ROSYL: @OP who made you judge Judy?...Never judge another person until you have walked a mile in his/her shoes.
FYI There's a huge difference between a sperm donor and a father, in other words, being a sperm donor does not make you a father. So pls step aside and leave the poor girl alone......ok.

T-john:
Is not everyman that impregnates a woman that is called father
Fathers do much more than that. When a woman doubles as both father and mother,
the children also regard her as Daddy. kudos to such strong women out there.

ngwana.mobu:
There's nothing insulting about it. If her father didn't man-up and do what was expected of him then it's good that she sent her mom that message! Respect to all the single mothers out there.

Temismith: Maybe her mum na hemaphrodite as in sheemale

tpia@:



why would a child regard their mother as their father?






father's day, not women support day.

if the father is absent, and there's no male figure that can be addressed as the same, then God is always a father.

no need for unnecessary drama, time wey una suppose dey prepare for relationship, una go take am abuse men.

smh.

ngwana.mobu:

Yes, you're right, God is my Father. But there shouldn't be anything wrong with me acknowledging all the hard work my mom went through to raise me, with NO help from my earthly father. As for marriage, I aint about that life!!

ngwana.mobu:

Yes, you're right, God is my Father. But there shouldn't be anything wrong with me acknowledging all the hard work my mom went through to raise me, with NO help from my earthly father. As for marriage, I aint about that life!!

T-john:


why would a child regard their mother as their father?






Because, it takes more than just knocking a woman down for 9months to be called a "Father"
You need to earn that name.

God richly bless you for that . . . .

Fhemmmy:

For a child that grew up seeing her mother being the man of the house and taking care of her, it will be hard for such child to wish the "Man" a father's day cos being a father is more than being a sperm donor.

tpia@:


is commenting on father's day a must?

Fhemmmy:

Do you know what it feels like for a child to grow up with a father not taking up his role as a father, do you ever imagine what goes through her mind when you and i are calling our father on father's day and writing on facebook, how wonderful and great our father is? Sometimes, it is not about how it is done, but we have to look deep into the heart of the person.
The best way for her to heal of whatever she went through was to send the credit to her Mom on that day and i am not sure she is wrong at all.

do you know what it feels like for a child to grow up with a father not taking up his role as a father

tpia@:


unless her mum is a transgender, i fail to see how that was the best way for her to heal.

did her mum raise her to diss her father?

that isnt how to show respect or appreciation for your mum, are you saying your mum is attracted to useless people?

that is the message you're sending!

writing on facebook, how wonderful and great our father is?

Fhemmmy:

I am not sure how you are reading and where you are reading all that from.
A father and a mother gives birth to a child, the father decide to leave his role to the woman to play . . The child is grown and on father's day, instead of saying Happy father's day to her father, she decided to give the credit to her mother cos the woman stood for her and play all the roles both as a father as a mother.
How does that shows she is attracted to what you said.
How does that shows that she is transgender?
I am sorry, i am lost . . Help me out

tpia@:


what i'm saying is there is no need to become miserable on father's day just because you're angry or bitter at your father.

that one day will not change whatever it is you're bitter about, your action will only magnify it.

imagine the pain that will be if such lady has a room mate at the University and the dad is always call and before the friend is off the phone, she hears "I love you too, Dad" my brother, it is not easy to not hold such pain, there are so many thing she might wanna talk to her father about, there would have been so many days, that she just want that father to say "I love you to her"

tpia@:


well, all that lovey dovey is mostly western stuff but i get your point.

when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.

people are not the same, if your roommate has a dad, that in no way means you should get bitter at not having one.

neither does it mean your roommate doesnt have her own challenges and trials also, which you might not have.

tpia@:
^ok, no need to argue the matter, actually.

to each their own.

Fhemmmy:

Lol . . . Was not really an argument but just could relate with her pain. . . wont argue with myself oh.

tpia@:

she's not the only one with pain, all people are trying to do is help her find ways to manage it better.