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Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 6:29pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
bisiopinion: Lolzz, my dear, I did sociology as an elective course in skool, I am an economist btw.. So I do know all there is to know about feminism... There are the structural functionalist feminists who advocate for equal rights through dialogue which doesn't work and we also have the radical feminists to whom equal right is a do or die affair.. But one thing they both have in common is that they are angry with the way the world is run... They are angry people and I am telling you from experience and not what I read on paper.... The only thing is that one is more aggressive than the other... They both wish to rock the boat and break the rope which knits society... Feminists my dear, are angry people.... They are not just angry, they are also sad and depressed... Pls don't join them if you wanna live a happy life.. |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by safarigirl(f): 6:29pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
njokusboy:I'm angry? You're just scared of losing your position of power, you're scared Nigerian women are starting to see the light and one day they won't need you to feel important or to have a sense of self-worth. Lord, you chauvinists are something else 1 Like |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 6:29pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
[quote author=bukatyne]Only feminists have anger issues? im a feminist starting today and im very angry. lol one thing i noticed about naija guys is they like it when women pretend. so we pretend to be humble. pretend to be so many things they think an ideal woman should be. im advising guys, its better a woman shows you her true self before you marry her. also since when did humility become a woman's thing. people are either humble or they arent. everyone has their flaws and pride is one of them, for both men and women. as respect is earned and cant be forced. all this talk about head of the family is giving me a headache abeg. dont mind them. it seems they dont teach how to earn respect in how to be a man school. apparently, they have no idea. some of them have no clue how to be a man unless a woman makes them feel like a man. whats the word used when a woman undermines masculinity? EMASCULATION. funny, there's no word to make women feel less feminine. its enough, its no longer a man's world, we are here too and the world is big enough for all of us to coexist without oppressing each other. for the guys out there, i dont want to rule over you. i have absolutely zero interest in that but dont i have a right to contribute as i please. you are not my head or my savior and you have failed to protect and show good examples to your children. enough. step aside cos im tired of walking behind you. you can hold my hand sha. lol |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 6:37pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
safarigirl: @koyes and bukatyne, ladies, why are you wasting such rare intelligence on Neanderthals like warrior and crew? Please do yourselves a lot of good and ignore them, let them be the problems of whichever unfortunate women who answer their last names Lolzz, you think michelle obama got to where she is by always opposing obama? My friend wake up...don't lemme tell you stephanies story, u don't wanna go through such plus she is a celebrity while u re nobody.... You go grow old... I hope u find the puppet of your dream so you can dictate to him, if u don't, u can always divorce, u re afterall comfortable with that... |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 6:49pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
safarigirl: I'm angry? Scared of what... I aint scared of jacksh1t, aggressive women don't bother me, I don't even care about them, I pretend they don't exist but they also know better than to bring their "hot head" close to me... That a lady doesn't spit fire and turn the house upside down doesn't mean she has no self worth... Only people who have low self esteem think they always have a point to prove... |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by warrior101: 7:05pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha Belly dey pain mem brodaly see as this woman work on you. Talk truth, won't you have beaten this kind of a woman to prove it in a different way? I watched a movie a lady was being flogged and stoned to death while some warriors was passing by and they came down from their hourses killed all the men and instead of the lady to thank them and started fighting them. One angry man slit her throat open. Ther ring leader said why did you have to do that, it hasn't gotten to that and he replied, "she's a bitch" and walked away angrily. Its the same story for feminists... njokusboy: |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by warrior101: 7:07pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
Don't mind that amatuer jare. Lol njokusboy: |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 7:08pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
warrior101: Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha Haha |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 7:18pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
njokusboy: ok o. what about aggressive men? i take it you walk away too. i dont know if its low self esteem or the fact that people are just people. if thats the case, fine. by the way im a feminist and extremely aggressive and im certain the man i will marry has to be cool headed not because i want to try and take advantage of him but i know he will teach me humility. everyone is capable of being both aggressive and cool headed. it takes the right partner to inspire and bring out the good traits in you. it takes a special kind of man to be with an aggressive woman and be happy with her. my mum used to say, we all cannot be sugar or else the world will lick us up. |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 7:23pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
njokusboy: guys stop walking away. take it as a challenge. like taming the shrew. |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Ngokafor(f): 7:25pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
Interesting thread...first of all,i think the op wrote this piece from his perception of women in America,whose overall attitude in relation to men is different from the way women are here.Women in this part of the world has done and is doing their fair share of the humility/submissive ish so how much more subservient do you guys mouthing off endlessly here want them to be huh??...you want them to roll over and die or what??.. I just dont get where all these whining,complaining and nagging are coming from honestly. ....... Secondly,its a lot easeir for women to submit to a partner who treats them with love and respect as well than an irresponsible brute who spends the better part of his life feeling that the world should continually bow down at his feet cos he is male.It just does not work that way sorry.One good turn deserves another,you shouldnt expect love and respect if you as a guy is badly behaved with no iota of respect what-so-ever in your bone...i don talk my own.. 1 Like |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 7:30pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
