'O my daughter, if it were
deemed unnecessary to give
you this advice because of
good manners and noble
descent, then it would have
been unnecessary for you,
because you posses these
qualities, but it will serve as a
reminder to those who are
forgetful, and will help those
who are wise.
‘O my daughter, if a woman
were able to do without a
husband by virtue of her
father’s wealth and her need
for her father, then you of all
people would be most able to
do without a husband, but
women were created for men
just as men were created for
them.
‘O my daughter, you are about
to leave the home in which
you grew up, where you first
learned to walk, to go to a
place you do not know, to a
companion to whom you are
unfamiliar. By marrying you,
he has become a master over
you, so be like a servant to
him, and he will become like a
servant to you.
‘Take from me ten qualities,
which will be a provision
and a reminder for you:
‘The first and second of them
are: be content in his company,
and listen to and obey him, for
contentment brings peace of
mind, and listening to and
obeying one’s husband pleases
Allah.
‘The third and fourth of them
are: make sure that you smell
good and look good; he should
not see anything ugly in you,
and he should not smell
anything but a pleasant smell
from you. Kohl is the best kind
of beautification to be found,
and water is better than the
rarest perfume.
‘The fifth and sixth of them
are: prepare his food on time,
and keep quiet when he is
asleep, for raging hunger is
like a burning flame, and
disturbing his sleep will make
him angry.
‘The seventh and eight of them
are: take care of his servants
(or employees) and children,
and take care of his wealth, for
taking care of his wealth
shows that you appreciate
him, and taking care of his
children and servants shows
good management.
‘The ninth and tenth of them
are: never disclose any of his
secrets, and never disobey any
of his orders, for if you disclose
any of his secrets you will
never feel safe from his
possible betrayal, and if you
disobey him, his heart will be
filled with hatred towards you.
‘Be careful, O my daughter, of
showing joy in front of him
when he is upset, and do not
show sorrow in front of him
when he is happy, because the
former shows a lack of
judgment whilst the latter will
make him unhappy.
‘Show him as much honor and
respect as you can, and agree
with him as much as you can,
so that he will enjoy your
companionship and
conversation.
‘Know, O my daughter, that
you will not achieve what you
would like to until you put his
pleasure before your own, and
his wishes before yours, in
whatever you like and dislike.
And may Allah choose what is
best for you and protect you. ”

insha Allah

which kin rubbish b dis na..who snd u..mtchw

Chimaritoponcho: which kin rubbish b dis na..who snd u..mtchw

If you cant say anytin sensible, jaz read and pass. Commenting isnt by force. This is 2013 plz.

Hmm, i'm almost certain i've seen this before, somewhere, maybe a book?