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Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by MrTroll(m): 10:34am On Oct 13, 2013
So I was seeing this couple about 2 months ago in my place of work... They brought a complaint about the breastfeeding wife... after some evaluations she was diagnosed of PID(never mind, the real gist is coming) and as I was prescribing and giving advice, I casually mentioned to the man that they have to lay off the Sex for the duration of her treatment(about a week) and the man promptly responded that its not a problem that they've not Done The Deed for more than 5 months now shocked shocked. I was quite surprised because they're a young couple albeit very religious(DLBC wink ) so I chalked it up to their over religious fervour and promptly forgot about it...fast forward to about 3 days ago, I was watching this movie by Chris Rock(I think I love my wife) and the whole movie revolved around how lack of sex was putting a strain on their marriage and how it starts gradually etc etc

So my question is... Does it really happen frequently in marriages? I mean young couples(by this I mean the woman being less than 45) just quitting sex for no apparent reason? I'm a young and very active( wink embarassed ) bachelor and I just can't imagine myself being married and not phucking my wife regularly if we are both healthy and able. I mean how busy can I get? Abi e no go de sweet again?

Pls advice angry
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by Nobody: 10:57am On Oct 13, 2013
You go see pushie, na you go tire!
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by Nobody: 11:43am On Oct 13, 2013
I was once so active i could do it three times every single day. Now i see my wife in the shower every morning and i go throway face. Wait till u get there.

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Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by NnamdiN: 11:53am On Oct 13, 2013
Gaggi: I was once so active i could do it three times every single day. Now i see my wife in the shower every morning and i go throway face. Wait till u get there.
jeez Throway face ? Is it gonna be that bad ? What could be the problem ? Is it being too used to the wife or just being tired of sexxx ?

I doubt it's the latter coz there are too many randy old men out there.
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by Nobody: 12:12pm On Oct 13, 2013
Chillisauce: You go see pushie, na you go tire!

gringringrin





@ op something you dey see every morning and night for the rest of your life,e go still sweet you do grin orisirisi grin
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by Nobody: 12:13pm On Oct 13, 2013
NnamdiN: jeez Throway face ? Is it gonna be that bad ? What could be the problem ? Is it being too used to the wife or just being tired of sexxx ?

I doubt it's the latter coz there are too many randy old men out there.


Maybe the azz and the bwest got sagged after some children? lipsrsealed
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by Nobody: 12:14pm On Oct 13, 2013
Gaggi: I was once so active i could do it three times every single day. Now i see my wife in the shower every morning and i go throway face. Wait till u get there.
gringrin lobatan grin
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by NnamdiN: 12:29pm On Oct 13, 2013
Logicboy03:


Maybe the azz and the bwest got sagged after some children? lipsrsealed
it's a man's world afterall. wink
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by Nobody: 12:42pm On Oct 13, 2013
Gaggi: I was once so active i could do it three times every single day. Now i see my wife in the shower every morning and i go throway face. Wait till u get there.



The problem;


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KMcUXcPqko8
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by gbanikiti(m): 2:09pm On Oct 13, 2013
You think the husband isn't phucking another woman to satisfy his sexual urges? Abeg make I hear word!! undecided

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Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by mysticgal(f): 2:48pm On Oct 13, 2013
oh this thread is greatundecided
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by MrTroll(m): 5:31pm On Oct 13, 2013
Gaggi: I was once so active i could do it three times every single day. Now i see my wife in the shower every morning and i go throway face. Wait till u get there.
excuse sir... No offence, is your wife above 45? I'm assuming she is still beautiful in your eyes undecided
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by Nobody: 6:43pm On Oct 13, 2013
Are people dumb? Throway face means when u see a naked woman everyday u are not as moved as d man who daydreams about it.

Of course I do hit d sack when I want and when my wife wants but it surely can't be everyday unlike our dating days.
My wife is early 30s and a queen but I dnt rush her anytime I see her nude, haba.

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Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by coldgate(f): 6:58pm On Oct 13, 2013
I can identify with Gaggi's position. It really isn't that the attraction to sex is gone. What happens is that the couple get so comfortable in their relationship that they may not grab at each other on every turn. Hubby is going nowhere and same goes to wifey. No need to grab and hustle. It is all yours whenever you want it. Besides, wouldn't you rather leisurely savour your ice-cream. Than hurriedly gobble it down?

