Sometimes ladies who wind up in abusive relationships say they never knew and he just suddenly changed and they think he will revert back to the man they once knew and loved. That doesn't usually happen because there is a particular pattern with abusive people the funny thing is that you might even find it endearing because we all love attention. If you are afraid that you or someone you love may be getting into an abusive situation, here are some signs to look for:
Excessive and quick commitment to relationships: After just one week of talking and getting to know you he has declared his undying love and is talking marriage? C’mon son! Doesn't he know that we all put our best foots first when it comes to relationships? Perhaps he doesn't care because he knows he will whip you into shape when the time comes anyway. Usually you might notice a kind of dual personality.

Excessive monitoring: A man who checks your calls and makes sure the logs are complete to know that none of the calls were deleted then downloads a software to record your conversations and knows where you have been by checking your location using Google latitude is definitely a potential abuser.
Isolation: He has a problem with all your friends. He wants you to dump them and your family she stay at arms length too? Yes, So that no one can hear you scream… just like a horror movie. They are insecure but presents a false sense of superiority

Extremely possessive and jealous, confused with love: He is suspicious if you go anywhere without him and does not expect you to have any male friends at all even a call from an old highschool friend could get him really upset with you and accusing you of infidelity.
Control of all money: He wants all control of your money. Often an abuser will ask you to agree to quit the job you love if you want the marriage to go ahead. He wants your total dependence on him and him alone. Read the rest here:http:///13fxlcl

Erm.....op, I think the reverse is the case here. The advice should be addressed to guys

Sorry OP, i could not read ur post. Try to use numbers and paragraphs.It makes reading easier.

xynerise: Erm.....op, I think the reverse is the case here. The advice should be addressed to guys

lmaooo...yeah some ladies could be abusers too. But generally speaking domestic abuse is usually towards women

Sorry it wasnt clear b4, i've modified it.