the utterances of virtually all the females led by Kyle seeing nothing wrong in outright dumping of a guy, and also that of some men led by Brilliance9000 seeing nothing wrong in bathing a girl/woman with acid or violence against women, i can now understand why VIOLENCE still lingers in our society among genders. Instead of you all brainstorming together on how to tackle social vices, you all are here spewing thrash. As for you wanting to form your own militia against women, i wish you well but i must assure you that it will RATHER increase violence against women and/or encourage violence against men (i wonder if any of you anti-men saw that acid pouring on a man by his wife in Original post). I personally WILL NEVER CONDONE violence, at same time I'll try all within my powers to educate both women and men on the dangers of BEING in a relationship with a VIOLENT PERSON and also the consequences/punishment of practicing violence act against another human.

kulyie: see your spelling and tenses omg

Madam professor, shey dis one na spelling contest or everyone expressing their own view?oya carry your perfect spelling go central bank go collect money. By the Way, Dr. Jonathan's wife isn't considered to be EDUCATED yet she's the NUMBER 1 most powerful Woman in Nigeria/Africa due to her position. So abeg make you go sidon wit ur oyinbo english while better people hustle for their tomorrow.

Brilliance9000: [b]Let me state first, that I do not condone the pouring of acid on her by the Boyfriend. However, for a guy to do such a thing, he must have invested so much into the relationship; and for most people its difficult to let go. I bet he had given her so much. Typical of Nigerian women...I will continue to eat your money, your time, have you suspend your future plans for me, but when I find someone else, I have the right to dump you when and how I want. WOMEN...be careful of who you date. If you don't like a man, say it at the outset and let him go peacefully and happilly; they are other women out there that need him. Don't try to waste his time and money. You wake up one morning you just tell him it's over...what the fu$ck? What do you expect him to do if he has invested so much into you? Even if you must do this, there are slow and deliberate ways to ease yourself from someone you have known for years and you know they love you. Slowly do it and before time, you both will lose attraction and break up. Don't just do it outright...it hurts badly.

WOMEN NEVER LEAVE A RELATIONSHIP UNTIL THERE IS SOMEBODY ELSE...BELIEVE ME ON THIS. WOMEN DON'T DO THIS.[/b]

u're right in a way but believe me if all jilted women(who av also invested so much in the guy) were to go about doing the same thing this guy did, over 80% of our male population would av tourned to 'artificial afin'...and yes, there are many women who are sensible enough to leave a relationship when it doesn't favour them.it doesn't necessarily have to mean there is someone else....
God forgive me oh but if i were to be that girls brother or father,i'l make sure dat guy either comes out of that prison dead or maimed.shikena

lovett007: poor bitch, u deserve more acid on ur face maybe ur p*ci too, fucking Gold digger, u hav got the gold bt u wnt enjoy it. Guy u did well. I dnt knw what gals feel like this days?

I WISH U D SAME TOO RUBBISH

Guys abeg know d ex of ur girl cos if she had been seeing anoda guy,then na murder tins 4 wetin man no know..psychos living wt inferiority complex falling in love..na wa oo

Charles Shaw: The man must v bn truly devastated nd saw Life not worth living 4 him 2 do such.
He must hv rlly bn Hrt broken,
Take note they were once described as LoveBirds, just dat he took it 2 d extreme.
His action is Condemnable.

Love birds in nigeria most times means violent relationship.Couples that fights and makes up all the time.Some of the naive women even see the beating as a sign of affection and they tend to hang on to a guy who doesn't even know how to love himself.

It is sad and i wish i can help in any little way.

And another question comes to mind,why can't nigerian doctors ever do something to help those in dire needs instead of referring them to india?India is suppose to be a developing world like nigeria too.

redsun: And another question comes to mind,why can't nigerian doctors ever do something to help those in dire needs instead of referring them to india?India is suppose to be a developing world like nigeria too.

so they wont feed their families abi they are charity workers

barcanista: Madam professor, shey dis one na spelling contest or everyone expressing their own view?oya carry your perfect spelling go central bank go collect money. By the Way, Dr. Jonathan's wife isn't considered to be EDUCATED yet she's the NUMBER 1 most powerful Woman in Nigeria/Africa due to her position. So abeg make you go sidon wit ur oyinbo english while better people hustle for their tomorrow.

hahahahah na so e pain you reach.i dey correct you,if you like vex pass this one you no go beat me.by the way the first lady wey you dey use do example,no be she dey throw grammatical bomb so na your role model be that thats nice

if you ask me who i go ask
yes so many useless families abound these days

kulyie: no mind am.if he can say that kind of nonsense there,its just a reflection or an idea of how he treats his mother and other female relatives at home.they say charity begins from home.a man that treats his mother like thrash cannot treat a girlfriend any better.

