+First of all, find someone whom you're
attracted to . Obviously, a certain person is
not the right partner for you if you're not even
attracted to him/her. When we say'attracted',
make sure that you don't like them only
because of their looks,what we mean is that
the person has adequate amount of 'appeal'
for you. Remember, beauty is only skin-deep.
Even if you find somebody who is very
beautiful/handsome, his/her personality may
not be compatible with yours. Wouldn't you
rather be with someone who is good-looking,
and whose personality is great? If you love
someone JUST for the looks, it's not real love,
and the person is not the right partner for you.
+Now, find interests between you and
your potential partner . That way,you can
enjoy doing things and talking about them
together without getting bored. Often times,
having too many different interests requires
you or your partner to sacrifice ones desires
for the happiness of the other. Eventually, it
may lead to ego problems and
misunderstandings, so as much as possible,
choose a potential partner who shares a lot of
common interests with you. Remember that
they don't have to have ALL the same
interests as you, because that would get
boring. Sometimes, being with someone with
a few different interests makes life more
exciting because you get to experience some
of his/her interests.
+Consider you and your partners
intellect . If you are an over-achiever with too
many honors and your partner is very laid-
back and would prefer to just sit and watch TV
all day, that could impose a threatto your
relationship. It is very important that you see
eye to eye in terms of how you both are able
to think and process things. It sounds shallow
at first, but just imagine yourself talking to a
person who frustrates you because he/she
cannot understand what you are saying or
doing. You don't need to both be geniuses, but
you need to have around the same intellect
level.
+When choosing a future partner, it's okay
to have standards ! You almost want to treat
it like hiring someone for a job. Does he/she fit
the description on which your idealpartner
should be? Remember, don't just choose
whoever. This is your potential life partner!
You wouldn't just pick someone offthe street
to hire for a job, so why pick a random person
as your partner?
+Make sure that you both respecteach
other . You can't spend your life with someone
who has no respect for you, your personality,
and your goals/dreams. You and your partner
should always respect each other.
Is your potential partner trustworthy?
Can you count on your partner tokeep your
secrets? Can you bring your partner out to
dinner and not have to worry about him/her
checking out that hot girl/guy over at the next
table? Could you leave for a weekend and
know that your partner wouldn't sleep with
someone else? Think about these questions.
+Spend time together. How are you
supposed to know if he/she is the right partner
for you if you don't spend time together? Go
on dates with your partner and go out to
different places with him/her. Get to know
him/her well. After all, if you two decide to
spend the rest of your life together, you can't
really do that if you two can't stand to spend a
day together!
don't make any mistake in choosing your life partner because you might regret later