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Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by warrior01: 7:03pm On Oct 13, 2013
Gaggi: Are people dumb? Throway face means when u see a naked woman everyday u are not as moved as d man who daydreams about it.

Of course I do hit d sack when I want and when my wife wants but it surely can't be everyday unlike our dating days.
My wife is early 30s and a queen but I dnt rush her anytime I see her nude, haba.

Nothing unusual. Happens to all men
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by MrTroll(m): 9:09pm On Oct 13, 2013
So @gaggi, you don't go like 5 months without?


#honest question.


I'm not saying you have to grab her at every turn but then going weeks or even months? Common!
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by Nobody: 9:37pm On Oct 13, 2013
Going 5 mnths is abnormal except on health grounds. Normal happy couple can sometimes go 2 weeks without it due to work and stress.
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by MrTroll(m): 9:50pm On Oct 13, 2013
Gaggi: Going 5 mnths is abnormal except on health grounds. Normal happy couple can sometimes go 2 weeks without it due to work and stress.
ok thanks. I'm waiting for more contributions from other married couples...





This marriage thing no easy o! cheesy
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by eluquenson(m): 10:24pm On Oct 13, 2013
Its just the grace of God in every situation in a marriage.
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by zomoears(m): 10:36pm On Oct 13, 2013
D way singles r into this marriage topic nw en...it's beginning to sound like life stops n marriage starts! I mean, marriage is part n parcel of life o! Just that u live with someone else, become less selfish,more patient n strategic!

In matters of sexuality, be sure that d desire doesn't die, u just learn to channel it n enjoy it and savour it! You use sex to heal ur home, to cool ur wife when she is loosing her centre of gravity, to manage ur anger n ensure emotional stabiity as a man, among other things . Sex is still fun in marriage, but takes a greater significance n broader application. It stops been something u do just to go n brag to d boys.
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by zomoears(m): 10:39pm On Oct 13, 2013
coldgate: I can identify with Gaggi's position. It really isn't that the attraction to sex is gone. What happens is that the couple get so comfortable in their relationship that they may not grab at each other on every turn. Hubby is going nowhere and same goes to wifey. No need to grab and hustle. It is all yours whenever you want it. Besides, wouldn't you rather leisurely savour your ice-cream. Than hurriedly gobble it down?

On point.
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by tpia5: 10:46pm On Oct 13, 2013
i wonder why nlers feel bachelors do not have periods of celibacy?

a 42 or 60 year old bachelor or a 42 or 60 year old married man, you really think the bachelor will be having sex 24/7 or three times a day?

you folks probably will get depressed once you hit 30/35, if you think unending sex is all there is to life.
Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by MrTroll(m): 7:53am On Oct 14, 2013
tpia@:
i wonder why nlers feel bachelors do not have periods of celibacy?

a 42 or 60 year old bachelor or a 42 or 60 year old married man, you really think the bachelor will be having sex 24/7 or three times a day?

you folks probably will get depressed once you hit 30/35, if you think unending sex is all there is to life.
as usual you manage to miss the point...

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Re: Married Couples Only, Pls Advice! by MrTroll(m): 8:06am On Oct 14, 2013
zomoears: D way singles r into this marriage topic nw en...it's beginning to sound like life stops n marriage starts! I mean, marriage is part n parcel of life o! Just that u live with someone else, become less selfish,more patient n strategic!

In matters of sexuality, be sure that d desire doesn't die, u just learn to channel it n enjoy it and savour it! You use sex to heal ur home, to cool ur wife when she is loosing her centre of gravity, to manage ur anger n ensure emotional stabiity as a man, among other things . Sex is still fun in marriage, but takes a greater significance n broader application. It stops been something u do just to go n brag to d boys.

To be honest, its the selfish part that's really diFficult. For example, for the past 2 weeks I've been travelling around without having to explain myself to anybody, sleeping wherever I want etc and having to explain myself at every turn though...

The main point of the OP though is to find out if what I'm thinking is actually true, whether young couples can go months without having the Urge or if they actually have the urge but for some reason do not phuck their spouse for one reason or the other. In the movie I referenced for example, they both had the Urge both couldn't say or act it out. On the other hand, the couple I talked with, the man specifically said that he had not had the urge. I was quite surprised sha cos they were a young couple...it got me wondering. undecided

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