Here’s a brief Islamic guide on winning hearts.

1. Smile.

It is the first arrow and the fastest of them all. It is like the salt for food. It is also regarded as a kind of alms-giving as is mentioned in a hadith “Smiling at your brother’s face is as charity (Sadaqa)” (Jami Tirmidhi).


“Abdullah ibn al Harith tells us about the Prophet (PBUH) saying that he had never seen someone smile at the other’s face as the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) used to do” (Jami Tirmidhi).

2. Be the one who initiates greetings first.

This arrow is the one that lets you to be in the innermost depths of the others hearts. This arrow needs a skillful shooter. The needed skills are the hearty smile, the warm shaking of hands and the friendly welcoming to the other. Being successfully achieved, such kinds of skills are going to be rewarded, referring to the hadith: “Those who are nearest to Allah are they who are first to give a salutation ” (Jami Tirmidhi).

According to a hadith of Anas when people of Yemen came the Prophet (PBUH) said , ” The people of Yemen are approaching and they have softer hearts than yours’. (Anas said) ” They are the first who came with hand shaking”. (Sunan Abu Dawud and Adab-ul Mufarad)

3. Exchange presents.

It has a strange charming affection that captivates all senses. Hence, exchanging presents and gifts in different occasions is a pleasant habit however gifts should be within one’s tolerable expenses. Aa’ishah (RA) said: “The Messenger of Allaah used to accept gifts and reward people for giving them.” (Sahih Bukhari)

4. Say something Good or remain silent.

Loud voice and chattering are bad merits. You have to be sweet-worded, tender in expressing yourself. A good word has its own magic in winning the hearts of your enemies, how powerfully it would work then with your brothers’ hearts!! “Repel (Evil) with what is better: Then will he between whom and thee was hatred become as it were thy friend and intimate ” (Surah Fussilat 41:34) .

The Prophet (PBUH) said, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or be silent” (Mawtta Imam Malik).

Abu Abdullah Jadali reported that he asked Sayyidah Aisha (RA) about the manners of Allah’s Messenger She said, He was never indecent of speech or of manners. He never spoke loudly in the markets. And, he never returned evil with evil, but he forgave and overlooked.’ (Jami Tirmidhi)

5. Be a good listener.

Listen patiently and never interrupt the speaker, as the Prophet (PBUH) never interrupted a speaker till he ended his speech. And he who fights for this merit gains others love and admiration, whilst on the contrary is the one who chatters and interrupts the other.

6. Have a neat appearance and dress well.

You have to be careful with your appearance so as to be neat, well–dressed and sweet smelling as well. The Prophet (PBUH) says that “Allaah is beautiful and he love beauty” (Masnad Ahmed).

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