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Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by mettimetti: 12:51am On Jan 04, 2014 |
greatgod2012: From your post, it seems you two are from different tribes, if yes, doesn't he speak his own language when his folks are around.Best advice so far! 1 billion likes. 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by FCBee: 1:00am On Jan 04, 2014 |
Goldenboy007: What do women want exactly? You fight man My friend, shut up! Is it right for him to give her the silent treatment just because she spoke her language? N even threaten to slap her? If na me, e don meet him match. Because i will cook n leave it on the table, lock myself up in d room n ignore him very well. We go enter 3 weeks on top this one. E neva see anything. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by crazymommy(f): 1:08am On Jan 04, 2014 |
Saw some comments from some guys here and i weep for the future of this country,and na people go marry this kids for house. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 1:18am On Jan 04, 2014 |
@sunshine; by Sunshine lady(f): 12:23amyour indecision shows your lack of logic. tell me which tribe in nigeria that allows a wife to have more than 1 husband. i will easily tell you no authentic african tribe frowns on a husband having more than 1 wife. abeg, park well into the bush. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by swtcharissa(f): 1:19am On Jan 04, 2014 |
Men love it n feel so high when their women plead n plead,well I used to do that,but I took a break from it when I noticed even when he is guilty he waits patiently for my pleading, Now if he annoys me or vice verser,we give eachother cold feet,n after three days or so,we go don belle full for d boning matas,den I will begin to bros him up n down,tapping him in bad places, Meanhile during the silent treatment,when I hear him coming,I quickly wera neat n skimpy stuffs,dress my hair n smell fresh,I cook nice food dat period n believe u me,he trips but can't say it,I know dis cos a day after we must have started talking,he drags me to our sweet bed n d rest is history Babes,the day he dared try to refuse my food,nne I crossed my legs,took a pack of juice n faced d tv,o babes,dat same ngt,infact less than 1hr,my guy say abeg make I go bring d food,even if e don enter freezer,say he go manage am, Summary,always give him time to resolve what has transpired,little time ooo,but during the period,be d best of all wives,knw when to talk to him also,this is very necessary |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by FCBee: 1:29am On Jan 04, 2014 |
Baby mama: Your response was mature n wise.but u didnt hv to go tribalistic. Good advice tho |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 1:33am On Jan 04, 2014 |
@sunshine lady; by Sunshine lady(f): 11:41pm On Jan 03tell your idol/role model to grow up. tintinz only stooped low to her level to let her know she can't malign always without someone calling her out. the owner of donkeys sometimes quiets her when she brails. your person reads her hope not the truth into what people say to suit herself. example is her saying i advocated that the husband can hit, except the face, when i was simply addressing the outcry of the woman that her husband threatened to slap her. when people slap, its always the face while i said only immature man hit his spouse. so tell her to develop better quality and shed what she notorious for on Islam and she can continue being her 'tribalist' against us the Yoruba Yoruba and we are not ashamed of our tiger claws. Alhamdulillah. though, i am against tribal mark, but i am grateful that God made me member of that tribe. as to Islam you can't out of something so demanding as Islam and claim to be pundit just because you read material literally without the applicable knowledge of its science. 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Sunshinelady(f): 2:02am On Jan 04, 2014 |
RoyPCain: @sunshine; your indecision shows your lack of logic. tell me which tribe in nigeria that allows a wife to have more than 1 husband. i will easily tell you no authentic african tribe frowns on a husband having more than 1 wife. abeg, park well into the bush.. U knw, @d beginnin wen I read som of ur commemts I tot u were one of d mature minded ones, but seeing dis childish utterance here, I shake my head in disgust. I never used any abusiv words on u, y shuld u? Or u prefer war of words to sensibly stating ur points? Lmao..I can feel d smoke & rage comin out of ur head just @d mere mention & suggestion of ur woman being wit oda men. Just knw dat dats d same way ur wife feels wen next u feel like unleashin ur dog-like libido on oda women, all in d name of bein African. & who is d 'African king' dat allowed polygamy but frowns @ polyandry? Who is 'Africa', is it not u & me? Go and interview African women from all tribes, none will tell u dey luv sharing dere man wit oda women cos dey want 'sisterly love', unless dere nt okay. Same way u don't like to share ur woman, it applies to women too. So don't giv me dat African bullcrap. If ur religion permits it, fine go ahead (as an individual) but don't tell me Africa accepts polygamy so we shuld embrace oda women & share our husbands wit dem in d name of 'sisterly love', dats d shallowest thin av ever heard 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by churific(m): 2:16am On Jan 04, 2014 |
Too much African misogynistic mentality on this thread! The post made no mention that the "woman" was at fault with the disagreements. The man is just being childish. I see African men do this too often and it's quite foolish. Evolve and learn to communicate. Even if she's at fault and requires "correction" silence is obviously not the solution. I hear people screaming for her to "change what she's doing" or "stop whatever she's doing to piss him off." How about he stops being extremely childish and honor his marriage vows. Happy New Year! 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Gudiza(m): 2:23am On Jan 04, 2014 |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 3:12am On Jan 04, 2014 |
