cococandy: His wife abandoned him with their two kids and traveled abroad.
Hearsay has it that she's hooked up with someone else now.
Although they are not legally divorced yet.
can he influence her deportation back to Nigeria?
Note:he doesn't want to continue the marriage with her just wants to punish her for her wickedness.
Is there a way to get her deported?

pickabeau1: What do you think? as a friend of the person

I think he should move on and forget about her

When time is due, legally divorce ..

cococandy: Well he's human. I can't say I understand how he feels.
Because she cleaned him out financially before she left.
He sold his shop,the land on which it was built and his car.
Paid the money into an account they were supposed to use on getting there not knowing that all along she's been planning with the agent to get the visa only for herself as against the whole family visa which was their initial plan.

Now he's a bus driver and kids pulled out of private school to public school.
I understand if he's bitter.

Besides she may never come back. When is the right time to file for divorce?

cococandy: Well he's human. I can't say I understand how he feels.
Because she cleaned him out financially before she left.
He sold his shop,the land on which it was built and his car.
Paid the money into an account they were supposed to use on getting there not knowing that all along she's been planning with the agent to get the visa only for herself as against the whole family visa which was their initial plan.

Now he's a bus driver and kids pulled out of private school to public school.
I understand if he's bitter.

Besides she may never come back. When is the right time to file for divorce?

dytbabe: One thing I know is women act for a reason, I won't judge

He shld pls channel all the strength on the kids and be a better dad, favour will smile on him soon, if she's the faulty one, she will surely pay in due time.

God of these days strikes faster.

dytbabe: One thing I know is women act for a reason, I won't judge

pickabeau1:

What reason do you think can justify the action of the woman above?

An0nimus:
Ouch. Didn't see this before. Heartless does not even describe his wife's deed. It's understandable if he chooses to make her pay seeing the scenario above. I still believe Karma will surely visit the woman some day.

pickabeau1:

Youcan be divorced on the basis of abandonment after 2 years . i think
Revenge will take his efforts from the prirorities at hand and will alienate people who even will want to favour him
Advise him to move on

Tallesty1: Sometimes the reason is because they are stupid and heartless.

cococandy: I'm just wondering is there no law that makes the deed criminal?
Something he can hold onto while pursuing the case.
I know it might be difficult,but I think he'll be willing

dytbabe:
Am sure not u nor I can say

pickabeau1:

What reason do you think can justify the action of the woman above?


I agree with your comment on channelling his strength to his kids

Do you think God strikes fast.. i think He is extremely merciful

pickabeau1:

Do you think God strikes fast.. why u think so

dytbabe: One thing I know is women act for a reason, I won't judge

dytbabe:



Not like am in support of her actions o, totally wrong and hrtless, bt who knows.

pickabeau1:

which particular deed?,, the leaving or the fraud?
A lawyer is best to provide the time frame but i heard 2 years somewhere...

cococandy:

Not in this case my sister.
You'll cringe if you hear the full story.

Seeing the man now having lost so much weight,I feel so sorry for him.
He trained this girl in nursing school too.
they married while she was in school.
She met him through the man's former girlfriend who was her friend.
Managed to snatch the guy from her friend.

Married him and he sent her to nursing school.

Trained her until she finished got a job while he was still doing his business.

They would have done well if she loved him.
But things fell apart when she came up with the 'brilliant' idea of them relocating abroad since nurses make good money over there.

No one saw this coming.

Tallesty1: She get luck say the guy no wicked else he 4 don wear her iron-pant.

cococandy:

Not in this case my sister.
You'll cringe if you hear the full story.

Seeing the man now having lost so much weight,I feel so sorry for him.
He trained this girl in nursing school too.
they married while she was in school.
She met him through the man's former girlfriend who was her friend.
Managed to snatch the guy from her friend.

Married him and he sent her to nursing school.

Trained her until she finished got a job while he was still doing his business.

They would have done well if she loved him.
But things fell apart when she came up with the 'brilliant' idea of them relocating abroad since nurses make good money over there.

No one saw this coming.

dytbabe: One thing I know is women act for a reason, I won't judge

edwife:

That is where is own Karma came visiting

The former girlfriend might be feeling in the mood!

cococandy:

Not in this case my sister.
You'll cringe if you hear the full story.

Seeing the man now having lost so much weight,I feel so sorry for him.
He trained this girl in nursing school too.
they married while she was in school.
She met him through the man's former girlfriend who was her friend.
Managed to snatch the guy from her friend.

Married him and he sent her to nursing school.

Trained her until she finished and got a job while he was still doing his business.

They would have done well if she loved him.
But things fell apart when she came up with the 'brilliant' idea of them relocating abroad since nurses make good money over there.

No one saw this coming.

pickabeau1: i think He is extremely merciful

cococandy: I'm just wondering is there no law that makes the deed criminal?
Something he can hold onto while pursuing the case.
I know it might be difficult,but I think he'll be willing

cococandy: Na wa sha.
I don't know what to say.
But people break up all the time.
If so karma go dey follow all of us around na

apolonius: What did he do that a loving wife will abandon him and the kids to run into vast uncertainty? I qualified her as 'loving' because it takes some love to have conceived,kept and raised kids! Did he abuse her?

well as far as I know, he didn't harm or hurt her in any way. Even before her father died,he used to warn the lady and her mother and siblings about the way they were going about the marriage. The would come to the man's shop and pack whatever they wanted for their personal use with no regard for account or his profit. I'm sure he must be rolling in his grave that his daughter did something like this..

Well,he should move on as she is sure to face the justice of time.Time is one phenomenon I know that delivers the most assured justice. She will come back pleading in no long a time. Of course,if he has not consistently hurt her. As men we easily take our prized women for granted until the consequences are too late to manage.

I understand sha but he's one of the good guys. From what I could see anyway.

In the interim,find love again and pay attention to the kids psyche to be sure they are healing from her 'porting'. Yes,genuinely find love again as this is one thing I know that shatters any ex.

ok

edwife:

Dear,you said snatched!

Not break up. Do you know how far his previous relationship might have gone?What she might have done for him?

How messy it might have been? Let him check well!

I sympathize with him though,i hate any woman or man who abandon their families.Silly if you ask me.

An0nimus:
Hard to say really as this is a family case and the wife is already out of the country. Personally, I'm not a fan of court cases due to our very wonderful Judicial system. Your friend could seek legal advise for starters. He should also be ready to invest good time and other resources if he wants to pursue this. Its the kids I worry for.