Lordabas:

heard its because men say they love someone but still feel the urge to shåg another woman

Those kind of men are simply players. But there needs to be a referee to control the 'player instinct'.

Sweetlemon:
3. A Man Will Marry You If You Refuse Sex Till Marriage:

Like seriously! Na only you waka come? Na only you get toto? Puleeeze! A man doesn't marry just because he wants sex! He can get sex anywhere. You hear me so? Anywhere! It doesn't have to be from you! Let's even look at it this way, fine you hold out till marriage, after finally getting it after marriage what next? Is it your toto that will sustain the marriage? You must be a learner! I know some unhappily married women who married as virgins. I know some bad girls who married men most virgins dream of.
Like I said earlier, A man that wants to marry you will marry you.

True! True!

banega: Oh, okay •

CFCfan:
Those kind of men are simply players. But there needs to be a referee to control the 'player instinct'.

Yeah. CFCfan how nau?

Sweetlemon:

Yeah. CFCfan how nau?

Body dey kampe. I'm on vacation from work

I now know your age

Person no go hear word again!! See as guys de concur as if say dem go dash money

CFCfan:
Body dey kampe. I'm on vacation from work

I now know your age

Lol. I will be 30 later this year. Wetin you wan take am do?

Sweetlemon:

Lol. I will be 30 later this year. Wetin you wan take am do?

Nothing. I just knew that I'm younger

CFCfan:
Nothing. I just knew that I'm younger

Lol.

Sweetlemon:

Lol.

I like cougars

Like seriously the Op captured the interest of most men here in her write up but most of the claims are subjective.
There are no basis to categorically rule out the fact that some men,
1)Are only married to those whom they have passionate love to. Not all men are married to any lady cos of family or societal pressures. Again for those who married not necessarily for love there are chances that they'll come to love their wives(each other) after marriage(sometimes this is generally dependent on the character of the woman and man). This is possible cos marriage brings you both more closer and you come to share so many intimacy(this with the exclusion of sex includes knowing the secret person of the heart, and being endeared by these as they come to the fore)

2)I know that our generation mostly have a uniform way of thinking and responding to issues like this and as such might easily give up or dislike a hard to get lady. But the good news is that there are some crop of men out there that appreciates a lady and even love them the more after they had gone out of their way to get them. For them it's an aphrodisiac of a sort while to others it is a sign of good parenting(it is debatable though). Yes some guys like that exist!

3) The rule in two above generally applies to the third submission by the Op

4) This is usually seen among devout Christians and real gentlemen or I'd rather say men with an unbending policy. They may be in love with a certain sister/lady but out of respect for God/for the lady to whom they're in love with and or for their humble self have refused to lay down with them until their wedding night. It's not because our society have turned good to look like evil and vice versa that will make one make such submission without giving recurs to the good guys out there.

5) Need I say more on this. There are different characters of men Op. I might agree that they may be in the lesser number but they prefer good low key girls to the perceived wild or outgoing ones. Its a different stoke for different peeps.


Interesting read I must admit though.

X

CFCfan:
I like cougars

Pele.

KingTom:
True! True!

I am telling you

Sweetlemon:

Pele.

Wetin happen?

IrishKez: Like seriously the Op captured the interest of most men here in her write up but most of the claims are subjective.
There are no basis to categorically rule out the fact that some men,
1)Are only married to those whom they have passionate love to. Not all men are married to any lady cos of family or societal pressures. Again for those who married not necessarily for love there are chances that they'll come to love their wives(each other) after marriage(sometimes this is generally dependent on the character of the woman and man). This is possible cos marriage brings you both more closer and you come to share so many intimacy(this with the exclusion of sex includes knowing the secret person of the heart, and being endeared by these as they come to the fore)

2)I know that our generation mostly have a uniform way of thinking and responding to issues like this and as such might easily give up or dislike a hard to get lady. But the good news is that there are some crop of men out there that appreciates a lady and even love them the more after they had gone out of their way to get them. For them it's an aphrodisiac of a sort while to others it is a sign of good parenting(it is debatable though). Yes some guys like that exist!

3) The rule in two above generally applies to the third submission by the Op

4) This is usually seen among devout Christians and real gentlemen or I'd rather say men with an unbending policy. They may be in love with a certain sister/lady but out of respect for God/for the lady to whom they're in love with and or for their humble self have refused to lay down with them until their wedding night. It's not because our society have turned good to look like evil and vice versa that will make one make such submission without giving recurs to the good guys out there.

