Personally, I find it funny when people conduct so-called "traditional" marriages (which oftentimes are not traditional in in any way, shape, or form and are simply parties in which the bride and groom are dressed in lace or ankara) overseas instead of going home [to Nigeria]. I understand that sometimes there might be financial constraints and all that, but that doesn't negate the fact that [to me] it's such a weird idea. I mean, isn't the idea behind marrying someone traditionally supposed to be fulfilling the marital customs of the woman's land (speaking from the Igbo perspective)?

Speaking from my culture's perspective, a traditional marriage is a social event in which all of the head members of the bride's family formally "hand away" their daughter to the groom's family. These marriages are always performed at the compound of the bride's parents and follow the rules and regulations of the bride's land and end with the long procession of the groom, his new wife, and his people, back to their home. With this in mind, I'd like to seek your opinions on this issue? What do you think about "ovaseez marajiz".

why is this on front page!!!

na so

enyi1: why is this on front page!!!

Mods.

Is op related to the mode.rator ?

interesting

The Gods are Truly GReat and Just.

Am bored already....NEXTTTTT

I thought I'm gonna see pinshures

Indeed traditions need to be kept buh in oversea situation they just ve to get married. Guy! correct igbo traditional wedding o or oversea trasditional wedding o, d koko be say make God bless the marriage with children, happiness, love, wealth and long life....ish!

Traditional marriage is the only the form of marriage approved. White weding should be abolished.

odumchi: Personally, I find it funny when people conduct so-called "traditional" marriages (which oftentimes are not traditional in in any way, shape, or form and are simply parties in which the bride and groom are dressed in lace or ankara) overseas instead of going home [to Nigeria]. I understand that sometimes there might be financial constraints and all that, but that doesn't negate the fact that [to me] it's such a weird idea. I mean, isn't the idea behind marrying someone traditionally supposed to be fulfilling the marital customs of the woman's land (speaking from the Igbo perspective)?

Speaking from my culture's perspective, a traditional marriage is a social event in which all of the head members of the bride's family formally "hand away" their daughter to the groom's family. These marriages are always performed at the compound of the bride's parents and follow the rules and regulations of the bride's land and end with the long procession of the groom, his new wife, and his people, back to their home. With this in mind, I'd like to seek your opinions on this issue? What do you think about "ovaseez marajiz".

I think you should mind your business. Marry off your children the way you see fit, but stop judging others.

Maybe someone else with toe your path of not minding your business and open a thread complaining about people opening nairaland threads at 6:15am instead of going to church

if they do it abroad doest dat mean they are not properly??

things change, u have to get wit the times.

i watched a youruba traditional marraige on tv a few weeks ago, a yoruba girl and an english boy.#

the girls parents even gran ma was there and it was a very enjoyable ceremony. all traditions and customs were adhered to. are they not married??

must u risk everbody's life across the ocean to a place wit no road, no electric and no safety?


before u know accident don happen, person don die, dats wat happened to my bestfriend's eldest brother.
dats if kidnapper no catch u first

its not worth the hassle

1. Will you pay the $1000+ each that would be spent on transportation by the couple back home?
2. Will you guarantee their safety during the wedding?
3. Will you protect them from the witches and wizards after the wedding?
4. Will you guarantee the safety of their friends that would come for the wedding?
5. Will you hold the plane with your hands and pray against crashing?
Your question is bull..ss.hit. You can get married in US with less than $5k., including the dowry and other important stuff, why waste your yearly savings on traveling to Nigeria, and impressing those who don't really care??

now we are talking of those people who do this stuff outside nigeria... yet there are some people who are from the east but do their trad in the west within Nigeria.. you wanna ask them why ??

odumchi: Personally, I find it funny when people conduct so-called "traditional" marriages (which oftentimes are not traditional in in any way, shape, or form and are simply parties in which the bride and groom are dressed in lace or ankara) overseas instead of going home [to Nigeria]. I understand that sometimes there might be financial constraints and all that, but that doesn't negate the fact that [to me] it's such a weird idea. I mean, isn't the idea behind marrying someone traditionally supposed to be fulfilling the marital customs of the woman's land (speaking from the Igbo perspective)?

