kzokul: So going to stay with your son for a while is a village mentality!

So there is now a difference between mother and siblings in a family?

Am through with this thread efe! You are the emotional and sentimental one here! Have a nice day!

kzokul: @ efe! You know why I have been finding it hard to type long, cos am on mobile.

I have been on a business trip to one town like that in ekiti, meaning I hjave been on mobile for the past two days. Sorry I don't even have the time for this to and fro now, I will resurrect this thread when am back to lagos with facts. So sorry for that.

Mehn see y'all later, typing on a moblie fone with limited network na big stress ooooooooo.

kzokul: @ efe! You know why I have been finding it hard to type long, cos am on mobile.

I have been on a business trip to one town like that in ekiti, meaning I hjave been on mobile for the past two days. Sorry I don't even have the time for this to and fro now, I will resurrect this thread when am back to lagos with facts. So sorry for that.

@ osisi aka babymama, you have forgotten when you and your co-travellers were advising a lady to throw out her husband's brother from the house that their marriage needs to be enjoyed and not endured. You went as far as telling the lady how your husband was being intimate with you in the sitting room, kitchen, store, toilet corridor because no one was staying with you and you hubby. I thought you will give this lady the same advise to also enjoy her marriage by also throwing out her own siblings. Abi, intimate inside kitchen, parlour, store don finish ni?

Mehn see y'all later, typing on a moblie fone with limited network na big stress ooooooooo.

babyosisi:

The reason I asked you to produce that thread is so we can read it in context
If I am not mistaken,isn't that the thread where a woman complained that her husbands brother who is older than she is lives with them,barges into their bedroom at odd hours,banging on closed doors and disrupting their mojo etc
Keep comparing oranges to bananas and looking for faults where there is none
If her siblings were being a nuisance you can bet your life I will have a different response
You obviously don't know me
And if you are unable to address me properly without the adjectives,don't address me anymore.

Efemena_xy:



ARE YOU SERIOUS??!!

Frustration get levels o! Or...hang on...is that elder brother none other than Mr Kzokul himself??

babyosisi:
Early morning when testosterone level dey at its peak and a man trying to incubate his wife,the stupid eediotic brother will be banging on the door to collect laundry and elephant blue detergent

Efemena_xy: ^^ Remember no one cap fits all.

Differing situations posted here would elicit different responses from posters. Like Babyosisi said, it depends on the given context.

Same thing here.



*** faints! ***

kzokul: @ OP am very sorry for the derailment of this your wonderfull and inspiring thread. I just had to make references to some earlier threads because of their similarities and contradictory post of some posters that have posted in these threads. So sorry for the derailment once more.

However, I have just learnt that the wife's family are always subservient and should be allowed in a matrimonial home while the husband's family are always rude and arrogant and shouldn't be allowed into the matrimonial home.

Back to the topic! @ OP, please I undersatand your predicament you and with your siblings. Being orphans is very hard to cope with and you are like their mother. I will give you only one advise here. I plead with you, make it a point of duty that you make sure your brother that is 22 years goes to school. Sacrifice whatever you have to make sure he goes to the university. This will be the greatest legacy you can lay for your late parents. I know it is not easy, but at the end of it all you will not regret. Even if he wants to venture into business, he really needs to go to school atleast part-time. Please make sure he goes to school.

Efemena_xy:

I'm getting tired of schooling you and helping you to understand the gist. I'll break it down for you. Maybe that'll be easier...

1. You started off by accusing the women on the family section of being hypocrites and that they only see fit their side of the family living in their matrimonial homes.

2. You've looked at it only from a short-sighted point of view. I've been gracious enough to give you the full picture, and to help you gain an insight into the minds of many women in the situation you painted. I've given you the reasons behind the perceived actions which your determined to hold against them.

3. You've turned things around, throwing tantrums and bringing in the mother-in-law into the picture. Who mentioned MILs here? The issue is about siblings, but no, you just love family feuds. Why stop at MIL? You should also bring in FILs too na.

4. Whether you care to admit it or not, fact is: Most times, it's the man's siblings who feel they have the upper hand against the wife as she's the new entrant into the picture, determined to do nothing but rock the boat.

5. You find it hard to believe that the liberty the man's family take without a care in the world, the woman's family wouldn't dream of doing. How many threads do we have opened up here where the woman's family complain about the man? It's usually the other way round, isn't it?

So, that's the bottom line gist here. It about attitudes, and NOT about which side of the family gets to stay or not stay in the matrimonial home.

Efemena_xy: ^^ Why the double posting? Once was enough.

If you see nothing wrong with your siblings being rude and disrespectful to your wife because "na my brother's house", then carry go. Don't complain if your wife kicks a fuss about it and makes the atmosphere in your home non-conducive.

Besides, I don't give a monkey's how you chose to run your home na! If you like get the entire family under your roof to live with you, including both sets of parents.

kzokul: The double posting is due to network in this town I am now.

Madam we no dey quarrel ooo. Simply my observations on the hypocrisy on some women.

Efemena_xy:

Efe nor get time to quarrel with you on such a nonsensical matter.

Anyway, keep on observing women's hypocrisy. Do nothing to understand why it happens in the first place or the events that lead up to it.

Nothing do you.

Efemena_xy: ^^ Awww...now this is the sort of stuff I love reading in the family section.

You are indeed blessed Ella.

It is well with you and your home

ellawify: Hello wonderful people, u guys ar too much infact I'm so happy my action is nt bein condemned rather i am inspired d more! Like someone said i'm their mother n i cnt send dem away, besides d 17 yr old has been helpful to me dat i dnt need to employ a sales person in my shop n at home d youngest is dere ma 4year old daughter. I tink witout dem around i wil be needing d services of a maid n also sales person. So u can imagine d kind of relief dey ar givin me as well. Everytin seems to be in order until d arrival of d 22 yr old. But goin tru ur wonderful comments, my hope was restored n i believe in no distant time i wil hav more reasons to glorify God. All i av to do is to put in practice all ur wonderful advices as regards to ma brother. As for ma hussy, he is d best husband in d whole world, ma pillar, ma rock n ma iroko! Wat more can i say? God bless n keep u for me. I really love u!

babyosisi:

Great!!
I hope the young ones are in school after the Summer break.
That is a full house

You
Hubby
22 yr old brother
17 yr old
12 yr old
4 yr old

What a patient hubby you have
God bless him
Taiwo and Kehinde go soon land

babyosisi:

Great!!
I hope the young ones are in school after the Summer break.
That is a full house

You
Hubby
22 yr old brother
17 yr old
12 yr old
4 yr old

What a patient hubby you have
God bless him
Taiwo and Kehinde go soon land

babyosisi: Oh,you didn't see that thread?
Let me try to find it

The man was the hubby's younger bro but he was older than the wifey
Early morning when testosterone level dey at its peak and a man trying to incubate his wife,the stupid eediotic brother will be banging on the door to collect laundry and elephant blue detergent.