Phder: You don't have to be sorry, and No, she was in her late 20's .

The catch is, they're both highly educated, leaving it to her, she wouldn't want us to pay that ridiculous bill. But as you must have known that it's beyond her control, so they shared the bill between each other.

Personally, I think my uncle is a honest man, and if I ever find myself in the same situation, I would do the same thing.

waternogetenemy:

stop talking trash, about share...lmao

anybody dat believes dis fool is having the joke of the century. Any girl worth marrying have multiple suitors particularly igbo girls.

The fact remains that if u can't meet the bride price, somebody else will.

Phder:
Are you with your senses? or you choose not to make use of it?? I never said she does not worth it. I don't even know why am replying you.

waternogetenemy: U are replying becos ur lies have been exposed, stop misleading people and talk with ur senses.

waternogetenemy: U are replying becos ur lies have been exposed, stop misleading people and talk with ur senses.

chineloSA: I am IGBO. My parents always say they want nothing for me from the groom except that the man should ''BUY ME A HOUSE", which will be my and his kids asset/ inheritance. They say rice and all the things on the list add no value to me, as I have been eating rice since birth.

They say
The house should under no circumstances form part of assets to be divided should a divorce prove to be inevitable.
The house should under no circumstances form part of his will or any inheritance should he die.

My parents reasons are,
1) When things don't work out in my marriage, they don't want to see me back in their house with my husbands kids.
2) In case when my husband dies, they also need to be sure that me and my kids shelter is provided, in case my husbands family proves to be greedy by taking all we had. ( as we all know how in-laws in Naija can be greedy and wicked to the widows )


Though my partner is Igbo, I have never said anything to him with regards to possible demands.

IS IT TOO MUCH TO ASK?

waternogetenemy:

No my dear, it is not too much of an ask. Dat man [size=18pt]Phder[/size] from ekiti wants to eat ofe owerri with empty hand. Women are finished in yoruba land. onye na ejigi ego oga eri ofe owerri?

Yoruba boy have no business in igbo culture thread, we shall educate u on our culture. comprende...

chineloSA:

@ Phder. I found it hard to believe his story as well.

Thanks, Just when I have been thinking it may be unreasonable

chineloSA:

@ Phder. I found it hard to believe his story as well.

Thanks, Just when I have been thinking it may be unreasonable

chineloSA: in case my husbands family proves to be greedy by taking all we had. ( as we all know how in-laws in Naija can be greedy and wicked to the widows )

nbright: In my place, when a husband dies even without a will, everything falls to his wife (if his 1st son is still a kid) unless stipulated otherwise in the will... So don't you generalise that all in-laws rush to acquire their brothers wealth after his demise... Go to Benin... Many of the landladies inherited the properties from their late husband's

zannie: U people must shaa bring tribalism into everything. Are u guys not tired of this BS?
If u don't understand d culture, then forget it. Its as simple as that. There are many places in Naija where you don't pay a dime. You can as well go there. Its not by force to pay bride price.
Nobody is even talking about 'idu uno', where the parents of the bride do something akin to a 'send off' for the bride. Sometimes what the new couple get from this idu uno is way more than the bride price paid.
Please if u don't understand a people's way of life, its ok. But at least respect it. There are 250 ethnic groups in this country, each with its own vast customs. We should learn to respect people in this country

waternogetenemy:

Nne, It is the duty of every husband to provide a shelter for his wife and children. The essence of marriage itself is security and stability for the everybody involved particularly the wife and children. Nothing unreasonable about that.

Phder:

I have no obligation in responding to this, but I will take the pain to do so.

Right from the beginning, it has always been the man's responsibility to cater for his family, the purpose of the wife is to assist (If she is able) and support her husband in making decisions and bringing up the kids.

About your future husband "buying you a house" it's a good thing if he can afford it (take note that not all men can afford this), I hope you get to meet the ones that can afford all that. The most important thing that you should know is that; Money and assets is not what marriage entails; when you marry the right man, houses, car, e.t.c comes with the package.

chineloSA:

Thanks, I never heard of it to be part of the bride price, thats why I was worried.

chineloSA:

Not sure why you allowing your Blood pressure to go up

If you go up my thread again and thoroughly read English, I said its my parents take on the matter. Probably they have seen alot of things happening thereby wanting to protect me. smh

Are you hungry perhaps? Grab something to eat.

nbright: Re read your post again... And what has my post got to do with hungry?..

chineloSA:

Say that again. I believe he has the means, the willingness may be the question?
Thanks though.

waternogetenemy:

Nne, It is the duty of every husband to provide a shelter for his wife and children. The essence of marriage itself is security and stability for the everybody involved particularly the wife and children. Nothing unreasonable about that.

nbright: In my place, when a husband dies even without a will, everything falls to his wife (if his 1st son is still a kid) unless stipulated otherwise in the will... So don't you generalise that all in-laws rush to acquire their brothers wealth after his demise... Go to Benin... Many of the landladies inherited the properties from their late husband's

chineloSA:


https://www.nairaland.com/1490600/ojukwus-family-asks-bianca-proof

Am sorry to go back to the topic that we already closed. Just wanted to show you an example of what happens to widows in Naija. Not limited to this. Read the story on the link. You may have been following the story.

So I understand my parents take on the matter. I do not think my parents are generalizing, but they are trying to be objective and practical looking at million possibilities.

passionate88: Na Igbo something. E no fit happen for ijaw, or urhobo, or tiv or idoma, etc. That tradition na Igbo e dey happen. Even those Police men wey die for Nasarrawa state, some of the widows from the east complained that their in-laws collected the money paid as compensation. This practice is pre dominant in d east