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Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by IfyChuky(m): 3:21am On Jan 04, 2014 |
Baby mama: "To hav had a 2nd wife shows how much he does lurv yu" .... Dat was simply Ironical, hope u read inbtw doz lines. 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by GoodSamaritan: 3:26am On Jan 04, 2014 |
Young lady: 1). If you didn't know that your husband is tribalistic before you married him, IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT. 2). If you knew he is tribalistic before you married him, IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT TOO. Therefore, if he now wants you to be tribalistic, you must obey him totally. You're sinning against God if you do otherwise. The Bible commands: "Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves 100%) unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord" (Ephesians 5:22 Amplified version, Emphasis mine). My bitter advice is that you obey your husband 100% by being tribalistic. That's the only way you can have a peaceful home. However, you may do otherwise if you like to be a divorcee soon. THE TRUTH IS ALWAYS BITTER |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by michyjesus(f): 3:31am On Jan 04, 2014 |
[quote author=Bantino]If you offend him, ensure that you appologise accordingly. If the cause of your misunderstanding is not your fault, ignore him for a while, ensure you prepare his food even when he refuses to eat. If you guys don't have kids yet, wear some skimpy cloths at home, and try so many ways of seducing him without talking to him. Walk out of the bathroom unclad most times, he may behave as if he's not noticing your moves, just continue. To break him, at night, just pretend to feel cold and tell him to hold you, beleive me, he will gladly hold you and from there one thing leads to another. When you guys are done making love then you can have a 'brief discussion' with him concerning his attitude, Bleep him after the discussion then sleep off. If you get it right, he will change with time and learn how to talk issues over.[/quote] |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by luquency(m): 3:34am On Jan 04, 2014 |
shoerack6: I dont believe this to be true. He can't be serious about you not speaking your dialect or may be not on phone. May be whenever you're on phone always try as much as possible not to speak the language he doesn't understand. He may be a jealous type and suspecting you to be having an affair. If that is the case, please change your ways (on phone of course) i.e the way you speak, at least speak pidgin english, I don't think there is anyone that owns a phone who cannot understand pidgin. this your "hun, ehn ehn" response is suspicious. moreover this is one side of the story.....if only we can hear from him |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by dinggle: 3:44am On Jan 04, 2014 |
I would have used it on my wife but silence is her best friend. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by akposking(m): 4:00am On Jan 04, 2014 |
shoerack6: Hello house,Heya harmatan fever is what is causing ur hubby to behave that way with time he would recover. See Gobe. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by kalufelix(m): 4:30am On Jan 04, 2014 |
J.Kramer:tingongo! tingongo! a kwa m kwuru ya ekwu... |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by tintingz(m): 4:34am On Jan 04, 2014 |
Baby mama:The adopted son's wife was a divorcee and later married Mohammed(sa) And where did he made a woman a widow? Maybe you educate yourself why Mohammed(sa) married many wives www.onislam.net/english/ask-about-islam/ethics-and-values/muslim-character/166258-why-did-the-prophet-have-so-many-wives.html www.forpeoplewhothink.org/Answers/Concubines.html A polygamous home doesn't start from the time of Mohammed(sa) this is a practice done by the prophets, God chosen men in the bible. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by soledadd: 4:38am On Jan 04, 2014 |
Because you always beg thats why its been like that. Try not to provoke him. But when gets angry dont even beg him. Ignore him and move on. Just do as if he does not exist. Then when he is ready to talk do as if nothing happened. If you think your happiness depends on your husband that means you have to be sad alwsys. Try to see every reason to be happy. Good a thing you have children. Dont stop preparing his food, just take that as sacrifice. Learn to overlook somethings he does and and says. You cannot achieve anything by worrying yourself. Men have thick skin if you are the one angry it may not even disturb him one bit. So take decision to live happily. The unmarried and widows still see reason to be happy and live long how much more you. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Case33(m): 5:05am On Jan 04, 2014 |
Let me ask u, when he's angry, what does he like to do? Sit in front of d TV all day? Or sit on his laptop n browse/chat with online friends? Or grabs his car keys n drive out n come back very late? Do u ve kids? My dear, one thing I can tell u is dt ur hubby doesn't love u, he tolerates u! U can't just flip on someone u claim u love, where is patience? Love? Understanding? Perseverance? Back ur marriage up with serious prayers! Again, is it long u guys got married? If not, u ve to patiently n prayerfully follow him, instead of begging him, ignore him, u give him too much attention with d begging n he's taking advantage of that! Pls n pls do not tell to ur friends what u r seeing, they may discourage u meanwhile some of them r enduring worse in their marriages! Know dt ur destiny n ur husband's is beginning to mix together n water n oil don't mix well without heat! A word is enough for d wise! |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Case33(m): 5:11am On Jan 04, 2014 |
