Another piece from Charly Boy...enjoy...
Wanting so badly to get hooked is something many
people seem to take far too lightly and for granted
these days. Something some of them feel they should
do to win acceptance from people and society. These
days’ people look at the package and never the
content, forgetting that marriage should be a life time
commitment of two strangers. In some cases the
marriage may workout, like, Charles and Diane,
Tunde and Wummie. But most of the time it falls like
a park of cards, because as people are rushing to get
in, people are rushing to get out, at an alarming rate.
Kai!!
These days break ups and divorce has become the
trend as soon as the honey Moon is over. People use
to think that divorce rate is only high amongst
celebrities, but now, across board, couples are falling
asunder, going under the pressure of a very bad
decision , just because they Must Marry.
In these hard times, people are blowing and burning pots of
money on very fancy weddings that really don't last after
the honey moon. In this age, some parents still pressure
their daughters in getting married early. It's like, once your
girl crosses the 30yrs bracket, they start to panic, getting
anxious and putting pressure on their girl to get married,
like it is that easy. She just can't go to the market and buy
a husband, or can she? When the poor girl insists on
finding her dream man, she is accused of being unserious.
Parents please learn to back off joor, it's not by force. After
all, are they the ones who will leave with the spouse?
There is nothing wrong with waiting for the right person,
because if it is the razzmatazz of the wedding things that
you enjoy, go ahead and throw yourself a big nonstop party
for a whole week. After all, weddings are just one day
event, but a marriage is supposed to be a life time thing. I
know that weddings are fun, romantic and you can finally
tell your girlfriends, boyfriends or your sugar daddy's that
you have finally captured your own ‘ mugu’ . But has this
guy been tried and tested? Dating and courting is a
different matter from ‘Till Death Do You Part’. Living with
one human being for the rest of your life. My sister look the
thing well oooo. Bebe , do you have an idea how your guy
functions in rough weather? When reality bites, is he calm
or does he freak out? Do you share the same interest in
some things? Bebe , before you rush into this marriage, it is
important to learn where your partner stands on the bigger
issues of your life together. Do you have the same values?
Sit him down and have a long talk about these and other
issues that are of importance to you, you may discover that
chances of a long lasting marriage could be slimmer;
women are intuitively wired to pick up these things. Are
you a learner?
For me, I got hooked up with a woman I never saw coming
and a woman I will never let go. When I met my wife, she
was not even a girlfriend or a lover. I liked her physically,
because she had and still have curves that men would die
for, but she was never my idea of a wife. She kept hanging
around like other beautiful women around me; it was more
or less a platonic relationship. All the time I didn't know I
was under the microscope of the FBI and the CIA. She was
to tell me all this after our marriage. Even though we dated
for about 3yrs, in my wildest dream I never saw her coming
till one morning after sleeping over, she woke me up,
looked me straight into my sleepy eyes and demanded that
I marry her in the next few days or she will leave me. Wow!
Before then, no one ever threatened me like that, no one
ever gave me ultimatums. Who born them? Me CharlyBoy?
Little did I know that this woman for years has been doing
research on me, this woman has seen me ‘finish’, figured
out how to arrest and deal with me. When I was much
younger, I had a very violent temper, I was obnoxious. And
she had witnessed me a few times in my rage with other
women. "Ain't you afraid that I will hurt or harm you" to
that she answered, "you can never hurt or harm me
because I will never give you a reason to" hummmmmm !!!
Oh! See finish.
Bebe , it's easy to know what you are getting into. If in
doubt, investigate, set exams for the guy. I believe women
are emotionally smarter than men. You must know who you
want to marry, it's important for your happiness. You don't
deserve scrap especially if you are hardworking, intelligent,
progressive and forward looking. Investigate him from all
angles, don't be in a rush joor. You don't deserve that
heartache because the way marriages are crashing, it's
making me catch cold.
With the way things are going, very soon we will be
throwing divorce parties and inviting friends and well-
wishers to celebrate divorce anniversaries. They will
choose asoebe , hire a big hall, with Dbanj as the
entertainer and Julius Agu as the MC. Even questions like,
"when are you getting your divorce" will be the buzz.
So if you know you can't handle the pressure, remain
single. If the man is still under investigation, please take
your time, don't rush. If you know that you are too Hot to
be faithful, biko remain single and have a ball. If you can't
endure bad weather from time to time, stay in your father’s
house joor. Never get married out of desperation or
because other people are getting married. If you want a
beautiful home, like mine, examine your choice of a life
partner, there are a lot of gigolos out there preying on
desperate babes like you. But show them say you pass
them. No be you?

Nice one Charly thnkz

Ok

Charly don talk am finish.

Thanks Charles.More power to your elbow.

Well said........Charly don papa!.