This article is quite long, but its worth it. Please bear with me.
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I’d like to tell you a story...
It’s a story that you might find
strangely familiar. Don’t be alarmed.
Once upon a time, there was a man
who was very attracted to a particular
woman.
At first, she was just another
attractive woman... but the more he
got to know her, the more he began to
feel attracted to her... and the more
time he spent with her, the more that
attraction grew into a deep emotional
attachment and affection for her.
But there was one problem.
As his emotional attachment grew
stronger and stronger, he also grew
more and more insecure.
Why?
Because he couldn’t tell whether or
not she felt the same way towards him.
Sometimes she would say things like
"You are so important to me" and "I’m
glad that you’re in my life"... but
nothing ever progressed past the
"friendship" stage.
There was an occasional hug, an
occasional kiss on the cheek from
her... and once she even held his hand
for a long time while he talked about
an emotional issue.
But Something Was Wrong With
the Picture
She just wasn’t acting like a woman
that was "falling in love". She was
acting like a friend.
The insecurity that he felt became a
spiral that amplified itself... and the
more insecure he became, the more
afraid he grew of "screwing things up"
by kissing her or asking her to be his
girlfriend.
Plus, the more insecure he became,
the less time she seemed to want to
spend with him.
After spending many days and nights
obsessing over this girl, the man
finally arrived at the conclusion that if
she only knew how HE FELT, that she
would feel the same way.
So he made a bold move.

Literature?

He Told Her How He Felt
He confessed that he was in love, and
that he would do anything to be with
her.
She looked at him with compassion in
her eyes and said "Thank you... I really
mean that... but I don’t want to mess
up our friendship... you’re too
important to me..."
This only confused the man more.
He didn’t know how to take it...
Did it mean that she really loved him
too, but that she was afraid of
something?
Did it mean that she wasn’t ready for
a long-term relationship?
Did it mean that she didn’t love him,
but that she was trying to give him a
hint?
Did it mean that he hadn’t tried hard
enough?
Did it mean that he needed to put
everything on the line and REALLY
let her know how he felt?
He finally decided that he couldn’t go
on like this anymore... he had to be
with her.
He had to make sure that she knew
just how much he wanted to be with
her... so he took a big step, bought her
a symbolic gift, and wrote her a long,
long letter... again confessing his
feelings.
And then the unthinkable happened.
She didn’t reply.
He called her three times a day for
almost a week before reaching her.
She made an excuse about being very
busy, and said "I’ll try to give you a
call soon, I have to go"... and hung
up...
...but he never got a call back.
Over the following months, the man
tried desperately to understand what
went wrong... and what happened.
THE END

What do yhu fink the moral of the story iz?

JM kindly tell us.

Now, wasn’t that a sweet story?
Heart warming, huh?
I know, I should keep my day job, and
not take up writing romance novels...
Now, let’s talk about that story.
That story is basically a MYTH.
And I’m not talking about FICTION
here.
I’m talking about a story that rings
true for a great majority of men. A
story that is timeless. A story that
resonates at a deep level because you
can IDENTIFY with it.
And why does this particular story
resonate for most men?
Because we’ve all been there in one
way or another... at one time or
another... and many of us have been
there OFTEN in our lives.
Another thing that gives this particular
story a lot of power is the powerful
negative emotions that it stirs... as a
result of the powerful negative
experiences that it reminds us of...
Stories and situations like this one
really FASCINATE me.
They fascinate me because I see them
as an opportunity to UNDERSTAND
and SOLVE the puzzles that they
represent.
In this particular situation I think
there is a solution. And it lies in
understanding...

A Secret That Women Know But
Men Don’t
And that secret comes down to the
reality that if a woman isn’t
ATTRACTED to a man, all of his
attempts to confess his love, convince
her to like him, and court her
BACKFIRE.
In other words, they not only DON’T
WORK, they actually make things
WORSE.
In other words, the very things that a
man does to try to make a woman LIKE
HIM make her NOT like him. They
make her run.
All those great intentions and
emotional dedication actually cause
the man feeling them to do things that
make her go away.
It sucks.
And I hope that by explaining the
process of how this happens to you I’ll
help you avoid this painful situation in
your own future...
The "Instant Ewww"
I’m always fascinated by the idea that
we humans don’t always understand
the message that we’re communicating
to others...
So often we think that because we
WANT to communicate a message that
others are going to NATURALLY
understand what we’re trying to say.
Have you ever seen a guy in a foreign
car that has wheels on it that cost
more than the car itself... with his
stereo blasting... and a muffler that
somehow AMPLIFIES the raw sound of
the 4-cylinder motor...?
Have you ever thought to yourself "I
don’t think that car is communicating
the message to women that he thinks
it is"...?
Yea, I have too.
Well here’s the deal:
If you do something to "let a woman
know how you feel"... but she isn’t
ATTRACTED to you, then it’s going to
backfire.
It’s going to trigger a feeling that I
like to call the "Instant Ewww".
The Instant Ewww is just as powerful
as the physical and emotional
response of ATTRACTION.
Once a woman feels it, YOU’RE DONE.
It’s over.

