I have a lady I love so much n she love me too, She has all the good qualities of a marriable woman and she is doing well carreer wise, but she does not have the physical structure of a woman I had in mind.
Now my Biggest fear is infidelity in marriage, I don't wanna do that at all, but if I go ahead to marry her, that which I fear may happen but if I leave her, I don't know if I will find a woman that will return my love and respect me too.

Married men and women pls I need ur advise?

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I have a lady I love so much n she love me too, She has all the good qualities of a marriable woman and she is doing well carreer wise, but she does not have the physical structure of a woman I had in mind.
Now my Biggest fear is infidelity in marriage, I don't wanna do that at all, but if I go ahead to marry her, that which I fear may happen but if I leave her, I don't know if I will find a woman that will return my love and respect me too.

Married men and women pls I need ur advise?

Let me first ask you. Are u a complete/perfect man in terms of physique, finance, emotions etc?
Am very sure u aint! So y did u ask her out in d first place and you are now in love with her so much?
Didnt u see d physical structure be4 u asked her out? And if she just developed d stature, why didnt u caution her when she was developing it if u truly love her?
The same way you see a clause in ds lady is d same way she sees a clause in you but due to d true love she has for you, she has decided to keep it to herself in order not to hurt you.
U cant find a perfect woman that has everything u want in a woman out there
You may not know d value of ds lady until u lose her.
If the structure is wot she can work on , help her with love and if dre is no solution, deal with it

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The world is surely coming to an end soon.

See who is talking. Why don't you look yourself in the mirror and start analyzing yourself.
The girl sef should have come to nairaland to complain about your yeye English..
OP, what the feck is Marriable?

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I have a lady I love so much n she love me too, She has all the good qualities of a marriable woman and she is doing well carreer wise, but she does not have the physical structure of a woman I had in mind.
Now my Biggest fear is infidelity in marriage, I don't wanna do that at all, but if I go ahead to marry her, that which I fear may happen but if I leave her, I don't know if I will find a woman that will return my love and respect me too.

Married men and women pls I need ur advise?

I truly appreciate your honesty for a number of reasons. The first thing you should know is that we eat with our eyes first. However, love is the only thing that can endure and withstand the test of time. You are among the lucky people in the world who can actually say they have found true love. What is the physical structure that you want? Is she over weight, has one leg and one arm, short, tall. If the physical structure something that she can change? If the answer is yes then you don't have a problem. If the answer is no, then you have to decide whether your undying love for her is worth more than the physical structure. The fact that you could love her despite the physical structure says to me that she is really a woman to hold on to. Love should keep you home. Don't marry her if you plan on cheating on her...don't make her a miserable wife please.

Beauty will fade, physique will fade but love endureth forever. If this said lady has the quality you need in a wife like you have said, gives you peace of mind when you are together, settle down with her. If your cant cope with her phisique please dont hurt, leave her now that its early. Fellow your heart, that still small voice speaking to you.

If you know you aren't physically attracted to her and think you will end up cheating on her,
then you need to leave her alone and let her find someone who will love and accept her the way she is.

Thanks for the advice though! What I haven't made you is the fact that we met on FACEBOOK 2009 and we have been charting both on BBM, WHATSAPP and others, she has assisted me several times on accademic things since she knows some of the relevant lecturers in my department. Well she is so tall and big, that I like but she lacks the BACK side of the equation. I have actually been telling my mind I can deal with that but on the other side I feel incomplete because its not what I have always pictured and you know what happens when you look good as a guy and doing well, some kind of choice is always expected of you. I had been toasting since that 2009, of which she gave a condition that I must visit her in her house of which I did August 2012. And ever after she saw me she has been the one following up on me. We started going out late last year but the whole thing is going so fast, that's y I came up with this opinion-poll/suggestion! However, to those that have handled this issue like its their's God bless you and to others God bless u too and teach you to apply wisdom on serious things! Thanks once again!

Are you a structural engineer?

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Thanks for the advice though! What I haven't made you is the fact that we met on FACEBOOK 2009 and we have been charting both on BBM, WHATSAPP and others, she has assisted me several times on accademic things since she knows some of the relevant lecturers in my department. Well she is so tall and big, that I like but she lacks the BACK side of the equation. I have actually been telling my mind I can deal with that but on the other side I feel incomplete because its not what I have always pictured and you know what happens when you look good as a guy and doing well, some kind of choice is always expected of you. I had been toasting since that 2009, of which she gave a condition that I must visit her in her house of which I did August 2012. And ever after she saw me she has been the one following up on me. We started going out late last year but the whole thing is going so fast, that's y I came up with this opinion-poll/suggestion! However, to those that have handled this issue like its their's God bless you and to others God bless u too and teach you to apply wisdom on serious things! Thanks once again!

You mean she has a small butt? All she has to do are squats and lunges with weights. That is so not an issue. Save yourself hard ache and just workout with her. You don't have a problem.

D-mouthed:
Thanks for the advice though! What I haven't made you is the fact that we met on FACEBOOK 2009 and we have been charting both on BBM, WHATSAPP and others, she has assisted me several times on accademic things since she knows some of the relevant lecturers in my department. Well she is so tall and big, that I like but she lacks the BACK side of the equation. I have actually been telling my mind I can deal with that but on the other side I feel incomplete because its not what I have always pictured and you know what happens when you look good as a guy and doing well, some kind of choice is always expected of you. I had been toasting since that 2009, of which she gave a condition that I must visit her in her house of which I did August 2012. And ever after she saw me she has been the one following up on me. We started going out late last year but the whole thing is going so fast, that's y I came up with this opinion-poll/suggestion! However, to those that have handled this issue like its their's God bless you and to others God bless u too and teach you to apply wisdom on serious things! Thanks once again!

You mean she has a small butt? All she has to do are squats and lunges with weights. That is so not an issue. Save yourself hard ache and just workout with her. You don't have a problem.

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