Ngokafor: Interesting thread...first of all,i think the op wrote this piece from his perception of women in America,whose overall attitude in relation to men is different from the way women are here.Women in this part of the world has done and is doing their fair share of the humility/submissive ish so how much more subservient do you guys mouthing off endlessly here want them to be huh??...you want them to roll over and die or what??.. I just dont get where all these whining,complaining and nagging are coming from honestly. well put. even though i claim to be a feminist, there is nothing i wouldnt do for a man who is worthy of my love. everyone deserves respect and adoration from their partners. |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by safarigirl(f): 7:31pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
Ngokafor: Interesting thread...first of all,i think the op wrote this piece from his perception of women in America,whose overall attitude in relation to men is different from the way women are here.Women in this part of the world has done and is doing their fair share of the humility/submissive ish so how much more subservient do you guys mouthing off endlessly here want them to be huh??...you want them to roll over and die or what??.. I just dont get where all these whining,complaining and nagging are coming from honestly.PREACH! |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by warrior101: 7:34pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
The man you marry would be seen to be a whimp by the society and a victim of bully... He is incapable of thinking or act like a man. He's a coward and that's what has attracted him to you because he is the mugu you will be comfortable with as your subject... That's how we men see him. But I guess its how you see him that matters most. Right? TDN: |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 7:34pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
bettermike: hmm...interesting. According to webstar dictionary, to dominate means to have control or power over something or someone. Now, i dint say real men dont dominate; i said real men dont dominate for dominating sakes. I also said you need not view domination negatively. Now if i re-phrase my statement, i mean real men dont control for controlling sakes. E.g. A real man knows he can control his wife but he does it with maturity. He doesnt abuse it. He knows when to assert his authority and when to adopt his wife's opinion. He doesnt stick to a decision because he can but because he feels its the proper thing to do for him and his family. Gerrit now? |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 7:36pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
You are using the word wrongly. A domineering person is the same as an authoritarian who never listens to his surbodinates because he feels he has the sole power and should suggest and make decisions even without the consent of his followers. This is not the quality of a good leader. A good leader knows that he does not have the sole power and that his followers have the right to make suggestions for the benefit of the group before the leader makes a decision. Can an authoritative or domineering person be a good leader?NO! So how can a domineering man be better? bettermike: hmm...interesting. According to webstar dictionary, to dominate means to have control or power over something or someone. Now, i dint say real men dont dominate; i said real men dont dominate for dominating sakes. I also said you need not view domination negatively. Now if i re-phrase my statement, i mean real men dont control for controlling sakes. E.g. A real man knows he can control his wife but he does it with maturity. He doesnt abuse it. He knows when to assert his authority and when to adopt his wife's opinion. He doesnt stick to a decision because he can but because he feels its the proper thing to do for him and his family. Gerrit now? |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by warrior101: 7:45pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
You just dey mix 1+1+xyz together. You want to scarter your head. You talking of equality and leadership in one sentence. How can you be equal to your leader? Leader and Master can be interchanged so your leader is also your master. And your master is a man. Bunch of hypicrites. Lol koyes: You are using the word wrongly. A domineering person is the same as an authoritarian who never listens to his surbodinates because he feels he has the sole power and should suggest and make decisions even without the consent of his followers. This is not the quality of a good leader. A good leader knows that he does not have the sole power and that his followers have the right to make suggestions for the benefit of the group before the leader makes a decision. Can an authoritative or domineering person be a good leader?NO! So how can a domineering man be better? 1 Like |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 7:50pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
TDN: With time, I have also learnt to avoid aggression entirely from both genders.... I don't wanna spend the rest of my life calming my wife... I don't wanna die before my time |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by yfo: 7:51pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
warrior101: Doesn't change anything. A girl like sarafigirl got her own matching stud out there and when she finds him she'd be attracted to him... This makes feminism useless cuz no matter the category of woman there is always a counter man... And she will be humble to him. Feminism isn't the same as rioting against men and the generalisation is what I'm against...feminism in some aspects isn't useless at all and I wish you would take your time to find out their useful aims. where is wuzietan when you need her |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 7:52pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
TDN: The shrew doesn't wanna be tamed, she wanna lord over me... I don't have that patience |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 7:52pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
Nice speech from a well groomed gentleman. y-fo: 1 Like |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by warrior101: 7:53pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
Guys who are very busy with something else would walk away but however some guys have your time and they would deal with it perfectly... Don't get cocky... TDN: 1 Like |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 7:59pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
