Olushola_Odeh: That's just a lazy posman who was looking for opportunity..e May God forbid has nothing to do with culture.

Mrs.Chima:


Didn't you supposedly married a Nigerian chick What is the difference between a Nigerian woman and a Nigerian man

I will wait.

Princess1982: Heart broken if he really just married you for a green card then you should contact your local immigration office. They will be able to advise you better but are you sure he didn't love you at one point of time then grew tired of you and now your just bitter because he left you and now you want to see him deported?

Mrs.Chima:
LMAO@that bullshit above.

I see why Africans on this site go hard at you. It is hard to convince them Black American men aren't all dumb and uneducated when you keep proving their point.

Where is the source for the mathematical figures you threw out?

I will wait.

Oh...you are right...I am blessed that I TOOK MY TIME and waited for the right man REGARDLESS of his heritage. Trifling and dirty men COME IN ALL HERITAGES, SIZES, AND LOCATIONS. You wouldn't know about that.

Blyss:
Awww, did I hit a nerve sis? There's no need in denying the obvious.

Mrs.Chima:


Oh...your compliment was supposed to hit a nerve I am proud of my choice and made a damn good one.

You are right...lets not deny the obvious that you can't produce any mathematical facts of your bullshit and that it is very seldom African girls born to African parents date/marry Black American boys.

Yeah...lets not deny the obvious. BTW: I am not your sister...never was nor never would be.

nonda510: I am a college educated African American women, who dated a Igbo man for six years before marrying him. I was pursuing my college education. I thought he was pursuing his business. I thought we had a wonderful relationship until I decided to go to Nigeria to marry him. The day before marrying him, I found messages from other women where they both flirting with each other. After we married and I returned to the U.S. all hell brok e loose. I started too receive phone calls from different people in Nigeria. A month later, someone emailed me several emails where my now husband was communicating with other women asking them to marry him, he has nude pictures on my computer, and saved messages from other women. To make matters worst, he does not work, did not pay for the ring, and has not given me a penny since we have been married (8months). He told me it is a part of the culture for a husband to do nothing. However, when he gets to the U.S. he will find a job. Meanwhile, he hang out with his friends and do things for his family. He will pick and choose when he wants to talk to me on the phone.

The question, I pose is this, Is this really an African Igbo cultural thing?

BrokenHeart: No one is coming here to be abused. We are asking questions because I am going to be real here American men do not do things like this. We have tried to be respectful towards Nigerians, and Nigerian culture, and basically what i know now i would not even post. But a lazy American husband would still bring something to the table, and cook dinner. American women who marry Nigerian men are not desperate. Most likely are college educated. I am sorry Americans tend to be more honest, and when we love we love. But no one is going to sponsor some lazy ass liar and bring them to America here. This would be viewed as a security issue for my country sponsoring some fake oko. My fake husband can stay in 9ja until he dies. Just want to know if the different ages on the passport and National ID card can help for an annulment or divorce for marriage fraud. and I am trying to find a marriage registry site online to see if I can research his marriage/marriges. If anyone has any information as to whether there is an online wedding registry site it would be greatly appreciated, I can and will find someone else that is real like the other ladies who went through this marriage scam. The men who did this are criminals, and you would think Nigerians would be ashamed of all this. The corruption problems are so deep there, that they may be in a lot of the general population, not just the government officials. In my country if a man did this he would be viewed as a criminal, and be arrested. This should be unacceptable what is going on. All this scamming effects your economy and tourism potentials, and even job opportunities. This effects the way Nigeria is viewed globally. Eventually enough Americans will not trust Nigerians's period. I can divorce my criminal for very little money, but I do not recognize this as a valid marriage, and I am going to try for an annulment. Maybe any of us who have been through this ordeal should contact the Nigerian Embassy, and let them know who the duper is, and find out how to file marriage fraud charges in Nigeria instead of asking for help here. I will not even admit I am married to this person in my country. And that marriage certificate he will never get his hands on in life. Ladies keep your marriage certificates because these men will marry another victim, and the proof what happened is with you, and keeping the marriage certificate can lead one day to criminal prosecution for bigamy, or someone who committed marriage fraud. Its 2-10 years imprisonment if you remember what they told us at the marraige registry, and that is not imprisonment for us. It is for the men who have lied to us, married for a possbile green card, and/ or committed bigamy, and most likely paid bribes. It's just shameful what is going on really.

Mrs.Chima:
You are right...lets not deny the obvious that you can't produce any mathematical facts of your bullshit and that it is very seldom African girls born to African parents date/marry Black American boys.

Blyss:

LOL, why are you always so moody? You need to relax sometimes, sis.

tpia@:
i think guys generally dont waste their time when women do not seem overly interested in them.


unless there are other factors involved such as material gain of some sort, they prefer not stressing themselves out over women who dont seem to "dig" them, compared to women who do.

and when you have a larger pool of women to choose from, such as is obtained in america, they'll definitely just stick to the ones who are more open to them (mainly the non-africans of other nationalities and races).

african women can be very reserved, traditional minded and tend not to be into AA men so much, unless they spent a long time abroad or were born and raised there.

so i doubt AA males would consider them a priority when deciding who to date. Its extra work, so to speak.

H-Star89:


Thats true but I don't like it when people flip it to make it seem as if AA guys are getting turned down by African women. A lot of AA guys go for mixed or white american women more so than they go for african women or even asian women; My dad and bf are prime examples.

Mrs.Chima:
LMAO@that bullshit above.

I see why Africans on this site go hard at you. It is hard to convince them Black American men aren't all dumb and uneducated when you keep proving their point.

Where is the source for the mathematical figures you threw out?

I will wait.

Oh...you are right...I am blessed that I TOOK MY TIME and waited for the right man REGARDLESS of his heritage. Trifling and dirty men COME IN ALL HERITAGES, SIZES, AND LOCATIONS. You wouldn't know about that.

Nalijah: Recently I was in a discussion with a few American women and the topic was "Marrying Nigerian Men". The women claimed that Nigerian men wee demanding, boring, had no romantic nature, and only thought of themselves when having sex. They said Nigerian men were very hard to please. They mentioned that their relaionships with the Nigerian men were fine until the men got citizenship. They claimed once the Nigerian men got USA Citizenship their personalities changed completely. I found this very hard to believe since I am married to a Naija man. I was yold 95% of the Nigerian men that marry American women want citizenship/green card status. I find this hard to believe since I am an American woman that marrried a Nigerian man. All men are hard to please if there is a lack of understanding.

Nalijah: Recently I was in a discussion with a few American women and the topic was "Marrying Nigerian Men". The women claimed that Nigerian men wee demanding, boring, had no romantic nature, and only thought of themselves when having sex. They said Nigerian men were very hard to please. They mentioned that their relaionships with the Nigerian men were fine until the men got citizenship. They claimed once the Nigerian men got USA Citizenship their personalities changed completely. I found this very hard to believe since I am married to a Naija man. I was yold 95% of the Nigerian men that marry American women want citizenship/green card status. I find this hard to believe since I am an American woman that marrried a Nigerian man. All men are hard to please if there is a lack of understanding.

osram: m not only interested that they are white,i also do love and cherish them because of their livestyle(simple) and also they are trustworthy,faithful,submisive and obidient.

9jaforever:


This is hysterical! I am a black woman married to a Nigerian man and I am all of those things TO HIM! He is a great man and husband, I am treated with love and respect and because of his treatment of me, I am loyal, faithful, submissive and obedient! Women (regardless of race) can be good wives or bad ones. I have an alpha personality in all that I do but that leaves once I'm with my husband. HE is the MAN and I love the man that he is