Great a thing u ve kids, focus on them, let ur kids be ur happiness! Determine to be happy with urself, channel ur energy towards ur kids! U r darn lucky u r a mother, if u didn't ve kids, u wld ve known d true meaning of sadness which will translate to bitterness n resentness towards ur hub. Let d God of peace give u peace n wisdom in ur home |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by tintingz(m): 5:20am On Jan 04, 2014 |
[CHocolaTE:Yeah many women don't like polygamy in terms of sharing their husband with other women, but alas woman are now embracing polygamy as it is the solution to some women in our society eg the widows, divorcee, singles. There are many happy polygamous home as you think there is not, I'm brought up from a happy polygamous home , Many polygamous home are better than that of monogamy home take a look at Isaac in the bible with his only one wife what happened at the end? A monogamous home doesn't guarantee a happy home, there are worst monogamous home. You don't know your religion ba? Yes it's an hadith, biko let me quote it;Mohammed(sa) as been receiving revelation before he married Ashia(ra), this Hadith only show the unique honor given to Ashia(ra) for her purity and noble character |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by tete7000(m): 5:22am On Jan 04, 2014 |
That's how his father probably treated his mother. It is what you called "Social Conditioning" in psychology. We learnt a lot from our environment and it is often difficult to change once we grow up. Many people often argue that anyone can change but I disagree for ability to listen to others and change itself is learnt. This is reason why it is often important to know about an intending spouse before marriage as expecting one's spouse to change might be an exercise in futility once marriage is consumated. So how do I suggest you handle your frustration with your spouse? Take him for what he is, start seeing him as one raised to react the way he is behaving. Rather than focusing on his shortcoming, think about how you can react without causing damage to your marriage while at the same time guaranteeing your happiness. Remember whatever you do must take into cognisance the future happiness of your kids. Try as much as you can to ensure you do nothing that negatively hamper their understanding of what relationship between husband and wife should be like. If I can't get a good deal out of my marriage, at least I can make my children learn from my predicament should be in your thought always. The cross is yours, carry it well with dignity and calmness with lots of prayer. Finally you are in a polygamy and have to realise that that itself has put limitations on choices you have. A polygamy is not an ideal situation and a man who has many to pick from might not have patience, tenacity and time to listen to you and solve problems. I guess he must also have come from a polygamous background. If so, you are the one who made a wrong husband choice and must deal with the situation with remorse and calmness it deserve. May God help you. AMEN 1 Like |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 5:27am On Jan 04, 2014 |
omiobo: Ta gbafuo gi! |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by tintingz(m): 5:28am On Jan 04, 2014 |
RoyPCain: ^ so you ladies have not seen co wives who are like sisters? and their children are like children of each co wife?Thank you, I'm a very witness to this bold, my mum and the second wife are like sisters infact my mum was the one that took care of the two sons of my step mum. We are very close like brother from same mother. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by elebua: 5:33am On Jan 04, 2014 |
Chillisauce:You are funny my friend. I can assure you that sbe won,t be confortable eating, drinking and watching her favourite programme under this condition, with the man watching quitely and angrily. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 5:34am On Jan 04, 2014 |
Make him need what you only have and if you don't have something unique that he needs try and develop your life to be one. Increase your value to him, pearl are of most precious to people. And a virtuous woman who can find ? |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by tintingz(m): 5:36am On Jan 04, 2014 |
Sunshine lady: . Dis tintin abi na wetin, leave baby mama alone na, must u comment on all her responses?? Damn !! Are u like 2yrs or somfinAnd why did you quote me?? Who dash you sunshine lady? |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by thonyokun(m): 5:36am On Jan 04, 2014 |
My advice, display madness in his presence one day by shouting on anybody that call ur phone trying to speak ur language "don't destroy my marriage, my husband said nobody shld speak dat language to me again stop calling me" then bang the phone on that person. But make sure u do it in his presence n smile at him after the call n say dear I love u. Let's see his reaction |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by tintingz(m): 5:42am On Jan 04, 2014 |
arewa queen:Preach on sister Abeg help me tell them(wannabes) that a monogamous home is not a guarantee of a happy home. |
Re: Hubby Won't Talk To Me. by Nobody: 5:43am On Jan 04, 2014 |
elebua: It's all about solving a problem. Uncomfortable, yes but not so long |
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