Sissie: I think what women want is equity, not necessarily equality, and not superiority.

tintingz: Have never seen or read where women agrees on child support in courts, its always the man even if it was the woman that file a divorce case

And mind you woman equality has to do with physical strength as well if ya'll ladies are fighting for gender equality

bukatyne:

That means that men are not even equal to start with

A 28yr old guy is superior to a 70yr old papa

Sissie: I think what women want is equity, not necessarily equality, and not superiority.

aaidel: hmmmm read a lot of the replies and while most of the women posting on the thread are making sense what they are saying rarely plays out in real life

bukatyne:

Give examples of real life scenarios you refer to.

debrief08: Sane women just want to be treated like human beings.
However to be treated like one you must act like one.

edie_mafio: What women want is superiority just as it is in UK and many other western countries.Imagine 2 flat mates (men) when they quarrel,it can't b resolved cos they see them selves as equal and right,if u apply same equality to marriage,how many marriages do u think can survive?it is vital for a woman to respect her hubby. No matter how stupid he is,it is not for her to decide..unfortunately,not every man feels secure about himself,it is not his fault,u'll only be adding salt to injury to run ur mouth on such a person cos u'll definitely get a slap..
Imagine a very ugly man who marries a pretty lady so his children could look better,first its not his fault that he is ugly,secondly,he did not force his wife to marry him..At this point,he already feels insecure about his situation,he will often suspect his wife,he'd believe his wife's actions are because of his predicaments,and then d woman damages his vulnerable heart by running her mouth,if he gets fraustrated and acts out of provocation and low self esteem,pls understand the kind of pressure he acted under.

Ochiban: i think we want whatever we can get away with. same as men. if men could run their mouth without consequences, men would. havent you noticed that the loudest men are often the biggest? equality should not mean being treated exactly the same, it means they should have the same rights. it is a weak man that resolves to physical violence when being abused. that is why men fight less as they grow older, they become wiser mentally and are smart enough to find other ways to deal with stupid people.

50 years ago, children were alwyas given to the fathers in a custody battle because the men could financially support the children better. it is because of how poorly men have fared in childcare that the courts now give custody to women

i agree there are situations where women put themselves in situations to get hit. one of them is pointing a gun at you. or kicking the shit out of you. yelling at you is NOT a situation to ask to get hit. more power gives more responsibility. men are physically stronger than women therefore they have to be more responsible with it. trained boxers go to jail if they fight with people because their fist are considered weapons and they need to be more responsible than a regular man.

long and short...if you gave women dominion over men, we sure as hell would take it. just as if men were given dominion over women, they would take it. that is why God was smart enough to give NO ONE dominion over anyone. He made men leaders and heads but did not give dominion. No matter who your boss is at work, there are somethings he can not do (unless you let him). same with husbands, there are somethings that are not within his rights. and by the way, he is only the head of HIS household...not head of every random woman he sees on the street

edie_mafio: What women want is superiority just as it is in UK and many other western countries.[b]Imagine 2 flat mates (men) when they quarrel,it can't b resolved cos they see them selves as equal and right,if u apply same equality to marriage,how many marriages do u think can survive?[/b]it is vital for a woman to respect her hubby. No matter how stupid he is,it is not for her to decide..unfortunately,not every man feels secure about himself,it is not his fault,u'll only be adding salt to injury to run ur mouth on such a person cos u'll definitely get a slap..
Imagine a very ugly man who marries a pretty lady so his children could look better,first its not his fault that he is ugly,secondly,he did not force his wife to marry him..At this point,he already feels insecure about his situation,he will often suspect his wife,he'd believe his wife's actions are because of his predicaments,and then d woman damages his vulnerable heart by running her mouth,if he gets fraustrated and acts out of provocation and low self esteem,pls understand the kind of pressure he acted under.

CNN80: u have spoken ur mind, unfortunately it doesnt really work like that..insecurity is a very big problem to a lot of people.he will deal with it in his own way, just like anyother problem.it is not for u to teach him how to do so.dont give him a reason to suspect u, d only way to gain his trust is to b 100% submissive,never mind dressing like s.ex worker n keeping male friends out of office and strange call n all that..u need to accept ur fate if anything goes wrong..

First of all, why would I marry a stupid man? I married an intelligent one. And when once in a while, he tries to make a stupid decision, if I don't point it out to him, who will? Abi I should wait for him to disgrace himself in public.
And if as an ugly man you married a pretty wife, your insecurity is yours to deal with and if you do have such insecurities, you should not have gotten married. If I am that wife, you will so hate yourself. If you can't accept the fact that I love you enough to marry you, then please don't propose. I can't deal with an insecure, frustrated husband that is looking for imaginary provocation to justify acting like illiterate buffoon.

edie_mafio: u have spoken ur mind, unfortunately it doesnt really work like that..insecurity is a very big problem to a lot of people.he will deal with it in his own way, just like anyother problem.it is not for u to teach him how to do so.dont give him a reason to suspect u, d only way to gain his trust is to b 100% submissive,never mind dressing like s.ex worker n keeping male friends out of office and strange call n all that..u need to accept ur fate if anything goes wrong..

Mrs.Chima:
Smh at some repetitive and old comments.

There are men who have sole custody of their children are receiving child support from the mothers.

Child support system is not gender specific snd the visiting parents is required to pay child support.

If the visiting parent do not request joint custody then the judge will determine who is a more suitable parent.

Yes, women are catching up to the men inthe judical ssystem...However it is majority of male judges and women are commonly the sole parent so therefore the notion of child support system being gender biased is false.

Child support is designed to support the well beings of children regardless if the mother or father agree with it. If you bring a child into the world you are responsible along with the other parent to take care of the child.

If you suffer willing and foolishly it will affect your child.

Pride is a sin.

2good:

For every one man collecting child support, you have roughly(just a rough guestimate) 99 women collecting child support, so you point above is meaningless. The legal system we have today in the west is 99% pro-women. A man sleeps with an underage girl and goes to jail. A 20years girl sleeps with an underage boy(13 yrs) and have the right to come out publicly to claim that the boy(now 14) is the father of her child so as to get some financial supoport from the boys family and she is not thrown in jail. That is how bad the western legal system have dehumanized being a male.

2good:

For every one man collecting child support, you have roughly(just a rough guestimate) 99 women collecting child support, so you point above is meaningless. The legal system we have today in the west is 99% pro-women. A man sleeps with an underage girl and goes to jail. A 20years girl sleeps with an underage boy(13 yrs) and have the right to come out publicly to claim that the boy(now 14) is the father of her child so as to get some financial supoport from the boys family and she is not thrown in jail. That is how bad the western legal system have dehumanized being a male.

bukatyne:

I believe everyone has to go back to the drawing board.

The Nigerian society has also dehumanized being a female.