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What Is Sexy, And Who Makes The Rules? by shokayz(m): 8:17am On Nov 10, 2013 |
What Is Sexy? – Sexy is defined differently depending on who you are, what your cultural background is, and even which country you live in. But often we’re bombarded by images and messages of what we should find sexy and how we should be to be sexy. This week, we’re chatting about what sexy is and how to stop defining yourself by how the world sees youIf you’ve watched TV or picked up a magazine recently, you know there are pictures of what sexy is ‘supposed’ to be all around you. However, we’re all different and find different things more and less sexy than anyone else, which is good, other wise we’d all be attracted to exactly the same things – and that would be both problematic and dull! Sexy, more than anything else, is an attitude. Its not how we look, what we wear or how fat, thin, short or tall we are. If you are feeling good about yourself and can strut your stuff, others will find that attractive. Even if you are the most ‘gorgeous’ person, if you haven’t got the confidence to be yourself, its just not going to be all that sexy. Believe it or not, all models and celebrities have insecurities about their looks from time to time. The pressure is on these public figures even more because the world judges and defines them only by the way they look. It’s true that sometimes we need to wear that drop- dead gorgeous dress to feel good about ourselves, or we need to wear a certain kind of make up or brand of clothing to feel good. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing as its good to look after yourself physically and mentally and wearing nice clothes or making an effort for a special person or occasion can makes us feel that we are looking ourselves. But be careful not to just rely on fashion and your outward appearance. There is a huge global multi- million rand industry built around selling the notion of what is sexy and making people feel they have to look a certain way or have particular accessories in order to be taken seriously by their peers. This leads to a lot of unhappiness all over the world. So, don’t worry if you haven’t got the money to buy all the latest gear. Develop confidence in yourself and be brave enough to do your own thing. What defines ‘sexy’ is not the same from continent to continent and culture to culture. Women from the Kayan tribe in Thailand start wearing brass rings around their necks from the age of five, adding more and more as they get older and elongating their necks, because a super long neck is considered elegant and sexy! tretched ear lobes. lips and body scarring are other practices denoting beauty in different communities, while Mauritanian women are seen as more sexy the more overweight they are, to the point that young girls are sent by their parents to camps where they may be forced to eat up to 15,000 calories a day, in an effort to “fatten them up”. Research show that both men and women form ideas of what they find “sexy”, according to media and fashion stereotypes about sexiness. They notice people around them who fit these stereotypes because that is what they have been told or shown means “sexy”. This also differs very much from person to person. Keep in mind that the media you consume (the magazines you read, for instance, or the TV shows you watch) will influence what you think is sexy and attractive. Crossing many different cultures and peoples, the following qualities appear to be rated as elements of “sexiness” by many: a look of “mischief”- laughter/naughtiness in the eyes, sophisticated mysteriousness – elegant but edgy, relaxed vulnerability – a childlike carefree attitude, being at ease in their own skin, wit and humour, lavish sensuousness, signs of good health, heartfelt sincerity, vitality and human warmth/empathy. Sex appeal is all about attitude, the aura you give off and making the most of what you’ve got. It’s the way you walk or move or smile that tends to draw people’s attention to you in the first place and then your ability to get into a conversation, seem friendly and interested but not too intense, is what they see next. Being fairly relaxed about your body is generally much sexier than being uptight about it. Constant self -monitoring and self commentary on whether you are too fat, thin, clever, stupid, etc. is very off-putting to partners. Most people, male and female, when asked what they find sexy in a partner, tend to focus more on personality than physicality. It’s true that we tend to have favourite bits of bodies, particular physical attributes that we go for, but it is often much more important that someone is intelligent, funny or sympathetic than that they look a certain way. We are aware anyway that looks change over time and with fashion. Most of the time, the pictures you see on billboards and on magazines are not how people actually look, in real life. Magazines and advertisements use photoshop and other image enhancing tools to instantly make models look slimmer, have a smaller nose, look taller, or have perfect cheekbones. So chances are, the model you’re comparing yourself to looks very different in real life! Don’t be so distracted by everything that’s sold to you as sexy. Work it out for yourself and make up your own mind. It’s much more interesting that way and you are likely to focus on things that last better for you and help you make relationships that give you more. Try not to judge yourself by media images or other people’s comments, it can really knock your sexual confidence which can then lead to further difficulties. If a partner you like and trust tells you they find you sexy, believe it and enjoy it! Don’t spend your time discounting what they say (“You’re only saying that to be kind to me….”). Tell others you find them sexy when you do, life is too short not to and most people love a compliment. Of course you can make changes to things like your weight or your look if you want to, but concentrate for the main part on thinking “This is what I’ve got, I might as well make the most of it”. Remember, apology is a seriously unsexy thing and avoid apologising for yourself and how you look at all times! |
Re: What Is Sexy, And Who Makes The Rules? by jjagz: 8:53am On Nov 10, 2013 |
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Re: What Is Sexy, And Who Makes The Rules? by naijafresh: 8:54am On Nov 10, 2013 |
Jeez OP, Can you repost this after you have formatted it for a better reading experience Thanks |
Re: What Is Sexy, And Who Makes The Rules? by Enegod(m): 10:03am On Nov 10, 2013 |
shokayz: What Is Sexy? – Sexy is defined differently depending on who you |
Re: What Is Sexy, And Who Makes The Rules? by NK30: 2:21pm On Nov 10, 2013 |
Enegod:n u hd to quote d whole damn thing for this |
Re: What Is Sexy, And Who Makes The Rules? by Bootybuttchic(f): 4:48pm On Nov 10, 2013 |
GOSH see textbook ....wen sumpeople must av been expectin tins like ass.s and bo.obs |
Re: What Is Sexy, And Who Makes The Rules? by Enegod(m): 5:05pm On Nov 10, 2013 |
NK@30: |
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