Folks, how many of you have noticed this norm? I have encountered and heard of scenarios whereby some vital family decisions have been put on hold because of certain directives from abroad. Probably because the ''been to'' member of the family who is not around feels he has to dictate who does what and what action is in vogue or archaic.

Most times this is worst with folks in the UK. I know of a landlord friend who made funny decrees in the agreements with his tenants. The funniest one being that the tenants cannot harbour visitors in their flat for more than 30 days. And would have to notify the caretaker in writing in advance of any visit that would exceed the stipulated 30 days; imagine!

He forgot that this is not UK, after all hospitality is part of African culture . All advice as a friend has fallen on deaf ears. Any witness guys?

If anything, i think it's because those at home have inferiority complex and feel they have to hear from the guy that lives abroad before they go ahead with an action

Maybe because those of us abroad are actually smarter and more informed?

The funniest one being that the tenants cannot harbour visitors in their flat for more than 30 days. And would have to notify the caretaker in writing in advance of any visit that would exceed the stipulated 30 days; imagine! He forgot that this is not UK, after all hospitality is part of African culture . All advice has a friend has fallen on deaf ears.

dude... do you realize that as a landlord your property depreciates ( looses value) faster the more people are living in it? That stipulation is there so that his tenants don't flood his property with permanent "visitors" who aren't paying him. Hospitality be damned business is business.

You should let more capable people make the important decisions.

Afam4eva: If anything, i think it's because those at home have inferiority complex and feel they have to hear from the guy that lives abroad before they go ahead with an action

Sure bro. More like a case of who pays the piper dictates the tune. Especially those families where the abroad guy stamps down his lordship with Western Union ala hard currency. This is very common when a key figure in the family dies.

Maybe because those of us abroad are actually smarter and more informed .[/quote] Hmm......don't tell me you mean that?

^ From the bottom on my heart

Your comment about leasing and 30 day visitors shows a shocking level of ignorance.

pleep: ^ From the bottom on my heart

Your comment about leasing and 30 day visitors shows a shocking level of ignorance.

Talking abt ignorance, the fact that a person stays abroad doesn't bestow on him an avalanche of knowledge on every leasing and tenancy laws. Go thru my post again for better judgement. I am talking about him giving consideration to the family ties entrenched in our lifestyle. At least the visitor could be a friend who just got DEPORTED or a brother who just got a new job in town and needs some months to figure himself out. That could be obtainable abroad but am talking of Nigeria!! Most of these 'akata' folks lived their earlier years in Nigeria but easily shed off the norms they grew up in cos of abroad mentality. SMH.

Why is deported in caps?

Since the topic is concerning Nigerians abroad i think its appropriate

Its nt their fault.. When ah was on ma way tew Hackney @ U.K, the plane flew upwards throughout the journey. Buh when ah was cumin bck tew 9ja, d plane flew downward thruout.. Ah cum dey wonda maybe na person take hand throw my plane down..

donadexco: Its nt their fault.. When ah was on ma way tew Hackney @ U.K, the plane flew upwards throughout the journey. Buh when ah was cumin bck tew 9ja, d plane flew downward thruout.. Ah cum dey wonda maybe na person take hand throw my plane down..

Clap for yaself!!

What does it matter.. we continue to remain a potential. A mythical giant of Africa with the worlds fastest growing GDP and over a population of 129 million living under a dollar a day. Clap for yaself

voltron:
What does it matter.. we continue to remain a potential. A mythical giant of Africa with the worlds fastest growing GDP and over a population of 129 million living under a dollar a day. Clap for yaself

And living abroad changes the fact that you are also part of the system, only that you chose to live abroad?...........Your type methinks, are the ones who are quick to dissociate themselves from their origin. Anyways, I trust the real whites to remind you once in a while where your true origin lies. When it comes call on me I will give you an advising mouth (listening ear is for the non escapists).

McStoic:
And living abroad changes the fact that you are also part of the system, only that you chose to live abroad?...........Your type methinks, are the ones who are quick to dissociate themselves from their origin. Anyways, I trust the real whites to remind you once in a while where your true origin lies. When it comes call on me I will give you an advising mouth (listening ear is for the non escapists).

what does it matter where i live and my origin. there are regions where one can take advantage of some benefits not available in Nigeria and given the lack of such opportunities here, working a safe plan is better than surviving a risky one. Lagos is not the only State in Nigeria and 2Face phenomenon is rare compared to the 127 million Nigerians alive today. It is not an escapist strategy.. can you change Nigeria with enough time for your children to enjoy the future you have created 20 years later?. I am not willing to place that bet

That is a fallacy. The ones i know always talk down on the country.

It is cos Nigerians are poor at heart...

pleep:
Maybe because those of us abroad are actually smarter and more informed?

How does washing plates overseas and doing prostitution count as smart?

Haha. I think this question should rather be asked in reverse, like: why do Nigerians who've never travelled abroad feel inferior to those who have??

Dont you guys get tired of recycling this same old story?

as ednut land nigeria afta 3 years in uk, armed with his gangster cloths and yeye uk accent he be wan dey form for nigeria. afta one week nobody tell am to change hin accent bk to nigeria own , those who do it are jst silly, dey form mumu yankee swags

power of euros , pound and dollars maybe...but eeeich I am abroad and I miss Nigeria... but If you stay abroad generally people back home make u feel superior it is just Nigeria 4 u... but I tell u sometimes Nigeria is better than where ever u go minus electricity sha

No one can make you feel inferior without your permission - Eleanor Roosevelt.

ajuju

A traveler is wiser than an old man

because dos @ home feel inferior

The tribalistic e-war transpiring on this thread is the reason why>> www.nairaland.com/2281011/abacha-offers-oladipo-diya-handkerchief

who tells u they have superiority complex?