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God Or Belemas'? My Dreams Or Marriage? by noobsaibot2(m): 7:41pm On Sep 22, 2013 |
Hi, Am Augustine by name and welcome to a short note about me. enjoy it while you can. I've always though that being married or having a girlfriend is going to be blissful and sweet. Well' that is far from the truth. You get married or go into a relationship, you will get trouble in the flesh. Distress signals shall you be decoding and encoding all the days of your relationship. When you were single, you were the captain of your ship, but now (in marriage or relationship), you keep answering to a new captain (troubles of the flesh), which has mutinied you. The Apostle Paul saw this revelation and warned us about it in his letter to the Corinthians.When your are single, your thoughts will be how to please God, but when you are in a relationship or marriage, your thoughts and actions will be how to please your spouse. Mind you, I am not against being married. Remember that the bible says "He that finds a wife finds a good thing." And besides (personal thought), God Designed it that way, but it is not a prerequisite. We have at least up to seventy years plus on earth. Let us analyze this, split seventy years by three? You get twenty five years each. Right? What will you do with your first twenty five years? Well, Here is my own story. When I was young, my thoughts and action were "read, study, experiment, play, etc." What a childhood experience. Spent most of my time in experimentation using myself as a guinea pig. Awful? I got many good and negative answers at a cost. Melancholia became me. Think, analyze before approaching the problem. I might have deviated a little from my discussion, please bear with me, I was actually munching B5 and G4 (bread and garri). Funny? Back to the matter. I've always loved women or girls that I wish my first child would be a girl child. I treat women like mothers and older girls as elder sisters, while the young one (two to five years below my age) as potentials and younger as sisters. Since I ventured into relationship after being an adult (though I had non), I came to understand that there is more to what we see with our eyes which made me to deduce an array of codes in my rules of distinction. One of it is "nothing is seems to be what it is." Implying that the idea that marriage will be rosy or relationships will sweet is... in fact, not true. Relationships can hinder you from actualizing your dreams (do not all). As a single person, I go to church, do good things, try to please God in my little way, able to pray, and do every other things I can. But, when I started thinking of a girl or trying to get into a relationship with member of the opposite sex, I started having troubles in the flesh. First one was when I was about sixteen years of age. Belema (Names Changed), Nice sweet girl, the dream of young guys to be with at my age then. The story is cut short, but it landed me in jail (Respect Nigerian politicians to get wisdom). Second one was ever reoccurring in my life, the third one taken by my close friend and very respected ally. The fourth one, another Belema (coincidence). I was bout nineteen to twenty years then, pretty young girl within my neighbourhood. Took me three months to go FBI on her (studying her movements and gathering information about her) and we became friends.When I told her my mind towards her, that I was in love with her, that is when everything I thought to be rosy changed. She became my mortal enemy that I had to tag her "ENEMY AT THE GATE." She called me a devil because I told her that am in love with her. Our friendship broke, she never talks to me even when I called her attention to the matter that despite things didn't worked out between us doesn't mean we can't be neighbours atleast. This hatred she developed for me grew to four years and continuous in my timeline. Then I met another Belema (wow), the daughter of the reverend pastor. I fell in love told her and she accepted me after a while. With the joy in my heart, I went straight to her dad to tell her that I want to marry his daughter, that was when the most severing heartbreak occurred in my life. His answer was "NO!" I got angry and left. Soon after, I started misbehaving. From party to party, backsliding daily that I became bad to visiting brothels to cure my anxiety. But nevertheless, I always asked God for forgiveness and mercy every day I committed such sin of fornication. One day, I went to this brothel after a cold night with some guys in my neighbourhood to cure the stressed up cold that I met another Belema. Unbelievable aight? It happened that they had same names. Now this Belema Broth (as I differentiated them), was far better than the rest , but in the wrong place. Long story short is that I fell in love with a hooker. Soon, I started thinking and devicing a plan as an introvert that I am. The plan was to get her out of that hell hole and groom her up to be the kind of woman I want to call my wife (if it was possible), that was when it struck me like lightning (zzzzaaarrppp!). On that faithful day, I went to a shop to buy something (as usual, B five and G four), that this man was preaching over the radio. I took the radio and sat down to listen carefully to his message on marriage. Then I realized that I have been making mistakes in life. I should be thinking of God, my dreams and bringing my visions to reality first than getting into a relationship or being married. Had it been that I was married before now, my dream of being the builder I wish could have been limited to being a baby father (ridiculous). I would have faced so many downsides, but that is what makes us human, yet in our downsides we still have hope that tomorrow will be better. Now, I came to realize that the thoughts I haboured before were vanity and painful at the end. I ask for your forgiveness if you (girl, lady, woman) were interested in me or if I had ever proposed to you, forgive me, am going solo now. I need to be focused for tomorrow, even if it cost me being single till I live this earth. Furthermore, brother, friends and homies, pardon me for leaving you guys. I pray that in time you will understand priority settings first before secondary display button. Getting married is a choice, but trouble awaits them that ventures therein. Marriage and relationship will make your thoughts and action towards God secondary (which is not good). Nevertheless, greater power comes greater responsibilty (just reciprocate this sentence). My dreams of PHP and NGWA should not end here. Thank you for taking considerable time to read this. "IT'S A MESSAGE!" |
Re: God Or Belemas'? My Dreams Or Marriage? by Nikkyparadise(m): 8:48pm On Sep 22, 2013 |
Rubbish thread.....no wonder nobodi gree comment... Y i evn comment self? |
Re: God Or Belemas'? My Dreams Or Marriage? by Abbey2sam(m): 9:37pm On Sep 22, 2013 |
This is ludicrous.............. Who da hell is this guy |
Re: God Or Belemas'? My Dreams Or Marriage? by chessguru1(m): 9:47pm On Sep 22, 2013 |
I have always prided myself as one who reads all manner of threads without skipping . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Bros reading ur thread was painful . I lost hope some where in the 4th paragraph (of which there were like a dozen) |
Re: God Or Belemas'? My Dreams Or Marriage? by noobsaibot2(m): 10:31pm On Sep 22, 2013 |
thanks for the contribution, but I need better comments bout the charracter.... DALU |
Re: God Or Belemas'? My Dreams Or Marriage? by pri3stess(f): 11:07pm On Sep 22, 2013 |
OMG WTF is this? This is Sunday and I'm not supposed to be cursing, but guy WTF were you thinking when you typed this pile of rubbish? You want me to get cataracts abi? Your plan will not work. I was already in a bad mood and I thought coming on NL would lighten my day, but your useless thread just made me feel more sh1tty, please just go and eat rat poison, or just go and enroll in a writing school to help yourself write properly mtcheeeeeeew. |
Re: God Or Belemas'? My Dreams Or Marriage? by noobsaibot2(m): 11:51pm On Sep 22, 2013 |
thanks pristess. but not want to go suicide. Rat poison don finish. |
Re: God Or Belemas'? My Dreams Or Marriage? by noobsaibot2(m): 12:47pm On Sep 23, 2013 |
Abbey2sam: This is ludicrous.............. VIP |
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