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| Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by Bibi(m): 5:56pm On Sep 10, 2005 |
Most families wants to foster closeness with every member. Is it right for mama and papa to be calling each other by their first names in front of their kids and outsiders? Is it right for kids to be calling their parents by their first names? |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by queen2(f): 7:17pm On Sep 10, 2005 |
There's no big deal in husband and wife or mama n papa, in calling each other by their first names, especially in this developed world, these days lots n lots of husbands n wives call each other by their first names, so theres nothing in calling ur husband or wife by their first name But as for children calling their parents by their first names, me think its very wrong especially to africans. But as for others, i think its their culture n so they have to.  |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by Princess(f): 9:02pm On Sep 10, 2005 |
good point our majesty the one and only Queen.  |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by hotangel2(f): 8:41am On Sep 11, 2005 |
ha! mama and papa calling each other first name is not romantic. Add a little sugar to your abunnan (stuff). Kids calling their parents by name is acceptable but not in the african culture... well hausa culture allows it. I think it's okay. Who cares anyways, it's your name... soo who cares. But ermmm... it's polite to call your mom/dad as mom/dad... not as "Luke" or "mary".  Mom or dad is more loving.. "luke" or "mary" is more like.. "You this woman/man". |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by layi(m): 2:26pm On Sep 11, 2005 |
I had an aunty who calls her husband "Love". Last christmas 'they' came to my Dad's house (annual reunion) for celeberation. At a point, d woman called me and: Aunt: Layi, Se o busy? Me: rara ma Aunt: Ok, Jo bami lo so fun 'Love' pe mo wa nibi Layi: Mi o ni girlfriend ma. Aunt. En en. Mo tigbo. Ok Bami pe Love Me: Mi o ni se Aunt: Love ti e ko. Love temi ni mo n so.. Me: Oh! Sorry ma I think its nice havin pet names but to avoid the scenario above,let's do with a real name. Methinks callin my wife by her first name is lovely and romantic. Why would i call my wife "Mama kelly"- She's my wife first of all b4 beign a mother. Why would i call my wife "Sweet sugar"- Lets get real, abeg. I'ld prefer to call her Latoya,Demi,Princess,Wesley, vexxy or Lizzy. Beautiful names As for the kids. I'll strike a deal. Anytime u call me or my wife another name other than Daddy or Mummy- Just make sure you're with a cane. 1 Like |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by queen2(f): 4:57pm On Sep 11, 2005 |
Princess:hmm thanx, our princess |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by cushman(m): 6:04pm On Sep 11, 2005 |
hot-angel: |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by vexxy(f): 11:39pm On Sep 11, 2005 |
I have a pet name for my mom; I call her Skipper. I call my father "pops." I can't even fathom the thought of calling them by their first names. It just seems, odd. |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by WesleyanA(f): 1:00am On Sep 12, 2005 |
i don't call my parents by their first names. that's just weird. "hey luke and mary " hey child"  |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by hotangel2(f): 3:43am On Sep 12, 2005 |
Cushman yeah they do. Alot... especially their mother. The just shout "hadiza"... "Aisha".. And whatnot. Infact i called soo many "hausa moms/women" by their name. The kids sometimes say "mama"... but the name calling is more abunan. |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by WesleyanA(f): 3:44am On Sep 12, 2005 |
that's weird. |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by hotangel2(f): 3:51am On Sep 12, 2005 |
You mean people calling their parents by name is weird?  it's culture to some people. But i dont buy it. |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by IAH(f): 7:44pm On Sep 12, 2005 |
I'll go with first names. Calling your spouse "Mama Bomboy" is screwed up like Layi said and I think calling him/her "Sweetie, Honey, Butter" is too FAKE. I just laugh at some yeye couples that call each other "Sugar, Salt, etc" My kids can't be dumb so they won't pick up what I call my hubby. |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by fabian(f): 8:46am On Sep 13, 2005 |
I really don't think calling your spouse Sweetie, Honey, or Sugar is fake, if it sounds Ok to you, then you can go with the flow, but I don't do itall de time! I rather call my husband by my adaptation of his firstname, and sometimes call him Sweetie! Calling your spouse Mama.............. or Papa(Baba)..................... is just wack (to me)! But no one will believe the no. of people who do just that in Nigeria! As for calling each other by first names, I see nothing wrong with it, but I believe that for the sake of promoting Intimacy, Couples should try to do better. And for Kids calling parents by their first names, sounds kind of weird doesn't it? |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by angelak(f): 2:16pm On Sep 15, 2005 |
layi: Please translate to English  |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by layi(m): 2:24pm On Sep 15, 2005 |
@angela K Aunt: Layi, hope you aint busy? Me: No ma Aunt: Ok, plz tell Love that i am here Layi: I've got no girlfriend ma. Aunt. En en. I've heard. Ok Call me Love Me: I'm serious. I've got none Aunt: Not your own Love. I'm talking about my own Love.. Me: Oh! Sorry ma Its not that funny though but shows how ridiculous some pet names could be. |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by Motee(f): 2:54pm On Sep 21, 2005 |
@ Layi - hey! very funny. I see nothing wrong in Parents calling each other names in front of the Children or an outsider. Infact, for someone like me hearing them, it will give me more joy that my parents love each other anytime I hear them call. As for me I will prefer calling one another pet name or by our first names but the children have to stick to Daddy and Mummy. |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by adesodgi(m): 3:08pm On Nov 10, 2005 |
