1. work stress

The Task: Make your marriage a place of
peace.

The Solution: Acknowledge that at the end
of a long, stressful day you may need
time to yourselves to decompress before
interacting with each other. If you bring
your work stress home, it will sabotage
your marriage. Build time to unwind into
your daily schedule. Once you’re both
feeling relatively composed, it’s time to
come together and talk about each other's day. Have a stress-reducing conversation.

2. In-Laws

The Task: Establish a sense of “we-ness,”
or solidarity, between partners.

The Solution: Side with your spouse.
Establish your own family rituals, values,
and lifestyle and insist that in-laws
respect them. An important part of
putting your spouse first and building
this sense of solidarity is not to tolerate
any contempt toward your spouse from
your parents.

3. Money

The Task: Balance the freedom and
empowerment money represents with
the security and trust it also symbolizes.

The Solution: What’s most important in
terms of your marriage is that you work
as a team on financial issues and that you
express your concerns, needs, and
dreams to each other before coming up
with a plan. You’ll each need to be firm
about items that you consider
nonnegotiable. Itemize your current
expenditures, manage your everyday
finances, and plan your financial future.
If you’re having trouble, see a financial
planner.

4. Sex

The Task: Fundamental appreciation and
acceptance of each other.

The Solution: Learn to talk to each other
about sex in a way that lets you both feel
safe. The goal of sex is to be closer, to
have more fun, to feel satisfied, and to
feel valued and accepted in this very
tender area of your marriage. A major
characteristic of couples who have a
happy sex life is that they see
lovemaking as an expression of intimacy
but they don’t take any differences in
their needs or desires personally

5. Housework

The Task: Create a sense of fairness and
teamwork.

The Solution: The simple truth is that men
have to do more housework. Maybe this
fact will spark a husband's enthusiasm
for domestic chores: Women find a man's
willingness to do housework extremely
erotic. When the husband does his share
to maintain the home, both he and his
wife report a more satisfying sex life than
in marriages where the wife believes her
husband is not doing his share. However,
the quantity of housework is not
necessarily a determining factor in the
housework = sex equation. Two other
variables: whether the husband does his
chores without being asked, and whether
he is flexible in his duties in response to
her needs.

6. A New Baby

The Task: Expand your sense of "we-ness"
to include your children.

The Solution: In the first year after baby
arrives, 67% of wives experience a
precipitous plummet in their marital
satisfaction. Lack of sleep, feeling
overwhelmed and under appreciated,
juggling mothering with a job, economic
stress, and lack of time to oneself, among
other things. Why do the other 33% sail
through the transition unscathed? What
separates these blissful mothers from the
rest has everything to do with whether
the husband experiences the
transformation to parenthood along with
his wife or gets left behind.

http://www.gottmanblog.com/2014/08/6-arguments-all-married-couples-have.html?m=1

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Yeah! Yeah! I knew it dis gonna made front page.
I made d investment b4 I went to bed yesternyt and see me dancing shoki dis mowin on FP... Anyway, am first to comment for d first time after so many yrs on Nairaland.

For the first time on nl, pictures or adonbilivit. Nice one op. Think I should look into some of these issues.

egopersonified: For the first time on nl, pictures or adonbilivit. Nice one op. Think I should look into some of these issues.

lmao. u don't need pictures to believe it. when you get married, you will.

Very good write up,got me thinking. .....

Ure correct op

Not all

Reading thru thread...

True

Spot on! So on point.

Are these arguments or challenges? At least I expected a scenario where the points you raised degenerate to arguments. I see just challenges (tasks) and their solutions. No argumentative picture.

This is absolutely correct, talking from experience.

We even have more than that.

But at the end of the day,it makes our union stronger although not always easy.

U see money and inlaw of a thing makes man in marriage go gaga

This nairaland app nawa oo, d tin just dey buzz evrytime.
To the topic, let them keep on wt d arguement, that's life for u

Am bookmarking this,as a prospective husband,and father to be.

Still single, handsome but not searching..
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Maybe I'll just end up being a POPE
*Dope POPE*

my wife and I rarely argue, All thanks to baba God.

**ps- for the unmarried folks, compatibility is the key.

adonbilivit: In-Laws

The Task: Establish a sense of “we-ness,”
or solidarity, between partners.

The Solution: Side with your spouse.
Establish your own family rituals, values,
and lifestyle and insist that in-laws
respect them. An important part of
putting your spouse first and building
this sense of solidarity is not to tolerate
any contempt toward your spouse from
your parents.

I see the ladies throwing the whole of their weight behind this particular point.

Been a long that a mature topic such as this graced the homepage.

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When I get to the bridge, grace will help me cross it

where r the arguments?

Team single

Too

really?

Seriously?

nice 1 op. NOTED