Godmystrength the reason why the sexually abused doesn't speak up is that the offender usually go free, they will claim it was treated as family matter.

beeevan: If my spouse doesn't believe and the offender doesn't live with us, who cares? if he does , my spouse doesn't believe and I feel endangered , once I tell my dad church go close .

lol that's right,It is the next thing to do if hubby dosnt believe. Dad is almost like second hubby.

The right thing to do is to immediately report him or her. Every other 'I will avoid' or 'I go set am up' will backfire somehow.Why?Well,such a person won't back out and will look for ways to get at you.

Just report the person.It is not just the right thing to do,it what loyalty and trust demand.

apolonius: The right thing to do is to immediately report him or her. Every other 'I will avoid' or 'I go set am up' will backfire somehow.Why?Well,such a person won't back out and will look for ways to get at you.

Just report the person.It is not just the right thing to do,it what loyalty and trust demand.

In my experience most people that report such cases without hard evidence have the case turned back on them. Its a family member you are reporting not a stranger! The impulse is to believe the person you have known all your life instead of the new member of the family.
I think its better to discreetly report yo someone you are close to and trust, and then either avoid or seek concrete evidence first.

5minsmadness:
In my experience most people that report such cases without hard evidence have the case turned back on them. Its a family member you are reporting not a stranger! The impulse is to believe the person you have known all your life instead of the new member of the family.
I think its better to discreetly report yo someone you are close to and trust, and then either avoid or seek concrete evidence first.

Personally, I will prefer an immediate report than my wife or daughter doing any other thing which I will react to in clear and unforgettable ways.

beeevan:


Your parents should have spoke up,why do Africans prefer to hide atrocious things and let it fester?

I don't know why o. But my dad told my uncle who later told my aunty and her husband. But what should they have even done? Like call a family meeting or talk to the in-law himself?

apolonius: The right thing to do is to immediately report him or her. Every other 'I will avoid' or 'I go set am up' will backfire somehow.Why?Well,such a person won't back out and will look for ways to get at you.

Just report the person.It is not just the right thing to do,it what loyalty and trust demand.

Godmystrength: I know telling will save all the stress. I am just answering OP's question.
You know like when you are asked to write an essay about your dog in English exam and you don't have a dog. I am sure you won't write there that ''I don't have a dog'' abi??

Which ever way you decide to address it, it won't stop a devilish in-law from looking for ways to get at you. If after reporting and hubby doesn't believe, then evidence is needed. All the dramatic stuff is when hubby doesn't still believe after reporting. If hubby believes you then no need to go extra mile of getting evidence.

I REPORTED THEM TO THEIR WIVES IMMEDIATELY!!!!!
Right in front of them!!!!
I don't play dat!

Godmystrength: I don't know why o. But my dad told my uncle who later told my aunty and her husband. But what should they have even done? Like call a family meeting or talk to the in-law himself?

My dear.... the embarrassment on his face would have been priceless if they summoned him .

beeevan: My dear.... the embarrassment on his face would have been priceless if they summoned him .

That is like death sentence o

Godmystrength: Is that lady in the picture for real??

yes

kulyie: yes

diaris God o