warrior101: The man you marry would be seen to be a whimp by the society and a victim of bully... You can never think or act like a man. He's a coward and that's what has attracted him to you because its a mugu you will be comfortable with as your subject... WIMP? he is considered that cos he is cool headed? COWARD? cos he decided to marry an aggressive lady. actually it takes a lot of guts to be with someone like me. MUGU?cos he doesnt need to oppress me to validate his masculinity? where is Bully coming from? strong words but i completely understand. any man that chooses to be with someone like me is a threat to a guy like you. the society made up of people like you. well im sorry to dissapoint you. im engaged to a great guy. he likes cooking. i can cook too. i always complain he is making me fat, so i insist on making meals, cos mine are healthier. he is very cool headed and is the best guy for me but im gonna say this, a wimp or coward he is not. so he treats me like an equal, you have no idea how much strength that takes. there will always be those like you who will call him names but he is the strongest man i know cos no matter how aggressive i get, he just ignores me and i feel ashamed and calm down. i have never heard him raise his voice, not even once, but there is unimaginable power in silence. i jnow im a better person with him in my life and most importantly, i know thats the man i want to father my children. yes, it only matters what he thinks about himself and what i think of him. i guess you are married or will be married to the society, since what they think is all you care about. its not by force, by all means, be with the type of woman you want. its your choice but dont bash men who end up with women like me cos you have no idea what they are enjoying. never judge a book by its cover cos with my aggression and views of the world, there are so many things he finds wonderful about me. the strength of a woman is immeasurable and it baffles me when some men measure their strength by how the world perceives how they treat their women. 1 Like |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 7:59pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
Gbam! I love this dude. y-fo: 1 Like |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 8:14pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
1000 likes y-fo: |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by safarigirl(f): 8:28pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
TDN:bless you milady and may you find happiness and fulfillment with that wonderful man |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 8:35pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
I'm back. Missed a lot of action and mud slinging To me, i need a woman who will support me, advice me and respects my decision on family issues as final, although subject to review, an intellegent woman. And also tactful. Know when to talk. Is it in the heat of love making that you remind your husband that gas don finish for kitchen, and land lord come ask for rent ? Or when i had a bad day you go confrontational? It's like my list is long, but guess what? I won't settle for less. 1 Like |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 8:47pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
TDN:i love this post. Since my return to Nigeria, i've noticed that a lot of ladies are trained to be appendages to their men, that's why they are treated like shit most of the time. I cannot imagine coming home from work tired and a house wife would tell me *honey, be romantic by cooking us night food and cleaning up the kitchen* that would be recipe for SERIOUS trouble. Ladies respect yourself and no man would treat you like shit. OluJacobs and JokeSilva has been married for over 30 years, Joke is a strong, goal oriented woman, and ir happily married at the same time. |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 8:53pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
We all have different personalities that directly influences our preference in life. People are not the same and cannot reason the same way. However,from what i observed on this thread,women who are educated and exude self confidence where ever they go have no business with domineering men cause they would always be confused as extreme feminists no matter how humble she is. There are respectful men who don't have a problem with such women. For the men with domineering traits,please look for your kind. Don't use your past experience and generalise all women cause that's irresponsible and learn not to be intimidated and make complaints when you hear or see a woman express her views. You'll get nothing out of it. 1 Like |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 9:02pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
I just love it when i see or hear 21st century guys talk. I respect your kind alot. Your parents did a good job raising you. PocketEconomist: i love this post. Since my return to Nigeria, i've noticed that a lot of ladies are trained to be appendages to their men, that's why they are treated like shit most of the time. I cannot imagine coming home from work tired and a house wife would tell me *honey, be romantic by cooking us night food and cleaning up the kitchen* that would be recipe for SERIOUS trouble. Ladies respect yourself and no man would treat you like shit. OluJacobs and JokeSilva has been married for over 30 years, Joke is a strong, goal oriented woman, and ir happily married at the same time. 1 Like |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by Nobody: 9:14pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
koyes: I just love it when i see or hear 21st century guys talk. I respect your kind alot. Your parents did a good job raising you.Thank you. To be truthful, many of the ladies here disgust me. You meet a lady today and tomorrow asks you to pay 20,000 for hair? And you exchange sex for money and you expect to be respected by the man? Indeed. I'm gonna say this without apology... Some Naija women DESERVE THE YEYE MEN THEY MARRY. A woman who no value herself will not be valued by any man. Simple. |
Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 9:16pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
koyes: We all have different personalities that directly influences our preference in life. People are not the same and cannot reason the same way. However,from what i observed on this thread,women who are educated and exude self confidence where ever they go have no business with domineering men cause they would always be confused as extreme feminists no matter how humble she is. There are respectful men who don't have a problem with such women. For the men with domineering traits,please look for your kind. Don't use your past experience and generalise all women cause that's irresponsible and learn not to be intimidated and make complaints when you hear or see a woman express her views. You'll get nothing out of it. nicely put. to each his own. |
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