5) Need I say more on this. There are different characters of men Op. I might agree that they may be in the lesser number but they prefer good low key girls to the perceived wild or outgoing ones. Its a different stoke for different peeps.


Interesting read I must admit though.

You misunderstood me.

CFCfan:
Wetin happen?

I don't do cubs and I'm taken.

Sweetlemon:

You misunderstood me.

Maybe or maybe not

All am saying is that those things your mum told you that you felt are out of date or not entirely to be taken at face value now worked for them then during their time and still are remotely applicable even now. The only thing that changed is the thinking and the reasoning ability of people in our time which are largely influenced by modernization, advent of technology, education etc

Sweetlemon:

I don't do cubs and I'm taken.

Noted. But do you do puppies and kittens?

CFCfan:
Noted. But do you do puppies and kittens?

IrishKez:
Maybe or maybe not

All am saying is that those things your mum told you that you felt are out of date or not entirely to be taken at face value now worked for them then during their time and still are remotely applicable even now. The only thing that changed is the thinking and the reasoning ability of people in our time which are largely influenced by modernization, advent of technology, education etc

The summary of my sermon is this; whether you be Holy Mary, whether you be Mother Theresa, whether you be Kate Middleton, whether you be Patience Jonathan, whether you be Marilyn Monroe, the man that will love you will love you. The man that wants to marry you will marry you regardless.

miztola: Person no go hear word again!! See as guys de concur as if say dem go dash money

She speak our mind joor! Bitterlemon you don try ehn! I troway salute

Lolz for the guys

Heard ya sweetlemon babe
Peace

slap1: Whatever. I have choice... I'm not a dog.

Wu sd u r a dog

Sweetlemon:
Sex is not love, but love has a lot to do with sex. You can have sex with someone without loving that person, but you cannot love someone without wanting to have sex.

Billboards on the streets should have this boldly written on'em. Oh !! Wat a plain truth

Ok... We haf hear... Buh we can't all go around making decisions based on what guys want...

LaurelP: I don't believe that if a man doesn't make sexual advances at a lady, something is wrong with him

Mind you, not just any lady. I mean a lady he has interest in.

Sweetlemon:

Mind you, not just any lady. I mean a lady he has interest in.

He has to have an erec'tion

CFCfan:
He has to have an erec'tion

Something like that.

zeb04: Very intresting read altho I doubt the write up covers the whole thinking system of every guy.

It would be easier to believe these but I know you havnt dated round the world. Nice write up anyways and it cracked me up a litl.

Trust me sweetlemon just dished very classified notes up there. It pretty much covers the whole thinking system of every guy. Take it from me; This is as real as it gets. I was just nodding my head d entire time. Infact I doubt her gender status as she clearly knows d inner workings of a man's mind more than most men. But credits where its due; I think it comes down to her maturity and experience.

I'm seeing someone who means the world to me. But somehow this piece has summarily profiled her person. She's a conservative by every sense of that word. She's 25, a virgin (never dated onee my whole damn life), a christian to a fault (more like a church person cos she's in almost all units in church!), laid back, uninformed nd boring in terms of her romantic prowess each time we 'manage' to make out (mostly kissing nd smooching ). Its been her rules all the way this whole 14months. Considering my history, that's a huge compromise. Being a virgin, it automatically follows that there won't be any couchie for ds homie till you know when. She thinks she's got me figured nd all but has no idea where av been, the women av had in my life, the things I'm capable of. I mean at her rate, 5yrs from now assuming we get married like I intend to, there's a good chance one of us will be asleep while we're (eventually) having the 'almighty' sex. What's more? There's a good chance it will be in missionary position!

Nonetheless She's an insanely cute nice girl with a good heart nd I intend to follow thru with certain "well intentioned ideas" but all ds drama of reliving the life of Mother Theresa (who meanwhile died in 1630) for chastity sake is just stall nd unnecessary. What's yours will most definitely be yours.

That's all

@mr lenz I get you.although not so sure about the op's post but concering your gal,everyone was once a virgin even the most experience one were once virgins but they learnt and teaching is fun esp when it is out of love. Lol and how can you know what wil happen 5yrs time.



I have this nasty thought that in five years time,you would be the one suffering from exhaustion because of too much kpecus.