Speaking from my culture's perspective, a traditional marriage is a social event in which all of the head members of the bride's family formally "hand away" their daughter to the groom's family. These marriages are always performed at the compound of the bride's parents and follow the rules and regulations of the bride's land and end with the long procession of the groom, his new wife, and his people, back to their home. With this in mind, I'd like to seek your opinions on this issue? What do you think about "ovaseez marajiz".

which one you do

na people like una guys dey run from

odumchi: Personally, I find it funny when people conduct so-called "traditional" marriages (which oftentimes are not traditional in in any way, shape, or form and are simply parties in which the bride and groom are dressed in lace or ankara) overseas instead of going home [to Nigeria]. I understand that sometimes there might be financial constraints and all that, but that doesn't negate the fact that [to me] it's such a weird idea. I mean, isn't the idea behind marrying someone traditionally supposed to be fulfilling the marital customs of the woman's land (speaking from the Igbo perspective)?

Speaking from my culture's perspective, a traditional marriage is a social event in which all of the head members of the bride's family formally "hand away" their daughter to the groom's family. These marriages are always performed at the compound of the bride's parents and follow the rules and regulations of the bride's land and end with the long procession of the groom, his new wife, and his people, back to their home. With this in mind, I'd like to seek your opinions on this issue? What do you think about "ovaseez marajiz".

what is funny about the fact that some people are undocumented and cannot travel. Finance is always a big issue as well. Most families struggles pay check to pay check. Security is also a factor.

texazzpete:

I think you should mind your business. Marry off your children the way you see fit, but stop judging others.

Maybe someone else with toe your path of not minding your business and open a thread complaining about people opening nairaland threads at 6:15am instead of going to church

why so harsh? I support the OP. The worst is the ones in Nigeria that would do their marriages in Lagos or Abuja, at least those abroad have excuse. You that's in this country, what's your excuse? The only thing is, once a lady marries, she becomes the property of her husband and his people. Except she's interested in further relations with her father's side, or is from Asaba, where she'll be buried in her father's compound, she may be ok with ignoring tradition, na her papa go suffer repercussions.

enyi1: why is this on front page!!!

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enyi1: why is this on front page!!!

if a topic 4rm culture forum must b in front page, is dis d best dere is?

Should I also travel to the village for traditional naming ceremony when the kids start coming?

Just asking.

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safarigirl: why so harsh? I support the OP. The worst is the ones in Nigeria that would do their marriages in Lagos or Abuja, at least those abroad have excuse. You that's in this country, what's your excuse? The only thing is, once a lady marries, she becomes the property of her husband and his people. Except she's interested in further relations with her father's side, or is from Asaba, where she'll be buried in her father's compound, she may be ok with ignoring tradition, na her papa go suffer repercussions.

Like I said, they have their reasons. You ought to respect that. At least, these days lots of them do it for security reasons...or convenience. As long as it's the father's house, what's the issue if they decide to do it in the family house in Lagos instead of the family house in the village?

The important thing is that the marriage takes place according to the customs of the bride's village. That way, the cultural value is preserved. The location is of much less importance.

The woman I intend marrying has no choice but to take me to her home town for the traditional rites with her kinsmen, I don't care if she lives on mars.
Going back home is the only way I can be certain that she is infact her father's daughter.

Okija_juju: My problem is that they never invite the Eze Mmuo for such weddings..

u wan make hm reveal all d atrocity wey d couples don commit prior 2 marriage & wetin dem gaz do 2 appease d gods in addition 2 dowry? Otherwise wedding no go takeplace

enyi1: why is this on front page!!!

Because you are not serious

E no pass yuropeen people