It has actually come to my notice by most immediate sibling tends to rude to their older ones especially the ones that you are year older than. How do you cope with a sibling like that and make them respect you has expected..pls share your views

I just ignore him. Rude, immature , selfish and totally self centered. But I pray for him sha.
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You should get used to that. It's only family that's permitted to act that way to you and go scot free.

Remember, they don't do it cos they hate you but they look up to you and wish they were like you. It's disguised admiration.

When u understand it this way, you won't have problems with your siblings.

Carsonv: You should get used to that. It's only family that's permitted to act that way to you and go scot free.

Remember, they don't do it cos they hate you but they look up to you and wish they were like you. It's disguised admiration.

When u understand it this way, you won't have problems with your siblings.

well said! I totally agree with you.

He had surbodination issues when we were younger and I showed him pepper too- emi egbon ti o gba nonsense but we are both over that now. Maturity happened to us both.

I see him like a friend rather than a brother!
The truth is I don't even av tym for all dt crappy respect thingy!




But we beat each other wellu wellu when we were growing sha oo

Carsonv: You should get used to that. It's only family that's permitted to act that way to you and go scot free.

Remember, they don't do it cos they hate you but they look up to you and wish they were like you. It's disguised admiration.

When u understand it this way, you won't have problems with your siblings.

Not when he does it to everybody. And yet demands respect from younger ones.

If you put it to heart, you might just ruin a better future relationship. You're the senior, you should take the initiative.

Have you noticed that most adult siblings who have a strained relationship now is mostly because of something that happened during growing up.

If it'd make you more relaxed, if you're really pissed off just address the misbehavior and forgive immediately...like it never happened!

As I said earlier, only family has the freedom to disrespect you n go free.

This is common when the elder is female and the immediate younger is male

The Younger male think he is stronger

dayokanu: This is common when the elder is female and the immediate younger is male

The Younger male think he is stronger

Lol...not always so. My younger sister never one day believed I could beat her. Back then she'd brag to ears that were ready to listen that she beats me at home. Lol. That was because I had(still do) so much luv for her n never laid hands on her during fights(just block her random hand flings).

But when maturity set in, she realized how much I loved her. Now she adores me like a hero.

Now what if I took to provocation every childishness she puts up cos dat Gurl used to be annoying? We would have just bn tolerating each other now.

dayokanu: This is common when the elder is female and the immediate younger is male

The Younger male think he is stronger

True!!

drollster:

Not when he does it to everybody. And yet demands respect from younger ones.

aw do u deal wif a person like dat

Thannk God i dont come from a family that has no respect for their snr ones.i respect my older ones and my younger ones respect me.it was our last born that tended to be rude and saucy during his teen years and i showed him pepper till he changed.

See me see wahala, I'm d first of 4&myself & my younger sis who is d 3rd had dis misunderstding in a public transport 4rm church. I bought drinks 4 us & wen u buy dem, one is suppose 2 first slightly open so it doesn't pour on d floor cos of too much shaking. D first time she opened hastily&d drink poured, I corrected, second time, same I corrected 3rd I got angry & shouted @ her. See d arg below;
Me:Ohhhhhhh why do u keep doing dis
B: D drink didn't pour nwwww
Me: I saw it pour on d floor
B: This is a bus
Me: It doesn't matter u don't have 2 dirty d environment
B: It is a bus&d bus driver isn't complaining
Me: It doesn't mean u have 2 be unreasonable
B: Stop shouting @ me
Me: Am I shouting
B: Correct & stop shouting @ me I 'll not drink again. #throws d drink 2 my laps#
Me: What's ur problem, I'm only asking u 2 think & u're not. U must be stupid #throws it away&hits d second born#
B: I'm not
Me: U are cos u're acting like one
B: U're d one acting like one& I can use my money 2 buy it
Me: Who gave u d money
B: I'm not d last born dat u can be talking 2 nyhw. #throws the snacks I bought also @ me#
Me: I'll slap u&nothing will happen, u must be very stupid#throws it away&hits d second born again#
B: U're stupid&if u slap me l'll slap u back. I'm not d last born dat U can be talking 2 nyhw
Me: What makes u different, are u my mate either, u see u're not thinking.
B: U're not thinking 2 #mumurs#
Me: #Ignores#

All dese while, d second born&oda membs of d bus were trying 2 stop d arg. Imagine all d abuses on top my sweat again. 2 bad!

dahmie2013: See me see wahala, I'm d first of 4&myself & my younger sis who is d 3rd had dis misunderstding in a public transport 4rm church. I bought drinks 4 us & wen u buy dem, one is suppose 2 first slightly open so it doesn't pour on d floor cos of too much shaking. D first time she opened hastily&d drink poured, I corrected, second time, same I corrected 3rd I got angry & shouted @ her. See d arg below;
Me:Ohhhhhhh why do u keep doing dis
B: D drink didn't pour nwwww
Me: I saw it pour on d floor
B: This is a bus
Me: It doesn't matter u don't have 2 dirty d environment
B: It is a bus&d bus driver isn't complaining
Me: It doesn't mean u have 2 be unreasonable
B: Stop shouting @ me
Me: Am I shouting
B: Correct & stop shouting @ me I 'll not drink again. #throws d drink 2 my laps#
Me: What's ur problem, I'm only asking u 2 think & u're not. U must be stupid #throws it away&hits d second born#
B: I'm not
Me: U are cos u're acting like one
B: U're d one acting like one& I can use my money 2 buy it
Me: Who gave u d money
B: I'm not d last born dat u can be talking 2 nyhw. #throws the snacks I bought also @ me#
Me: I'll slap u&nothing will happen, u must be very stupid#throws it away&hits d second born again#
B: U're stupid&if u slap me l'll slap u back. I'm not d last born dat U can be talking 2 nyhw
Me: What makes u different, are u my mate either, u see u're not thinking.
B: U're not thinking 2 #mumurs#
Me: #Ignores#

