snthesis: yea, i kinda like her, but im considering the pros/con b4 getting really really serious

pickabeau1:

What do u do

pickabeau1: if u have issues with a womans profession but feel yours is not an issue...Dont bother...

snthesis:
common, are u kidding me

d woman runs the home mehn!!! haba if both of us are out, wu looks after the Children?

pickabeau1:
What do u do

aisha2:

The Poster is a part time dreamer and script writer, one point he had a hot wife who got a job working on shore and he wasnt sure if he should let her accept the job.

Another time he wanted to choose between getting married and buying a range rover.

Now he is dating a career lady. Chai.

aisha2:

The Poster is a part time dreamer and script writer, one point he had a hot wife who got a job working on shore and he wasnt sure if he should let her accept the job.

Another time he wanted to choose between getting married and buying a range rover.

Now he is dating a career lady. Chai.

richyblink1: Think you are still having difficulty understanding the real meaning of marriage, commitment, togetherness and sacrifice.

I and my better half works in the aforementioned sector. She comes back later than you mentioned because of tràfic and the section she works. I on the other hand closes around 5:30/6 daily, and gets home latest 6 because of proximity.

For the past 1year, i take care of meals and house chores from Monday to Friday, while she take over Saturdays and Sundays. I have never complained or grumble. I always feel on top of the world while cooking for her. You need to see the type of prayers and peck I get each time she comes home to see that I have washed the dishes and prepare dinner for her. Not minding the fact that I have to stay hungry most times till she returns so we can eat together.

Broo, if you truly understand the rudiments of love, marriage and togetherness, you will notice one thing, Sacrifice (tolerance, endurance and selflessness)

snthesis:

tanx bruv, this is the kind of insightful post i'm looking for. i have a question or two

1. whats your take on having children? who looks after them?
2. would you/her sacrifice career over raising the family? or just sacrifice family over career

richyblink1:

1. After her 3 months maternity leave, her mom will still be around till the baby is a bit strong for daycare.
2. Raising family is not a career nor a full time job, it's an obligation attached to parenthood. A man gat to do what he gat to do. Likewise a woman

richyblink1: Think you are still having difficulty understanding the real meaning of marriage, commitment, togetherness and sacrifice.

I and my better half works in the aforementioned sector. She comes back later than you mentioned because of tràfic and the section she works. I on the other hand closes around 5:30/6 daily, and gets home latest 6 because of proximity.

For the past 1year, i take care of meals and house chores from Monday to Friday, while she take over Saturdays and Sundays. I have never complained or grumble. I always feel on top of the world while cooking for her. You need to see the type of prayers and peck I get each time she comes home to see that I have washed the dishes and prepare dinner for her. Not minding the fact that I have to stay hungry most times till she returns so we can eat together.

Broo, if you truly understand the rudiments of love, marriage and togetherness, you will notice one thing, Sacrifice (tolerance, endurance and selflessness)

snthesis:

im sorry to say, that isnt thinking it through, i have an experience of a couple currently facing this challenge, the husband wants her to resign to take care of the baby, and she is holding so much resentment towards him right now.

another colleague of mine, doesnt see her children till weekend, reason being that she leaves the home before they wake up and gets home wen they are fast asleep, shes is a stranger in her home, hence my reason for creating this thread isnt it better to address this fully prior to marriage or like my case just go for a chic with a less demanding job

snthesis:

im sorry to say, that isnt thinking it through, i have an experience of a couple currently facing this challenge, the husband wants her to resign to take care of the baby, and she is holding so much resentment towards him right now.

another colleague of mine, doesnt see her children till weekend, reason being that she leaves the home before they wake up and gets home wen they are fast asleep, shes is a stranger in her home, hence my reason for creating this thread isnt it better to address this fully prior to marriage or like my case just go for a chic with a less demanding job

richyblink1:

Don't tell me you are actually thinking of asking her to quit her job or something. Days are gone when women sacrifice their hard earned cert because of marriage or inferiority complex.

Or are you actually trying to tell us that you are one of those men who believe women are less of a human to a man. Until you understand that women equally have blood flowing through their veins, have younger ones, mother, father, and relatives to equally take care of, you will start seeing her as you see yourself.

Until we (men) start seeing our wife's as we see ourselves, treat them with respect, accord them certain privileges without sentiment of them being weaker vessels, our homes will keep being a war zone

MarvellousGod: wowww...this is one of the best posts I hv read on nl, was even smiling while reading it ... This is a man who knows the true meaning of love and marriage..God bless your home

Chillisauce:
Oh me too.
I was even crying . Now I believe there is still hope. Though they he still fall in my 1 %.
* now hand over the handkerchief*

aisha2:

Hiannnnn oh, sharing handkerchief in these days of ebola, oya oh

Chillisauce:


Ebola ke. You didn't even say the yama yama that will follow the handkerchief.
Ewwww.

aisha2: https://www.nairaland.com/1350826/should-get-married-buy-range
dear NL members,
i need your advice.
i am in my late 20's got a good payin Job, unfortuntely/fortunately met a beautiful angel 5months ago ( twasnt planned). a few hours ago was almost tempted to ask her to marry me, but sum1 interrupted our blues.
so I'm back home, and contemplating my decision to settle down,
economically, it would involve
1. moving out of my rent free abode- accommodation (2yrs+ Agency) =1.9million naira
2. furnishing = 1million naira
3. wedding hall = 1million naira
4. entertainment of guest (traditional + white wedding) = 1million naira
5. Honeymoon tinz = 1million naira
grand total for settling down = 5.9million naira

alternatively
i cud just buy a tokunmbo Range Rover = 3.5million naira and use the change to be a "Bigs Boy"

i have the said money, so i aint sourcing, so pls by fellow NL members what should i Do, PROPOSE, marry, and settle down or buy a RANGE rOVER AND BE A bIGZ bOY. undecided

Hi everyone.
i need some serious advice urgently, my wife is a nurse she just got an offer for a new job, the salary for one month is enough to pay our houserent for the year. I am also working, but money from her side would improve our lifestyles- dats why i encouraged her not to resign.
the problem is my wife is super hot and i rushed into marrying cos i didnt want anyone to have her- i guard her seriously, but this new job is giving me nightmares -couldnt sleep throughout the night. she's still waiting for my approval, should i let her go or not?

p.s
she got a job to work as a nurse on an offshore platform- 3weeks on, one week off. and i've heard so much about those Hot engineers(and they also have lots of money to splash around), imagine my sweet angel alone with all those men. sad sad sad sad

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pickabeau1: richyblink1
Quitting her current job maynot mean he wants a housewife
However he has not said much so i dont blame you for your assumptions

snthesis:

yea u understand my point of view, i was simply asking if it is viable dating sum1 having a busy if not busier work schedule than me. Also if you are such a relationship how are you handling it? any regrets?

snthesis:
pls if you are/have similar challenges, kindly share, also do you advise i break-up, cos i cant deal with this right now .

.......yeah- she works in the banking sector