Zeinab Badawi:

Tolexander: na wetin do your mouth?

bukatyne: [color=#000099][/color] How can a person commit without love?

True love is all that is needed to make a marriage work.

P.S.: love is not an emotion

alutacontinua: @bukatyne, care to explain the 'love is not an emotion' part?

Matthew briggs: Thanks for your contribution.

Moreover this is what i told him. I said.
Love is needed for marriage to take place but for it to work it take a commiment. reason been that.

Love is not a enough because... you can love some one so much and still cheat, hurt the person, quarell and do nasty things. Also love sometimes can fade away when we get lazy and fail to do the work needed to make the mariage work... hence the need for commiment.

Commimemnt means knowing that I love this person, we shall face challenges but I will do my best and work hard to make this work, for better for worse.

I told him love brings commiment but what sustains commiment is commiment. When love is weak commitment can hold the marriage.

comiment is a concious decision not an emotional decision.

Nashville:

Smart girl. I think people are wrongly defining love. If you love someone, you will be committed to that person. An example is mother and child relationship, even though it is a different kinda love, but it is an example of how love shows commitment. Most people believe love is the physical attraction, and I agree that wears away after a few years. But real love includes understanding, commitment, forgiveness, humility, respect everything needed for a marriage to work.

So I say love is the key but not the physical attraction type of love only.

bukatyne:
Maybe you are mixing love with emotions

bukatyne:

Read 1Cor 13: 1 - 8 on what love means/ entails

bukatyne: Expect there are kinds of love, you cannot love a person and cheat on him/ her. Sweetlemon in one thread nailed it The last thing you want to do to someone you love is hurt him or her

Maybe you are mixing love with emotions

alutacontinua:

The love that we talk about btw partners is not the one in 1Cor 13! It goes beyond that, yes, it's all of 1Cor 13 plus a mix of the emotional constituent!

I love evrybody arnd me, and yes, I mean everybody, even my enemies with the love of 1 Cor:13! That is what is expected of me as a believer with love as a fruit of the Spirit!

But do you expect me to love my enemy and my husband the same way I'm guessing no! Do i love my husband the way 1 Cor. 13 puts it, absolutely yes! However, there's an emotional part to it that makes that love transcend the general love i'm expected to have to everyone arnd me.


The same also applies to ur 'brethren submitting to one another' concept but let's talk about 'love' now and leave the submission part!

Matthew briggs:

@bolded I agree to your statement but also understand that no man or woman is infallible and as humans we make mistakes ...and hurt even those we love dearly due to several factors like ego, incorrect judgements, moments of weakneass, moments when our love is going through fire etc.

EG: I love my mum so much but some timea i piss her off to the extent she threathens to disown me, but i know she loves me to pieces like I do love her

Will your spouse annoy you and vice versa, yes! But there is a line you don't cross

I am sure there are some things you can't just do to your mother

No matter what I am commited to making my relationship with her work because she is my mum.

Matthew briggs: Thanks for your contribution.

Moreover this is what i told him. I said.
Love is needed for marriage to take place in the first place but for it to work it take commiment. reason been that.

>>Love is not a enough. You can love some one so much and still cheat, hurt the person, quarell and do nasty things.
>> Also love sometimes can fade away when we get lazy and fail to do the work needed to make the mariage work... hence the need for commiment.

Commimemnt means knowing that I love this person, we shall face challenges, but I will do my best and work hard to make this work, for better for worse.

I told him love brings commiment but what sustains commiment is commiment. When love is weak commitment can hold the marriage.

comiment is a concious decision not an emotional decision.

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