Pls I nid an advice,I fink somefin is wrong wit me,I don't feel comfortable around gals,am always afraid of them,its nt d@ am shy,am very outspoken,I prefer having them as a neutral friends than dating,I just don't know how to start telling a chick what happened in 1960 juz bcoz I wanna date her,also the uneasy feeling d@ comes if she says NO is one major turnoff for me...please am I ok or u fink sumfn is wrong..ur advice pls.

Telling ha bout ur past ain't necessary. U tell ha litu bout wz happening as @ present and ask questionz 2 kip d convo going. Don't b too close as dz 'll land u in d friend zone. Try 2 be humorous, gv it time lyk a week den hit d nail on d head. And if she says NO, make ha laugh @ dah instant and pretend lyk she never said it (or if possible, u could ask ha WHY.)

Niccollo Machiavelli once remarked that 'never has anything great being achieved without danger'.
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He that risks nothing, does nothing, is nothing and will become nothing----- Leo Buscaglia.

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Your major problem is fear of failure and risk taking.
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You will sure meet rejections so be prepared for it as it's no big deal.
No guy no matter how handsome, rich or whatever will say he has never been turned down. But again does it matter. At least some will say yes while some will say no. And it would be stupid to assume that because you get turned down that you are not good enough as tastes varies with individuals. Like pesonally i prefer dark women as opposed to those that like them fair.

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The only way to conquer whatever you are afraid of is by doing that.

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So go out there and meet women you find interesting and be yourself. With time you start to get comfortable with them.

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Also set your priorities right, ie you should know if this stage of your life is the opportune time to engage in serious relationship.
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The world id your oyster
Good luck.

1960?? :oop r u dat old??

Gay alert!!!

Harbosede02: 1960?? :oop r u dat old??

I'm sure he didn't mean it 'Literally'.

Harbosede02: 1960?? :oop r u dat old??

Guess u attended KoKonbilo Community School. Difficult for you to pick up a 'figure of speech'?

Dominionng:


Guess u attended KoKonbilo Community School. Difficult for you to pick up a 'figure of speech'?

i knew exactly wat d op meant,btw wat skul did u attend??y is it difficult 4 u 2 knw i was joking??did u finish primary 6??

Harbosede02: i knew exactly wat d op meant,btw wat skul did u attend??y is it difficult 4 u 2 knw i was joking??did u finish primary 6??

Oh! My Bad. Sorry I didn't notice earlier. I guess u attended Kokonbilo Community Primary School as well coz I can see you totally FINISHED pry6. Hope it was tasty? Keep the chin up anyway.. I come in peace.

U said u were joking? That makes the two of us

Denial aint an end nor failure,keep trying buddy,u gat a psychological problem until u unravel dose probs den u can deal with ur shortcomings with galz....Yhu past doesn't make ur future,learn 4rm it n move on,d momnt u try picking on ur past,dt shows u drawing urself back 2 darkness n again until u find dt gal dat cud complement ur heart,u wud definitely b propelled 2 say sth,come out of ur shell n mingle

rill: Gay alert!!!

Silly post

mildteddy:
Silly post

rill: Gay alert!!!

rill: Gay alert!!!

Very silly post it is.

Harbosede02: 1960?? :oop r u dat old??

I knew she was joking.

Wait for the girl meant for you.. Dats all!

Gay alert!

Op, I think u GAY.

Idowuogbo: Op, I think u GAY.

when I first saw the headline the word GAY came to mind. But I dont think the guy is gay, back then I could remember there was a time I couldnt approach a girl even as a handsome guy.

But on a faithful day I did it and that was my first rejection. I told myself I had to come out of these hole. And today I fvvck girls as I like.

The op just have to come out from that shell of his. He doesnt have to come out all at once. But little by little he can do it.

duni04: Gay alert!

Idowuogbo: Op, I think u GAY.

