I read a thread about a lady that emotionally cheated on her husband via social media = 'Rekindling an old flame' but chose to keep it from her husband.

Anyway long story short hence my question ; would you confess infidelity to your spouse and 'face the music' OR rather 'take it to your grave' ?

Thank you as you give sincere answers.

if there s no consequence e.g std,preggy etc.one should take it to d grave

Thanks for your honesty Bluu & YPP

Zip my mouth forever

It would always be used as a reference
So Take it to the Grave

I will not take it to the grave,I would confess in old age,like when i am in my nineties so that my mind will be free .

if ever... Lips better off sealed!

benedicta0: I will not take it to the grave,I would confess in old age,like when i am in my nineties so that my mind will be free .

i can also adopt this method

Will confess

I will always be jumpy around hubby and will one day use my mouth to confess

Confess ke? ,why ll you want to dump your emotional baggage on someone else?the guilt you feel is your punishment.

bukatyne: Will confess
I will always be jumpy around hubby and will one day use my mouth to confess

Sounds like what I'll do.

Byvan you're right, the guilt is enough to eat one alive. Reason why I choose to dump it on everybody ( including my parents & brothers to help me beg) instead.

My opinion.

Judging from my kind of person, I will rather say and free my conscience except if hubby is the type that can't handle such. Even @ that I will say when the situation permits face the condequences of my actions.

For me to make up my mind to yansh outside, I'm ready to deal with the guilt!
So, hell no, he ain't knowing nada

alutacontinua: For me to make up my mind to yansh outside, I'm ready to deal with the guilt!
So, hell no, he ain't knowing nada

Exactly!

Listen folks, d way guys will eat and zip mouth is how I will do my own and zip,zap and superglue my mouth.
Wetin be consience for this matter?
Its common sense that u will use abegi!

Some of all these our lovey dovey wonderful hubbies will turn to a monster if they hear such thing. Remember, its easier for a wifey to forgive than hubby.
Infact u might never recognise ur hubby again and d simple truth is that u r bound to lose more than d guy if things go awry.

For the one that said u will confess during old age, abeg to who? Ur children or grandchildren? Or the old man counting his days on earth and u wanna hasten it up for him?
O dikwa risky.

Confess to God and carry ur cross alone. Afterall na who send u go before.
Ezigbo wifey.

YPP don kolo

Not trying to be naive or judgemental YPP , Just an innocuous discussion & to learn from each other.

I totally agree with YPP and alutacontinua .

I wish we can have a poll for this?

jeffizy:



I want to believe these popular quotes are applicable to this scenario.
The ripple effect of a confession might be to heavy to handle.

It actually depends on your spouse and the kind of relationship you have. Well, some may decide to open up to avoid a reocurrence.

Actually, I prefer not to know when the deed has been done, but if I smell a rat, you better confess. Lying to me will scatter the whole thing. That will hurt me more than you cheating on me.

You never can be sure of how your husband will react until this scenario plays out! Even the most caring, lovey dovey husband may not show understanding. Men hate sharing women, especially in this part of the world. Confessing to infidelity, followed by total forgiveness may not be very common around here.

Jgal, I no kolo o!
U know I'm a realist.

If u take a poll, u will be so shocked that majority of d guys will reply like Jefizy.

He is d only man that said something and he talks for majority of them guys.
Like he said, let what happened in vegas stay there.

Even a notorious adulterous man will still wanna believe that his wife is his alone. Its a fair world here u know.

Even a notorious adulterous man will still wanna believe that his wife is his alone. Its a fair world here u know.

I hear you.

Well surely not confess it to the oldman, but I might confess it to my child or maybe a priest, but taking it to the beyond is scaring.

Just an idle discussion though

ypepe: Jgal, I no kolo o!
U know I'm a realist.

If u take a poll, u will be so shocked that majority of d guys will reply like Jefizy.

He is d only man that said something and he talks for majority of them guys.
Like he said, let what happened in vegas stay there.

Even a notorious adulterous man will still wanna believe that his wife is his alone. Its a fair world here u know.

This is not an argument, it's just a simple question. Answer and let others give theirs too. It's that simple! Your first response sounded like an attack to those of contrary view.

Good morning.

candy: You never can be sure of how your husband will react until this scenario plays out! Even the most caring, lovey dovey husband may not show understanding. Men hate sharing women, especially in this part of the world. Confessing to infidelity, followed by total forgiveness may not be very common around here.

You are right. It's really a big risk...but one I would be willing to take if necessary.

Whalai this question jgal na die ooo. I know my hubby,he did rather hear it from you than finding out on his own,worse if someone tells him of a occurrence which his wifey should have told him.
In this case I will tell him o,but not to his face. I can put in writing. He would forgive me easily than when he finds out himself. His person is that calm,the earlier I tell him the better for me,besides I can't keep so much guilt and still leave under the same roof/sleep on same bed/ have sEx and eat from same plate. I would never feel comfortable in his presence and he will sure make me talk with his piercing eyes.


This life is very funny you know,there are things we do that you think nobody knows or sees you,don't be surprised if some one comes later to use it against you or blackmail you,how do you now present it to your hubby who had so much trust in you

No one is above temptation but may God give us all the grace to overcome such temptation,temptations that are stronger than us will never come our ways IJN Amen.

It is well.

My secret is safe with me. MEN!! Mba oh!

byvan: Confess ke? ,why ll you want to dump your emotional baggage on someone else?the guilt you feel is your punishment.

I am not strong enough to bear that punishment.

I have a hyper active conscience that's why I really think things through before doing them else I Have to look for people offended to apologize to them

I will do confession to a priest and never do it again

lady gogo: My secret is safe with me. MEN!! Mba oh!

damiso: I will do confession to a priest and never do it again

In other words NO


Tayour, I hear you my sister, oro pesi je.