What do you do when an in-law makes s*xual passes at you?

Some unfortunate daughters/sons in-law find themselves in the uncomfortable position of fending off amorous in-laws. They feel confused, trapped and uncertain, as to how to handle the situation.

Should they continue to ignore/avoid their in-law's advances, tell their spouses and risk an all-out family war or, keep quiet, in the hopes the offending in-law will eventually lose interest in them and move on?

What if no one, including their spouses, believe them?

What would YOU do?

in laws making sexual passes are wicked because overcoming those type of passes would be very difficult especially if the in law is very hot

How does thé person presents himself to the inlaws? émbarass the inlaw(s) nexttym

meetmonde: How does thé person presents himself to the inlaws? émbarass the inlaw(s) nexttym

yeah right dressing seductively like this mad skank

I will first give the in-law the warning of his life. If no changes after that, i will set him up.

Godmystrength: I will first give the in-law the warning of his life. If no changes after that, i will set him up.

How will you treat his fockup

Set him with incriminating pics of you and him?

What to do is to completely avoid the in-law.

If you live in their house, you should try and move out as quickly as possible. Like move out fast.

If you see them occasionally, then make sure you are never alone with that in law whenever he/she is around. Just try and always be in the midst of other people and lets see how they can make their offensive approach.

Lastly, please ensure you are not just making things up.

pickabeau1:

How will you treat his fockup

Set him with incriminating pics of you and him?

pictures of me and him ke? never never. that one can backfire o. I will definitely find a way out. The set up is just a back up in case hubby wants to doubt the authenticity of my claims meanwhile i would have informed hubby that something important is going on in our house that i will like him to know..... There must surely be a way out. but no pictures of me and him. NO NO NO.

Godmystrength: pictures of me and him ke? never never. that one can backfire o. I will definitely find a way out. The set up is just a back up in case hubby wants to doubt the authenticity of my claims meanwhile i would have informed hubby that something important is going on in our house that i will like him to know..... There must surely be a way out. but no pictures of me and him. NO NO NO.

.. i know that was not possible.. just messing with u

What particular measures will you use.. what if hubby no believe?

pickabeau1:

.. i know that was not possible.. just messing with u

What particular measures will you use.. what if hubby no believe?

I dunno o. Maybe i will get our conversation recorded on phone and then get some guys to help naked him, i pack his clothes and then lock him up in our matrimonial room. I then call hubby and and give him the key to the room to open by himself. If in-law tries to defend himself, the recorded conversation will come handy. I guess he will also have to explain what he is doing in our room naked.

Don't mind me o. I no get that kind mind. I will just report him to hubby and also avoid him as much as i can.
If he doesn't live with us, then i won't be opening the door for him whenever he comes visiting and hubby is not at home. Before one useless man will come and rape me. And i will also keep my children away from him before he will transfer the harassment to them. And when he comes visiting when hubby is around, the way i will attend to him, hubby sef will know that something is not right.

Are you Male or Female??

Godmystrength: I dunno o. Maybe i will get our conversation recorded on phone and then get some guys to help naked him, i pack his clothes and then lock him up in our matrimonial room. I then call hubby and and give him the key to the room to open by himself. If in-law tries to defend himself, the recorded conversation will come handy. I guess he will also have to explain what he is doing in our room naked.

Don't mind me o. I no get that kind mind. I will just report him to hubby and also avoid him as much as i can.
If he doesn't live with us, then i won't be opening the door for him whenever he comes visiting and hubby is not at home. Before one useless man will come and rape me. And i will also keep my children away from him before he will transfer the harassment to them. And when he comes visiting when hubby is around, the way i will attend to him, hubby sef will know that something is not right.

Are you Male or Female??

Thats a practical measure... using a recorder
The guys own can backfire.. make sure u use your brodas ooo...
I agree with your second statement.. avoidance is best

pickabeau1:

Thats a practical measure... using a recorder
The guys own can backfire.. make sure u use your brodas ooo...
I agree with your second statement.. avoidance is best

I won't want to use strangers now. They can turn around and stab me in the back. yes my brothers. I will just invite them without anyone's knowledge and once they are through, they will all disappear and we will all rehearse what to say when hubby calls any of them. we are going to create a VERY STRONG alibi.

Godmystrength: I won't want to use strangers now. They can turn around and stab me in the back. yes my brothers. I will just invite them without anyones knowledge and once they are through, they will all disappear and we will all rehearse what to say when hubby calls any of them. we are going to create a VERY STRONG alibi.