is there any crime in that?i call my dad by his first name,so i call miya mum also..its cool,its just gonna let u pour out ur mind wen ur disturbed...they are more like miya friends than miya parents.. |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by alheri(f): 10:30am On Nov 11, 2005 |
@adesodgi. Na u sabi. my son and daughter call me "AYE". Now, let me explain. People call me alhe sometimes,short form for alheri-yes-. so my kids(4 and 1) took out the lh and replaced it with y and BANG aye! isnt dat so original? i just love it and will insist dey call me dat even wen they're all grown up! so there!!! |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by Aderonke(f): 2:39pm On Nov 17, 2005 |
I think couple giving themselves nicknames is cool. But way they call each other that matters. Some call it so natural that u'll think its d original name (u know wat i'm saying) I take a look at my sister and her hubby, during their courtship, they call themselves "mine" till now, they still call each other mine even after two kids. When ask d fisrt child the name of her father, she ll reply u with "mine now!" They way they both call out each is so natural even if r there u'll fall in love for such. To me, it's better to call my husband by either he's real name or i give him a nickname not neccessarily "sweeatiepie, honey, sugar" as commonly use by everybody  |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by christyne(f): 2:32pm On Dec 14, 2005 |
There's nothing bad in calling ur partner honey,sweetiepie,sugar and d rest but i'd rather call him by his initials like my neighbours will call themselves.I really love it wen they r calling each other. |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by Aderonke(f): 3:03pm On Dec 14, 2005 |
dats cool, faking is wat i hate most, it always sound dry and boring |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by mide2(f): 6:27pm On Apr 13, 2006 |
My folks have been married for 26 yrs, and they've always and still call themselves Darling. It's become so normal to me and my bruvs, that it doesn't ring any strange bell, it's when visitors(new ones esp) come around and they are like hmmm, that i notice it. My dad is even more used to IYAWO MI, he calls mom that anywhere, anytime. Hearing and not seeing them, you'll think they are newly wedded. |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by Consultant(f): 3:01pm On Apr 14, 2006 |
I'll go with first names. Calling your spouse "Mama Bomboy" is screwed up like Layi said and I think calling him/her "Sweetie, Honey, Butter" is too FAKE. My husband calls me "Ife mi" (my love) and i love it, love it, love it! |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by Nobody: 6:17pm On Apr 14, 2006 |
my husband and i call each other by our first names and by the pet names we gave to each other depending on our whims i think that's super cool i cant imagine calling him baba whateva that's just wack |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by Memunah(f): 10:56am On Nov 02, 2006 |
The issue of either parent calling theirselves by first names or pet names is no big deal it only shows there is love in the marriage and dats important cos love conquers all.But for the kids to call their parents by their first names is not a good idea. |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by fodio03(m): 3:40pm On Nov 02, 2006 |
Hi thanks for posting this but really I would like you to give me a lowdown of what is really happening presently at Yabatech. Thanks. |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by omogenaija(f): 2:30am On Jul 02, 2007 |
my child will know my first name as mom , mother , mommy etc. he/she shouldnt dare say my name in my face  but my hubby can call me wateva he likes in front of anyone |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by diyobdw(f): 5:31pm On Jul 02, 2007 |
I am not down with kids calling thier parent by thier names may be pet namesLike i know that a guy that call his dad "Mr tee" cos the mum cos him T But couples can use thier first name especially if that how they started out. It helps keeps that first relationship bond alive! No matter the change (kids, lose of hair, wrinkles, etc)  |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by neferaton(f): 8:28pm On Aug 11, 2007 |
There's nothin wrong with parents calling each other by first or pet names. You might this is weird but in my family,we all call each other nicknames to our faces. For example, i call my father Prince Charming or Teddy bear,and he calls me Little cos i'm short and the youngest in the family. I don't support the first name basis thing btwn parents and kids but sometimes a persons nickname could say it all. When I call my dad teddy bear,he already knows i need a hug from him or smn. Mind you,he was brought up in Nigeria,same with my mum who I call Pretty girl. I'm sure it's not too hard to guess which route my kids'll be taking, |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by bolton4eva: 3:55am On Oct 27, 2007 |
This topic is timeless and important.Partners should call eachother"mum/daddy"when there is love in the air.But when anyone misbehaves,go back to that name you introduced yourselves with. As for your kids,even oyibo`s most time refuse their kids calling them by their names let alone Black cultural respect.Its an abomination.Period.* |
| Re: Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family? by bolton4eva: 4:10am On Oct 27, 2007 |
[colornefer-=#990000][/color]  @nefer-aton, Am certainly sure what your kids will call you.Since you said you are small,I will suggest,small cat,pinchomic,short mama,etc. .am kidding sha!let them do to you whatever you did to daddy and he liked.Meanwhile,have the kids arrived yet?enjoy life at its fullest. |
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