It’s like hammering a RAILROAD
SPIKE into the coffin.
Once a woman feels the Instant
Ewww, she will start behaving
differently.
In short, she’ll disappear.
So where did I get the concept of the
"Instant Ewww"?
I got it from WOMEN.
I have actually heard SEVERAL women
use the word "Ewww" when describing
how they felt about a guy that was
"confessing his love"... of course, these
were guys that weren’t loved in return.
So What Causes the Instant Ewww?
And why would a woman feel it
towards a man who was trying to be
nice... a guy who was giving her a gift
or telling her how he feels?
Because if you think about it from HER
perspective, you’ll realize that the
moment you do something to
"confess", you have created a
TURNING POINT in the relationship.
Up until that point, you were
harmless.
I mean, women always know how men
feel.
She already knew you wanted her.
She knew it from the beginning.
But now that you’ve started pursuing
her and talking about how you feel,
you’ve created a NEGATIVE TENSION
that is VERY uncomfortable.
You’ve triggered an emotion that is
repulsive to women. And it does repel
them.
In summary...
You can’t "make a woman like you" or
"change how she feels about you" by
doing nice things for her...
Doing "nice" things for a woman who
isn’t attracted to you HURTS you. It
backfires. Worse, it creates the
"Instant Ewww" feeling that makes it
so she’ll NEVER like you.
Men make this mistake over and over
again in life because they’re doing
what MAKES SENSE to them. They’re
doing it because they don’t have an
understanding of ATTRACTION.
I mean, If you have a friend, and you
like them, and you want to make them
like you more... and you do some nice
thing for them, they will probably like
you more.
On the other hand...
If you have a woman that you "like" in
a romantic way, and she doesn’t "feel
it" for you, and you do something nice
for her because you want HER to like
you more, it will BACKFIRE... and she
will not only NOT like you more, she
will most likely distance herself from
you.
Guys think that they need to
communicate when they like a
woman... as if that’s part of the
necessary process of getting a girl.
In their minds, it goes like this:
Like her > Tell her you like her > She
likes you
Well remember... if you follow this
pattern yourself with women who
aren’t ATTRACTED to you, then it’s
going to BACKFIRE.
If she’s not into you, then it goes like
THIS:
She thinks of you as a friend > You
tell her you like her > She gets the
"Instant Ewwws" and never wants to
be around you again...
The Answer
There are really TWO answers to this
problem.
The first answer is what to do if you’re
in a situation where you like a
particular girl, but you don’t know if
she likes you back.
DON’T GET HEAVY WITH HER.
Don’t buy her a big gift and write a
love letter...
Don’t send her ten dozen roses to
her work with a note that says "From
your secret admirer".
Don’t call her three times a day.
And DON’T CONFESS YOUR LOVE
for her.
If you want to know how she feels
about you, KISS HER (and use "The
Kiss Test" that you learned on my
website and in my book).
As a rule of thumb, don’t get heavier
than HER. Use SIGNALS from her to
find out how she feels... and if you
don’t know how to read and create
those signals, then LEARN.
Asking a woman if she’s interested in
you in a romantic way, or if you are
"her type" will actually DESTROY the
chances that she’ll like you.
Really.
The SECOND answer is to not get into
this particular situation in the FIRST
PLACE. Avoid it entirely.
And how does one do that?
One does that by creating
ATTRACTION from the beginning.
One does that by understanding the
dynamics of how and why women have
the physical and emotional response of
ATTRACTION triggered.
One does that by knowing what you’re
doing FROM THE BEGINNING.

Dude, U Seriously need t edit/summarize this piece..seriously!


That said, u r so on point.
Have seen it happen..presently wit my sis n ex. the guys in question are wonderful prospects but d more they try, d more repulsive they seem t get wit d ladies in question.

Simple rule, Focus on creating d Attraction by being dre f her n it is always beta if she hints @ taking d next step but even then, Don't Rush It.

Kudos@o.p

Jamey Maxwell: What do yhu fink the moral of the story iz?

You tell me! I stopped reading at "this article is quite long"

Nice one O.P on point......

The instant eww lol
Sometimes you cant describe a man and his feelings any other way but ewww.
I think one of the hardest things for men to understand is that women are attracted to what they hear and men are attracted to what they see.
It wasnt the way his car looked it was how it sounded that turned us off
More then anything else that makes me say eeww is something he has said.....it made him sound too needy, too weak, or too desperate. I lose all romantic attraction for him but I still can see a limited time purpose in my life for him....a friend