You sef na dagbo u be.. u are not soft meat

pickabeau1:

You sef na dagbo u be.. u are not soft meat

By the time we are through, the in-law won't know what hit him. mtscheeeeeew. He wants to chop what his brother is chopping. OLE

I ll tell my husband immediately and he will believe. I can't afford to be boxed into such nasty corners,too old for that shi*t.

Be very careful around him or anything concerning him.Avoid that in law like fly, or warn him seriously he will get the message.

Godmystrength: I won't want to use strangers now. They can turn around and stab me in the back. yes my brothers. I will just invite them without anyone's knowledge and once they are through, they will all disappear and we will all rehearse what to say when hubby calls any of them. we are going to create a VERY STRONG alibi.

The stress don dey too much nah

beeevan: I ll tell my husband immediately and he will believe. I can't afford to be boxed into such nasty corners,too old for that shi*t.

Hubby will believe me if i tell him. Just answered according to the Op's question.

zboyd: What do you do when an in-law makes s*xual passes at you?
Some unfortunate daughters/sons in-law find themselves in the uncomfortable position of fending off amorous in-laws. They feel confused, trapped and uncertain, as to how to handle the situation.
Should they continue to ignore/avoid their in-law's advances, tell their spouses and risk an all-out family war or, keep quiet, in the hopes the offending in-law will eventually lose interest in them and move on?
What if no one, including their spouses, believe them?
What would YOU do?

beeevan:



The stress don dey too much nah

No stress at all. All will have been put in place before we start shooting the film which won't even last more than some few minutes. Just some minutes phone calls and that's all...

beeevan: I ll tell my husband immediately and he will believe. I can't afford to be boxed into such nasty corners,too old for that shi*t.

Seconded, she should tell the husband in case he wants to try anything fishy

kulyie: yeah right dressing seductively like this mad skank

Is that lady in the picture for real??

Godmystrength: Not too much stress. All will have been put in place before we start shooting the film which won't even last more than some few minutes. Just some minutes phone calls and that's all...

Just telling will save all these stress, but it seems you have a taste for the dramatic

beeevan:


Just telling will save all these stress, but it seems you have a taste for the dramatic

I know telling will save all the stress. I am just answering OP's question.

You know like when you are asked to write an essay about your dog in English exam and you don't have a dog. I am sure you won't write there that ''I don't have a dog'' abi??

If my spouse doesn't believe and the offender doesn't live with us, who cares? if he does , my spouse doesn't believe and I feel endangered , once I tell my dad church go close .

Godmystrength: I know telling will save all the stress. I am just answering OP's question.

You know like when you are asked to write an essay about your dog in English exam and you don't have a dog. I am sure you won't write there that ''I don't have a dog'' abi??

Yeah right, Gotcha!

beeevan: If my spouse doesn't believe and the offender doesn't live with us, who cares? if he does , my spouse doesn't believe and I feel endangered , once I tell my dad church go close .

When i was a teenager, i once had the experience with an uncle-in-law. He was married to my aunty (my dad's youngest sister). When the man started all the nonsense, i just called my mum and dad and told them straight. wetin concern me then? But thank God my parent handled it maturely but na serious matter o.

Godmystrength: When i was a teenager, i once had the experience with an uncle-in-law. He was married to my aunty (my dad's youngest sister). When the man started all the nonsense, i just called my mum and dad and told them straight. wetin concern me then? But thank God my parent handled it maturely but na serious matter o.

You really did well, most people will be too scared to speak up, did your aunty get to know?

I will give a stern warning and avoid him. If he persists, will get proof and let my parents know about it. But i trust that my stern warning is enough to kill whatever vibes he is creating.

beeevan:



You really did well, most people will be too scared to speak up, did your aunty get to know?

I think she got to know but not through my parents sha./It seems my dad reported him to one of my uncles(my dad's immediate younger brother). He said it is just for the record. SO it now happened that this same uncle-in-law now came to our house the next Xmas eve to come take my younger ones(all girls) to spend Xmas with them and my parents refused him without giving any reason. So maybe my aunty tried reporting my dad to that my uncle and that one(not nice at all) now told her that oh so she wants her husband to give all of us belle abi? and that was it. I think she just got the message.

Ignored it. She got the message and stopped.

Godmystrength: I think she got to know but not through my parents sha./It seems my dad reported him to one of my uncles(my dad's immediate younger brother). He said it is just for the record. SO it now happened that this same uncle-in-law now came to our house the next Xmas eve to come take my younger ones(all girls) to spend Xmas with them and my parents refused him without giving any reason. So maybe my aunty tried reporting my dad to that my uncle and that one(not nice at all) now told her that oh so he wants her husband to give all of us belle abi? and that was it. I think she just got the message.

Your parents should have spoke up,why do Africans prefer to hide atrocious things and let it fester?