All dese while, d second born&oda membs of d bus were trying 2 stop d arg. Imagine all d abuses on top my sweat again. 2 bad!

lol,to me i think you didnt handle the issue well,there is nothing wrong in correcting your younger one but maybe you did it in a way that attracted attention or embarassed her,if that was the case,its natural for her to revolt.you dont need to tell her to think thereby making her feel less of a human being,if i was in your shoes and i correct her once and she does it again,snatch the thing from her hand in a way that wont attract attention and show her gently,then say can you see what i did,smile over it and tease her,e.g see your head,agbaya,you cant even do anything without abasha,is that how you will behave if it was your boyfriend that took you out.that way you have corrected her without messing with her self esteem.infact that is what ill do if i had a kid sis who did that.

Then again maybe because you rebuked her in the presence of her younger one,no one likes that,shouting at your younger sibling in the presence of another younger one.

Another way you could have handled it was to let her do what she wanted to do without threatening to slap her ( i dont subscribe to threatening anyone with violence publicly or privately) depending on her age,i dont know but you dont treat a young adult like you are talking to a 5 year old.she has a mind of her own too.anyway after she did all her yamayama and you got down from the bus,you should have told her (without the younger one knowing) that do you know i dont like what you did or the way you did this this and this,then she will apologize.

I could threaten my kid bro with cane or slaps when he was under 9 year old but starting from 10 i used verbal lashing however not in the presence of his younger one.

You are a big bro,not a competitor with your younger siblings.use force (not violence) when necessary and use communication when necessary

well I bless GOD for my siblings our parents raised us so well, that we were tot to b respectful to our elders. from our childhood. so far ,my younger ones has been a blessing and we are best of friends (3 cute sisters) with four years gap each . [color=#000099][/color]

Hmmmm! As the older sibling. . . YOU CAN NEVER STOOP TO THEIR LEVELS!!!
They will push you once in a while. . . .WALKING AWAY FROM CONFRONTATIONS WITH LOVED ONES is not a sign of weakness!
I don't go there with my SIBLINGS OR HUSBAND OR _{THAT MY LOVING BOYFRIEND}!!!
If I love you. . . I WILL ALWAYS WALK AWAY. . . UNLESS I HATE YOU. . . .THEN I MAKE SURE I KILL YOU FIRST!

With my family members. . . I have learned to be:

As careful as SOLDIER
As patient as a VULTURE
As peaceful as a DOVE
As wise as a SERPENT
As deaf as GOODLUCK JONATHAN. . .
As dumb as a POST
As blind as a BAT
As gentle, humble and meek as a LAMB
As dead as DOOR-NAILS


MOST IMPORTANTLY BY [size=20pt]MY[/size] MOST AMAZING LOVE, GRACE AND MERCY!!!

I am the oldest(with only 5 years between us all) . . . so I have to YIELD always. . . and let them DIE FIRST WITH HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE like them PAPA!!!!

If dem gang up against you ehn? SWEEEEEICIDE go better pass you! Kai!!!

Walahi-Talahi. . . I FOR DON KILL ALLADEM!
YOU CAN NEVVVVVVVVVVVVVER WIN ANY ARGUMENT WITH ANNNNNNNNNNNNY OF THEM. . . lai-lai!!!!
Na die you see so! JUST WAKA!!!!

If I open my mouth. . . .I LIVE TO REGRET IT. . . I refuse to let them take me there. I am waaaaaaaaay past that phase!

I love it when the say I 'have changed'. . . . Little do they know that I am trying to OUTLIVE THEM!

Mu he he he he he

Kanwulia: Hmmmm! As the older sibling. . . YOU CAN NEVER STOOP TO THEIR LEVELS!!!
They will push you once in a while. . . .WALKING AWAY FROM CONFRONTATIONS WITH LOVED ONES is not a sign of weakness!
I don't go there with my SIBLINGS OR HUSBAND OR _{THAT MY LOVING BOYFRIEND}!!!
If I love you. . . I WILL ALWAYS WALK AWAY. . . UNLESS I HATE YOU. . . .THEN I MAKE SURE I KILL YOU FIRST!

With my family members. . . I have learned to be:

As careful as SOLDIER
As patient as a VULTURE
As peaceful as a DOVE
As wise as a SERPENT
As deaf as GOODLUCK JONATHAN. . .
As dumb as a POST
As blind as a BAT
As gentle, humble and meek as a LAMB
As dead as DOOR-NAILS


MOST IMPORTANTLY BY [size=20pt]MY[/size] MOST AMAZING LOVE, GRACE AND MERCY!!!

I am the oldest(with only 5 years between us all) . . . so I have to YIELD always. . . and let them DIE FIRST WITH HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE like them PAPA!!!!

If dem gang up against you ehn? SWEEEEEICIDE go better pass you! Kai!!!

Walahi-Talahi. . . I FOR DON KILL ALLADEM!
YOU CAN NEVVVVVVVVVVVVVER WIN ANY ARGUMENT WITH ANNNNNNNNNNNNY OF THEM. . . lai-lai!!!!
Na die you see so! JUST WAKA!!!!

If I open my mouth. . . .I LIVE TO REGRET IT. . . I refuse to let them take me there. I am waaaaaaaaay past that phase!

I love it when the say I 'have changed'. . . . Little do they know that I am trying to OUTLIVE THEM!

Mu he he he he he

you will not kill me

@Kulyie thanks!

Just buy him or her things. He or she wil respect u