Well, I was conversing with some guys a few days ago and we failed to reach a conclusion as to whether guys are becoming randier or girls are becoming hotter (thus attracting the guys)

Well the premise to all these okpata wey we dey yarn. . .

I noticed that these days, girls of all sizes, shapes, colors, heights are turning out in fabulous jeans, lovely outfits - they show skin, their clothes cling tightly and inspire a lot of imagination. . . but on further inspection they may not have the looks, character or personality you desire. The thing that pisses me off is that guys just go about harassing the poor girls! At a bookstore, eatery, on the bus, in a bank, cybercafe etc. You name the place, there is some "questioning" going on. Cant they respect the principle of "LOOK but dont TOUCH; TOUCH but dont TASTE;TASTE but dont SWALLOW etc"?

The last I saw a few hours ago was at a cybercafe where I had to go n print a document urgently cus my service was messing up. There was this young student who came to scan a few images from a textbook and the operator/attendant was asking her so many questions which the girl pointedly refused to answer or as my Yoruba peeps would say, used her nose to answer.The guy no give up o. . . until the girl left after her job was done. I really cant blame the guy cus the girl was in low riders and a cute top(as they call it but to me its equivalent to an 18 year old wearing a 12 year olds top!) but NO is NO even if its not explicit.

The proliferation of tight jeans & small tops has made girls that u wouldnt look at twice on a good day look enchanting. Each time I go out my head keeps swaying from left to right

So who is at fault for all the harassing - the guys who have a problem with NO OR the girls who say come hither with their tantalizing clothes?

I believe, maybe cuz i dress like that, that a woman has the right to wear what she wants and still say no.

Now we know when we leave the house looking sexy, smelling nice that some guy is going to hit on us, but we have the right to accept that or say no.

Once we say no the guy should just let his little man know that it was a false alarm and walk away. Why press yourself on someone who does not want you.

Here in the states we just give them a blank number or the rejection hotline number.

http://www.rejectionhotline.com/rh-numbers.asp

I really dont have a problem with girls dressing up the way they feel. . . its just the guys pestering.it tends on embarassing!

Well, guys should control their little man. I agree with sistawoman here, girls no matter how they are dressed or lack there of, still have a right to say no. Walk by and pay no attention to the one pestering them.

'randier' sounds better than randy. with d way pple name their children randy up and down no wonder its reflecting i'm goin with 'randier' as a name anyday any time and uhm i'm Hot so call me

ladies how will u react if guys begin to go out in tight swimsuits everywhere, buses, shops , markets, cafes. honestly, cos thats a replica of what ladies do these days

and i'll add that we too have curves yeah we do and although ur eye is only going 2 be on one spot *which is not our behind* we cld influence ur sexual urge and make it sky rocket

I hate to anger all the ladies here but ladies LOVE the attention, okay I shouldn't generalize but most ladies love the attention. If you dress so good everyday and no one tries to hit on you, you start feeling ugly and it affects your self-esteem. So these guys are actually helping you.

Ladies only complain when it gets too much. But whats too much? When ten guys approach you in a day? When a guy stays for more than 3 minutes? Trust me most guys who do this do it because it works for them, if ladies have a big conference and agree to say no to every heckler, things would change. But how the mind of females work is a puzzle that can't be solved. On one hand women like expressive and confident guys, on the other hand they hate been approached by a stranger. They also love the attention while at the same time they hate been spoken to by guys they don't know. LADIES GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER!!!

Ladies have the right to wear what they please and we have the right to approach them and speak our minds when we see what we like.Simple

n-guage:

I hate to anger all the ladies here but ladies LOVE the attention, okay I shouldn't generalize but most ladies love the attention. If you dress so good everyday and no one tries to hit on you, you start feeling ugly and it affects your self-esteem. So these guys are actually helping you.