Gay ko, bay ni.....God 4bid bad tin,its not as bad as d@,am not a gay o bt how does some nairalanders do think?

Psalmuelh2o:
Gay ko, bay ni.....God 4bid bad tin,its not as bad as d@,am not a gay o bt how does some nairalanders do think?

gbagaun!!!!!!!!!!!

#me@:

gbagaun!!!!!!!!!!!

did u hit ur head on something?

booqee: u could be gay and not know it. Seriously, it could be the reason for ur fear for ladies

Hmmm bukky,am not gay and will never be one,I actually clicked on ur profile to checkout ur pics

booqee: u could be gay and not know it. Seriously, it could be the reason for ur fear for ladies

Hmmm bukky,am not gay and will never be one,I actually clicked on ur profile to checkout ur pics

Dominionng:


Guess u attended KoKonbilo Community School. Difficult for you to pick up a 'figure of speech'?

Psalmuelh2o: Pls I nid an advice,I fink somefin is wrong wit me,I don't feel comfortable around gals,am always afraid of them,its nt d@ am shy,am very outspoken,I prefer having them as a neutral friends than dating,I just don't know how to start telling a chick what happened in 1960 juz bcoz I wanna date her,also the uneasy feeling d@ comes if she says NO is one major turnoff for me...please am I ok or u fink sumfn is wrong..ur advice pls.

you should start smoking weed

Enegod: you should start smoking weed

Seriously u made a meaningful point,whenever am high on juz ordinary beer, I do amazing things with the hangover feeling the nxt day,bt I don't like drinking nooni.

Psalmuelh2o:
Hmmm bukky,am not gay and will never be one,I actually clicked on ur profile to checkout ur pics

Hmmm bukky,am not gay and will never be one,I actually clicked on ur profile to checkout ur pics

too bad..i already dragged my pics down a long time ago from nl. I think its a faceless forum. So pls find courage and speak to a very beautiful and bold lady..she won't bite you. I have a reason for saying the lady must be bold and beautiful.

Harbosede02: i knew exactly wat d op meant,btw wat skul did u attend??y is it difficult 4 u 2 knw i was joking??did u finish primary 6??

Failed attempt at a comeback.

Idowuogbo: Op, I think u GAY.

Which kain yeye chic be dis na by force to talk rubbish ?

booqee: too bad..i already dragged my pics down a long time ago from nl. I think its a faceless forum. So pls find courage and speak to a very beautiful and bold lady..she won't bite you. I have a reason for saying the lady must be bold and beautiful.

It seems av found a new tutor in u..lol,what are your reasons for me to approach a beautiful and bold lady first?

I tink dis wil make front page... I do hav same prob wit op so am following d thread bumper to bumper

hotmolo: I tink dis wil make front page... I do hav same prob wit op so am following d thread bumper to bumper

We sure need #help.

Saecula: Niccollo Machiavelli once remarked that 'never has anything great being achieved without danger'.
=

He that risks nothing, does nothing, is nothing and will become nothing----- Leo Buscaglia.

=


Your major problem is fear of failure and risk taking.
=
You will sure meet rejections so be prepared for it as it's no big deal.
No guy no matter how handsome, rich or whatever will say he has never been turned down. But again does it matter. At least some will say yes while some will say no. And it would be stupid to assume that because you get turned down that you are not good enough as tastes varies with individuals. Like pesonally i prefer dark women as opposed to those that like them fair.

=
The only way to conquer whatever you are afraid of is by doing that.

=
So go out there and meet women you find interesting and be yourself. With time you start to get comfortable with them.

=
Also set your priorities right, ie you should know if this stage of your life is the opportune time to engage in serious relationship.
=
The world id your oyster
Good luck.

Everything right here. I agree with this, especially because the OP says shyness is not his problem. I think it could be both of the above: fear of failure and being afraid to take risks. Don't be afraid. If you get turned down by a woman, see it as a learning experience. Must apply to anything else in your life that doesn't go the way you expect.