There are many useless families out there.a woman needs to be 1oo percent careful of the type of family she wants to bear their surname and have kids for. Tufiaaakwa.

Afterall we've heard of men raping their mothers and even their grandmothers.the pleasure they derive from such disgusting acts is what i dont understand.the mere thought of having erection for your mother,talkless of forcefully insering your penis into her vagina is beyond sickening

kulyie:

meanwhile i blame the girl too because even the bible said it is profitable for men to get wisdom and in the getting,get understanding.you know your boyfriend is a violent/aggressive person,yet you stayed in that relationship FOR WHAT.what does the boy have to offer you that you cannot work for.its not like he built a house for you,bought you a land,a car or did something spectacular,yet you stayed.anyway good to know both parties got rewarded for their foolishness and gross STEWPEEDITY.if she had walked out long ago when she saw characteristics of violence,she wont be a victim of acid bath.

If I've never seen a female misogynist, I've seen one in you. Why are you always eager to bring down your own gender no matter what. If you had read the opening post you won't have typed the trash you wrote there. if basic comprehension is your problem let me summarise the story in three short sentences
1. The lady left the guy because he was too abusive (as against your silly assertion that she stuck with him till she got burned).
2. The guy asked her to come and see him OUTSIDE and she obliged (did some people here not blame the Laspotech babe for letting her lunatic ex come in?)
3. He asked her if she wants him and he dumps the acid on her blinding her in the process.

Somehow in all these, you still managed to place blame on the woman (Smh). I wonder what your own reward for displaying gross steeewpidity on this thread will be.

dominique:

If I've never seen a female misogynist, I've seen one in you. Why are you always eager to bring down your own gender no matter what. If you had read the opening post you won't have typed the trash you wrote there. if basic comprehension is your problem let me summarise the story in three short sentences
1. The lady left the guy because he was too abusive (as against your silly assertion that she stuck with him till she got burned).
2. The guy asked her to come and see him OUTSIDE and she obliged (did some people here not blame the Laspotech babe for letting her lunatic ex come in?)
3. He asked her if she wants him and he dumps the acid on her blinding her in the process.

Somehow in all these, you still managed to place blame on the woman (Smh). I wonder what your own reward for displaying gross steeewpidity on this thread will be.

i am NOT blaming the girl NEITHER AM I BRINGING ANYGENDER DOWN,PLEASE DONT MISQUOTE ME

Perfect post!

Amaaskia:


I'm not enjoying the fact that you've enjoyed advising women instead of men, especially as you're a man.
You are NOT a woman. You totally don't know how it feels...
Have you thought of reasons why she lost interest?
She's 23, maybe she just got smarter? Figured he wasn't enough for her?
Don't we have choices again?
Don't we have the right to walk away from whatever relationships we've lost interest in?
Okay, he spent on her.. How much did he even spend?
Didn't she dedicate her time and possibly (love n body) to him as well? I'm certain he didn't spend up to 1million naira on her, he had no right whatsoever to pour acid on her and indirectly end her life.
What if she's her parents only child? Then cause of some probably poverty stricken lazy man, her life must end
She's just 23, probably still immature and testing waters- regardless he should have listened to her. Listened to her reasons: maybe he stopped doing the things that made her love him in the first place, he probably got boring or something. Or she realised he wasn't serious enough for her.
Men too, no matter how hard it could hurt.. Yall are just gonna have to move on. Its obviously no longer working, love no longer mutual. Would you guys rather have your gfs pretend all through the relationship? Seriously?!
Its not working, end it and move on.
Nobody wants to be stuck in a sad and fake relationship, unless you enjoy lying to yourself.
Men too, learn to listen and let go if she wants to go!
Love can't be forced and expected to work.
My point is everybody has choices!
Oh and please what makes you think 'Nigerian men' are all serious and willing to get married ? Or have sensible future plans?
There's always GOOD and BAD.