Chillisauce:

Odi egwu!

After now u go start checking the prices on Internet!

Ujujoan:

You are right, love is EVERYTHING . . .

The problem is that most people mistake lust for love these days, that's why they are advised not to marry out of 'love'!

Without love, a marriage cannot succeed . . . . but only REAL love stands the test of time.

On my wedding day, I read from the scripture where men were advised to love their wives the way Christ loves the church. So much more that he was willing to give up his life for our sake.

That kind of love does not come overnight. you can only build that kind of love with someone you trust and respect. Someone you value like a friend . . .

Chillisauce: Mgbeketoto, you make so much sense but this your user name na wa!


Very funny!

A post marry your lover and friend.....not your fvck mate!


If you can't find any, marry your friend , then look for fvck mate .


Life is short!

Gaggi: "...... It's better to be without a woman than a troublesome one...."[color=#990000][/color]

sleekdot: ...If the 6 packs turn to potbelly, If the firm boobbs turn to slippers, If the smooth skin becomes wrinkled...

bigheart2013:

....hahahahaha! So why do people put in all these efforts...just to attract fake people in their lives?...using your own hard-earned cash to buy trouble?......

I recommend every African mother must read this story to her little daughter: "How A Lazy Trickster Married A Princess" - Chapter Seven on this book I found on internet - African Bedtime Stories (1).

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B007NFLB5S/ref=rdr_kindle_ext_tmb

The lesson: Too high expectations and materialism erodes values. And you wonder why celebrity marriages crash within months despite all the wealth they seem to have...a Must read for kids..Values! values!! values!!!, people.

Ujujoan:

I'm not saying true love is only sanctioned in a church, I was only making reference to that scripture so you will have a better understanding of the kind of love required in a marriage.

Woged2005:

Ok. I understand. Though I wonder where that kind of love can be found today...A rare blessing to find these days. sometime too I wonder why pastors and brothers who preach same Love in the church always marry the most beautiful out-going sisters, and not the k-legged prayer warriors who do the spiritual battles behind?.... I guess modern love can be 'channeled' to where ur mind is...

Ujujoan:

Isn't that the problem with the world today? There's just not enough love . . . Today's world is every man for himself and this ideology is transferred into marriages. Little wonder homes are breaking up!

I guess to find real happiness one has to search for real love . . not marrying for looks or money or lust, but marrying for LOVE!

I believe that no matter how badly matched a couple might appear to be, with love and understanding, they can make it work!

Ujujoan:

You are right, love is EVERYTHING . . .

The problem is that most people mistake lust for love these days, that's why they are advised not to marry out of 'love'!

Without love, a marriage cannot succeed . . . . but only REAL love stands the test of time.

On my wedding day, I read from the scripture where men were advised to love their wives the way Christ loves the church. So much more that he was willing to give up his life for our sake.

That kind of love does not come overnight. you can only build that kind of love with someone you trust and respect. Someone you value like a friend . . .

bukatyne:

Uju, you hit the nail on the head

A lot of us do not know what true/genuine love really means.

I cor 13: 1 - 8 outlines it.

@OP,

Lover has always meant bedmate or se.x partner.

Your proverb can translate to 'marry your friend and not your se.x partner'

There are friends take stick closer than family members, that really love their friends and die for them. David and Jonathan in the Bible exhibited such friendship

vivianc: Love is not enough for marriage, marriage is beyond romance and mushiness. Its more practical than these.........

If the sole reason you wanna marry someone is because you are insanely in love with the person and you over look some vital issues, those issues will come back and frustrates your love.

Who is a friend? I think a friend is someone you often agree with because he/she is a lot more like you. Practically, I have realised that for you to be friends with someone, there must be a part of you that's in that person. And yes, often times we fall in love with people that's entirely opposite us which brings about untold friction in that relationship. While our heads are screening "get out now before its too late!" Our hearts are saying "love conquers all, love would make everything alright, there is no perfect person out there."

Well, I have got some news for you; love doesn't make somethings alright! Rather it gets frustrated!

No matter how much you melt in his/her arms, if you guys are opposite of each in a not so good way, it might not work.

My opinion.

Woged2005:

But the word 'Lover' is from 'Love'. Are we finally admitting somehow that it's not a practical word?

vivianc: Love is not enough for marriage, marriage is beyond romance and mushiness. Its more practical than these.........

If the sole reason you wanna marry someone is because you are insanely in love with the person and you over look some vital issues, those issues will come back and frustrates your love.

Who is a friend? I think a friend is someone you often agree with because he/she is a lot more like you. Practically, I have realised that for you to be friends with someone, there must be a part of you that's in that person. And yes, often times we fall in love with people that's entirely opposite us which brings about untold friction in that relationship. While our heads are screening "get out now before its too late!" Our hearts are saying "love conquers all, love would make everything alright, there is no perfect person out there."

Well, I have got some news for you; love doesn't make somethings alright! Rather it gets frustrated!

No matter how much you melt in his/her arms, if you guys are opposite of each in a not so good way, it might not work.

My opinion.

jidegirl12:
Way of Love 1cor13:7

7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.= Test of Marriage

Not a big fan of quoting bible verses cos of diff meaning... By the way that verse is exactly what some Nlers blame mothers teaching their married daughters to emulate = Endurance.

Abi 'To endure all things' = Abuse inclusive? or are we to edit that part?

Anyways like I've stated, To each and his owns.

bukatyne:


That said, there is knowledge, understanding and wisdom

Knowledge is knowing the 'something'
Understanding is applying the 'something' practically
Wisdom is knowing which 'something' to apply in each circumstances.

Funny, but this is actually the JD of a husband and not wife

Prov 31: 10 -31 would help wives....

jidegirl12:

Predictable !! I already knew that'll be the next response.

Anyhooo... As for 'knowing and application of that thing'' goes ....whatever works for anybody... I married my friendly lover sam sam. Ish



Mixup Mystification... Oh why I Love my go to Al-Qoran sometimes.

bukatyne:

If you are a Christian, read I Cor 13: 1 - 8 to know what God means by love. All other definitions na wash!

It's well

bigheart2013:

Ok. How then do we explain 'Love' to the teaming population of the world who are not Christians, obviously they don't read or believe in the bible? We need to start appreciating that we share this planet with a whole lot of other people and creatures, so that we don't keep justifying everything with the scripture. Unfortunately the most religious regions and country in the world have the most problems... Look at 'heavily religious' Nigeria Vs secular USA. Look at the heavily religious Middle East Vs Europe...so where is the love in this areas that preach it most? - Words!

I wanna be able to tell a teenager "hei make a left turn, you will see a red house, that's the shop"...and not "hei pray for guidance, you will get to the shop.." . I am definitely a practical Christian. That's how we got Aeroplanes, TVs and Cellphones....practicality!

ucgirl: ...Pray for him or her in way u want him or her to be and u see changes comes out so well just the way u lk it..

ucgirl: I blve an individual has an ability to pray for his or her spouse once u ave made up ur mind am doing dis u back it up wit prayers.Pray for him or her in way u want him or her to be and u see changes comes out so well just the way u lk it..