Ladies only complain when it gets too much. But whats too much? When ten guys approach you in a day? When a guy stays for more than 3 minutes? Trust me most guys who do this do it because it works for them, if ladies have a big conference and agree to say no to every heckler, things would change. But how the mind of females work is a puzzle that can't be solved. On one hand women like expressive and confident guys, on the other hand they hate been approached by a stranger. They also love the attention while at the same time they hate been spoken to by guys they don't know. LADIES GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER!!!

spoken like a true but honest gentleman

hiiiissssssssssssss

abegi make we hear word!! man blaming woman for all his misfortunes dates back to adam. tell us something new.

face the truth - guys these days are less inhibited and want to taste everything whether it is good for them or not. if every girl they approach says 'yes', these guys will continue to accost 200 per day.

stop passing the buck for your increasing randiness!!

The world is fast changing and the rise in immorality is record high
Ladies are seeking attention and the guys won't be outdone

Naturally, a man is randy and reacts to sight and imagination
The only difference is that some choose to allow self discipline manifest
while others let things or rather allow nature to run its course.

If you dress provocatively and at the end say you hate men approaching you,
whats the sense in it.

Its just like putting rat poison and complain that it caught lots of rat and as such not tenable

Its not a reason though for men to misbehave. But ladies, what you sow, you reap.

I think i am being mis-understood.

I am not saying dont approach me, cuz i love the attention.


What I am saying is when i turn you down, tell you I am happily married and not looking then keep it moving. Must you stand there and continue to harass me. You only embarrass yourself.

@ poster

I think guys are getting randier. But I don't think it's the clothes, after all there were ultra miniskirts in the 60s and 70s too. It's the porn it's everywhere and it's so easy to get and fewer things are taboo and so everyone wants to give stuff a go and be like an amateur porn star.

sistawoman:

I think i am being mis-understood.

I am not saying don't approach me, because i love the attention.


What I am saying is when i turn you down, tell you I am happily married and not looking then keep it moving. Must you stand there and continue to harass me. You only embarrass yourself.

Them they pest MARRIED for face?
And how am i supposed to know that your know is not an indication of 'try harder next time'?
If you want the attenction, then be ready to play with the advantages and disadvantages of attention.
But wait ooh, if i may ask, what if the attention stops coming, what impression does it create in you?

@Topic:
I think yes, I know i am getting more and more randy
I wasnt like this last yr when i was sticking to an invincible love thought that i never had, so it must have got worse since then.
I think its part of being social and mature, as long as u keep a tab on it.

whitelexi:

@Topic:
I think yes, I know i am getting more and more randy
I wasnt like this last yr when i was sticking to an invincible love thought that i never had, so it must have got worse since then.
I think its part of being social and mature, as long as u keep a tab on it.

@ whitelexi

LMAO! u're not serious!

Emperoh:

Them they pest MARRIED for face?
And how am i supposed to know that your know is not an indication of 'try harder next time'?
If you want the attenction, then be ready to play with the advantages and disadvantages of attention.
But wait ooh, if i may ask, what if the attention stops coming, what impression does it create in you?

Attention or no attention i will always believe that i am sexy and beautiful. My self-esteem and self worth are not tied to how many guys try and holla at a sista on a daily (althou i must say it is a pride/ego booster ). My hubby does his job correctly and reminds me all the time of how desired i am by him and really he is the only one i want lust/loving/longing for me.

It is not that i want the attention but that i love/like the attention. who doesnt like the validation that someone outside of their partner thinks they are attractive?

and yes men comment on my ring ask if i am married and still try to toast me. Oyinbos have the worst respect for marriage by far.

Tatase

Its not the porn. . . yes there were minis in the 60s n 70s but its more about the increased sexuality out there.

People want to market a car, they use a sexy woman. they want to sell Maggi/Food seasoning its one young sexy thing, financial products - na woman!

Ever seen the Indomie ad (billboard) with the young girl?she looks HOT showing her belly & she's way under age (no be me na according to the people wey complain for paper!)

So that also contributes. . .