laplace12:

You have comprehension problem. Check for the meaning of MODEL.

Adaeze003:

Ouch! I'm hurt...
But with all your comprehension skills, you couldn't figure that I didn't meant that literally.

2buff:

Agreed.

At this stage in their lives, he can only ASK her not to go to a party, not TELL her. It should be a discussion, not a no-logic "decree". She has her own life independent of his. Better a "Babes, I would prefer it if you didn't go" as opposed to "don't go or I will make you regret it". If the roles were switched and it was a girlfriend telling that to the guy, I'm sure the same punks talking here will be saying "how dare she".

A lot of small boys here are just gangster wannabees.

If any of my sister's boyfriends ever grows this kind of head, I would personally treat his fuckup myself. If he wants to be TELLING her what to do (no questions asked), then he needs to do the needful and wife her (if she agrees). Other than that, he is simply one of her many random male friends and that is all he will be in my eyes.

This is the same mental audacity that makes these stoopid boys start beating up on their girlfriends upon the slightest argument.
Until her elder brother comes to pay you a visit

tintingz: Marriage changes many things that's why it is called marriage, its meant for matured mind people.

Even in marriage a wife has the right to question her husband.

a boyfriend will just wake up and said "don't go there" to his girlfriend without no reason, the girl be i-robot?

freecocoa: So a friend of mine called me asking my opinion on this issue.

A very dear friend of hers is having a birthday bash, he invited and she'd really love to go because he's someone she holds dear plus she really wants to have some fun, now she told her friend she'd be there and on the D day gets set to go and told tells her boyfriend(she went to spend sometime with him), he said in quote "you are not going anywhere" and she thought it was a joke, asked why? he said "I don't want You to", she then said let's go together if you are worried about anything, he still refused saying he isn't worried.
She says she's going and he said "don't say I didn't warn you" , she's asking if its wrong to disobey him.

You can guess what I told her, now let's know what you think.

2buff:

Agreed.

At this stage in their lives, he can only ASK her not to go to a party, not TELL her. It should be a discussion, not a no-logic "decree". She has her own life independent of his. Better a "Babes, I would prefer it if you didn't go" as opposed to "don't go or I will make you regret it". If the roles were switched and it was a girlfriend telling that to the guy, I'm sure the same punks talking here will be saying "how dare she".

A lot of small boys here are just gangster wannabees.

If any of my sister's boyfriends ever grows this kind of head, I would personally treat his fuckup myself. If he wants to be TELLING her what to do (no questions asked), then he needs to do the needful and wife her (if she agrees). Other than that, he is simply one of her many random male friends and that is all he will be in my eyes.

This is the same mental audacity that makes these stoopid boys start beating up on their girlfriends upon the slightest argument.
Until her elder brother comes to pay you a visit

freecocoa: Why would it be better? Even husnand sef, the only reason I'll understand is if the partner has a reason to suspect her, still he should look for ways to catch her and take his decision instead of taking decisions for an adult because you feel its your right to.

poik:


Everything was going right till you said 'even husband sef'.
Forget westernization and civilization, your husband has ABSOLUTE sway over you. Your reasons not withstanding. Better obey and submit to him.

If she regarded the boyfriend, she ought to ask his permission, not informing him after she had already made up her mind. That's the cause of the altercation. But that's friendship anyway( which I don't subscribe to).
I still say she obeys the boyfriend. He may have reasons which may outweigh hers, which he may not necessarily want to divulge at dat time. It happens. Who says it must be all about insecurity?

cc150615:
Nd why won't he wanna divulge the reasons That's if he has any aside being insecure, Btw I pity for ur gf o!

cc150615:
Nd why won't he wanna divulge the reasons That's if he has any aside being insecure, Btw I pity for ur gf o!

poik:

I believe you read my post well. I believe it was just an oversight you did not see my views on bf/gf relationships.
If you are married, better submit to your husband FULLY. If you are not, be sure to when you do. You have everything to gain. I know what my God promised women who do, apart from the inherent emotional advantages.

cc150615:
submission doesn't equal to the husband becoming a dictator That's where most guys get it wrong, I'm submissive to my fiance sef but that doesn't mean he just lords over me,reasonable men know how to strike a balance

egopersonified:
If I were ur friend, I would rather dare and find out the real him now than find out after saying I DO.

Lovechyld101:

Lovechyld101:

Stubborn GOat*

laplace12:
A LOVE RELATIONSHIP is meant to be a MODEL MARRIAGE where each partner is expected to simulate the husband or wife role though they ain't married yet. If the lady feel she could take such orders when they get married she better start doing so now to a avoid sending the wrong message and probably ruin a beautiful relationship.

laplace12:
Its a free world, anybody can disobey anyone. You can disobey a military man if you so wish, but you gat to first understand and weigh the possible consequence and sincerely ask yourself if it is worth it.

freecocoa:
Why would it be better? Even husnand sef, the only reason I'll understand is if the partner has a reason to suspect her, still he should look for ways to catch her and take his decision instead of taking decisions for an adult because you feel its your right to.