jplay: sharap dia n stop tryin 2 hrd. 2 mny ugly gurlz on dis site dey luk 4 validation includin op wit ha rubbish post

jplay: sharap dia n stop tryin 2 hrd. 2 mny ugly gurlz on dis site dey luk 4 validation includin op wit ha rubbish post

Hello sir, someone snatched your lollipop or what?

jplay: sharap dia n stop tryin 2 hrd. 2 mny ugly gurlz on dis site dey luk 4 validation includin op wit ha rubbish post

uj_sizzle:
That's why i spoke about mindset. There are people who believe their happiness to tied to another person(men and women alike). It doesn't have to be ok, but it is what it is.

Caracta:

In English please!

@topic, I'll just say nobody is anybody's responsibility (for unmarried folks). Do not depend on anyone to meet your needs or make you happy. At age 18, you are responsible for yourself and the decision you make.

NO MAN IS UNDER OBLIGATION TO PROVIDE NEEDS FOR A WOMAN. The same goes for the woman too. (For unmarried folks). But if you wanna help someone out, please do. There's a great blessing in it. Don't do it and whine later. Immaturity is when you give a girl money complain later.

Mynd_44:
One of the "female activists" on NL once asked me "don't you guys talk to one another?" and I said that this I am not responsible for what every guy do but it rubs off on me and when I can I tell em the truth. It is funny that this is how "Women talk to one another".

It is not what it is, what's wrong is effing wrong and can't be right. You can try to understand their mentality but it should be with a view to change it not to make em believe they are right.

Sonic of "sonics underground" said "You're part of the problem if you are not helping solve em"

Seychelle: Thumbz up@poster,u re on point, jxt lyk my saying goes"a man can only b succesful wen he makes more money dan a woman can spend"
money z gud en sweet
#jxt passing shaaa....#

Jbluv55:
@bolded No ma. Immaturity is leading a guy on, collecting from him so much and telling him sorry it can't work out later. Maturity would mean suggesting to return what was collected(restitution) and the guy saying "don't worry, keep them"

uj_sizzle:
I don't want to believe you really lack understanding of my post, and you fail to see the message in it.
But in case you don't, i believe identifying a problem and understanding it are the first steps to solving it. This is the identification point, pls try to understand first before saying i am excusing their actions.

Until you can successfully do that, please chase after your money and let the women chase after you, and stop complaining

Mynd_44: While I agree that what the OP is right and the mentality is that they are chasing, that same mentality has been known to be a colossal failure and has made Nigerian women to be seen as money hungry skanks. Look if you want to chase money why not do it the right way?

Go get a job, get a life and also get a new name while at it. Get money on your terms, get a job to do ask your FATHER for money and stop being a freaking parasite who depends on others for money and livelihood. The same way a man works for money, a woman can also work for it and guess what, she can then be happy.

If you date people or have sex with people for money, you are a what? A LOVE PEDDLER. You might as well get a room in a brothel and wait for customers or share your numbers in hotels around you. At least we know you take it as a job and not hide behind the lie that you want to be comfortable

uj_sizzle:
1. Oh but people are what they are because experience and environment have made them so.

We cannot totally eliminate that factor, can we?
2. We might decide to make a conscious effort to change ourselves and how to eventually turn out in life, but there are those who can't/won't or want to but don't know how to.

3. How do you teach a person to be self dependent when all their life they are made to believe a woman should depend on a man?
You can't change what yoi don't understand. You can't help who you cannot relate to.


Now the use of 'gold digging' was merely to bring the subject home for lack of a better choice of word

uj_sizzle: Mynd, Sony is wise. Men don't help solve the issue of materiality in women. No, they tell themselves to make more money so the women follow them, then they come here to complain.

That's what this thread is about.

I was having a discussion with a friend some months back, and she said she couldn't marry an Igbo man who grew up in Anambra(sorry my brothers)

Mynd_44:

Women are their own enemies and they keep falling victim to men who don't care about them but take advantage of their stupîdity

Caracta:

Oh please! What are you saying? So if one is dying, the other must keep flogging? I've heard some really different cases and I no longer generalize or jump into hasty conclusions.

Besides, it's not always stupidity. Vulnerability is another strong factor. So take it easy.

Jbluv55: Speechless!

*patiently waiting for the counter - thread "Nigerian Men Aren't Necessarily After S*E*X But Chasing After Their Happiness"

Caracta: Intent matters sha. Some girls are not empowered enough...and our men are quick to take advantage of that.

It's a two-way thing.

Mynd_44:
Vulnerable.....that's a good one. Have you ever been in a situation where you are broke and you find another person's money? Now you are broke and understandably, you are tempted but taking it will be wrong right no matter how vulnerable you are right?

So are you telling me that it is every poor girl out there that have this mentality of collecting and being a skank? Is it every woman whose parents put pressure to marry a rich man bow to pressure? What's wrong with the rest?

They are weak and greed have taken the better of their lives which is what? Stupîdity and lack of self pride. They are a disgrace to the woman folk and a disgrace to humanity.

It is what it is

Jbluv55:
I concur. No two humans are equal. There has to always be a quality of one human that makes them attractive (including cash).

But somethings last longer than others ........ so you may make yourself as butiful as a peacock just so you cud chase after some man's money. If/when the beauty fades, he may chase after another

Its still a two way thing thoh

Psychedelia:
For real sha
I hope no-one accuses me of this one too. I love "happiness"

Liking "ukwu" is not an njo.